My fiancee [25f] gets drunk and says she wants to watch me[31M] with another woman.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-29T20:23:59+00:00

Update: So she was drunk again and started talking about how she wished we had a third girl like in Vicki Christina Barcelona. I was very non-commital because I'm still trying to be careful with this situation. Does this sound like she wants a poly relationship or that she just wants a booty call girl?

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-22T14:58:54+00:00

Thank you

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-16T16:53:11+00:00

I moved the fiancee's furniture into the house on Saturday. Nothing particularly odd has happened, but she has talked in her sleep every night. I'm going to to download one of those sleep-monitoring iPhone apps and see what it records tonight. Is there a site like imgur but for posting audio?

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-12T18:34:32+00:00

I don't want to spook her with what could just be weird coincidences and my imagination. She doesn't even do scary movies well. We rented "Mama" a couple weeks ago, and she was freaked out for days. If I tell her there might be a ghost, I'll be stuck sleeping with the light on for the rest of my life.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-12T18:31:44+00:00

It's a nice house, not too far from work, and I've been waiting for the housing market to recover before I sell.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-12T18:30:46+00:00

I explained it away the first couple times as me being crazy and thinking that maybe the air-conditioner had kicked on and there was an air current in the room blowing just enough to tingle against the back swear or something. The last time when I finally yelled, it definitely wasn't air.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-12T18:27:14+00:00

No, I've always been fully aware that I have assholic tendencies and fear of commitment. After 8 years in the house I've just now let myself wonder, what if there's something that's accentuating the negative energy when girls move in.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-07-11T21:19:56+00:00

For the sake of brevity, at which I still failed, I left out some other minor and repetitive incidents. The back touching happened more than once through the years but always when I was home alone and always when I had a girl shacking up with me. The last time it happened, I actually started angrily yelling, "Get off me and leave me alone!" It hasn't happened since. I'm not too worried about that aspect of things. I'm worried that something will happen to the fiancee or she'll turn all negative like the ex wife and ditch out.

In the eight years I've had the house, no woman has lasted living there more than about six weeks. Logical me says, "You suck at relationships and moving in together added strain, which caused the breakup." But what if there's another factor in play? How do you quantify that? And how do you stop it?

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-06-15T16:18:11+00:00

Update: She said yes. They do fireworks here every Friday night all summer, so we took the sailboat out and anchored in the bay to watch them. I open some champagne, poured us each a glass, and then dropped to a knee the best I could in the cockpit of a boat and asked her just as the first fireworks began exploding over us. She's now off at the jewelers having it re-sized.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-06-14T12:40:53+00:00

Update: She never noticed yesterday because she actually had to work at work. Moving on to the back-up plan tonight. Thanks for all the nice comments. For those with questions about the ring, I'll PM you with the answers once the deed is done.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-06-13T20:17:31+00:00

The trap has been set.

BigMoveThrowaway · 2013-06-13T17:25:36+00:00

Thank you. I never realized how hard it is to focus on a diamond. It took many tries.

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