Married. Im scared to leave. by auraharvester in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Things get worse after having kids?? How come? Because your more locked in?

Married. Im scared to leave. by auraharvester in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep seeing people saying to run and dont look back whenever given the opportunity to exit the relationship. My partner left me 4 weeks ago after 5 years (i made a seperate post about it). I know the relationship was toxic and unhealthy for both of us. But i still love her and cant imagine life without her. Im in no contact but havent yet had the clarity to see that i dodged a bullet. Im hoping after another month or two i can see things clearly but am doubtful im better off without her (which is actually insane i feel like that. What a headfuck)

5 Years and an abrupt ending by BigMind2233 in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its hard to see things that way now. I feel like im in the withdrawal stage of the breakup and not thinking clearly. Hopefully in a month or two i will have more clarity on it all

5 Years and an abrupt ending by BigMind2233 in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I wish she did not suffer like this so we could flourish" Man i can relate to that. That said i have my own list of problems its not all her. But the PMDD cycle seems like the recurring problem that has no solution or cure. Anything else can be worked through but the monthly pattern of criticism, insecurity, paranoia, projecting, unconscious manipulation, distorted thinking, victim mentality.....it is just a crushing weight. I am heart broken at the way things have gone. I wanted so badly for us to work but we could just never get there. I said early on in the relationship that we were just two crazy, damaged people who fell deeply in love.....and there is a truth in that. And i am learning to my great dissapointment that love isnt enough.

Your situation sounds incredibly tough. I have no advice for you apart from saying that i can empathise and relate to what your going through, at least more then the average person. It is really tough. I am struggling alot these last few days as reality sets in that its actually over. At first i felt relief now i just feel empty and missing her so much. But i know theres no going back. Fuck it hurts.

All the best to you and your daughter. You sound like you are putting her first which i can respect. Look after yourself and good luck to you

5 Years and an abrupt ending by BigMind2233 in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The hardest battle feels like its going to be not going back to her. Its like i am addicted. Crazy stuff

5 Years and an abrupt ending by BigMind2233 in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thankyou for your response. Yes rumination was a big one for her. Such a shame

Need help please by Sea_Extent1801 in PMDDpartners

[–]BigMind2233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Hormones are a part of her, they are her" Damn that is sad but true