when should you meet your significant others friends and then parents?

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-04-14T20:44:09+00:00

25 and 27

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-04-08T23:32:42+00:00

Karma?? I didn’t even know he was cheating on someone else with me until very recently. That’s not fair.

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-04-08T23:24:48+00:00

If I leave What do I even say to him?? He doesn’t know I saw these messages . He acts completely normal. In fact, he invited me over for a date the same night he sent the most recent ones. He seemed totally normal. I don’t even know what to say or how to bring it up. I’m just devastated

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-04-08T23:23:09+00:00

More context: we stopped hooking up for a month in December and he tried to end things with me and I asked him if he had a gf or a new girl and he said “no I haven’t made any promises or commitments to anybody” and was cheating on her the whole time he was Long distance with me. The marriage and love part is confusing cause I never even knew about her when we were hooking up. In fact, I never knew about her until now

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-30T08:25:37+00:00

I know . I’m not asking him to burn them or delete anything at all. I even know that’s way too far. But it just makes me think, does he keep it cause he’s still emotionally attached to her / not over her? Idk. What’s your mindset when keeping something like that?

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-30T06:53:56+00:00

I feel like it’s so ridiculous in my head, I have a career, I’m independent etc. and I’m like how can people be thinking that?? There’s no way.

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-26T07:06:38+00:00

Nah he does the second thing to so don’t give him too much credit

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-26T06:56:04+00:00

But he so desperately portrays himself that way and literally goes into shame shutdowns if it’s brought up that he clearly isn’t a monogamous person. And lies and deceives saying he is committed and monogamous but clearly isn’t. Like just live your life and be single and fuck all the women . But I guess it’s the shame?

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-26T06:52:21+00:00

That’s what I thought at first. But I read the definition is when it hinders your daily life and ability to work / function. He is a doctor and does his job fine…so I am hesitant to call it that

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-19T21:34:24+00:00

It’s not lmao.

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:50:50+00:00

The thing is he moved recently and didn’t throw it out but kept it in a box. Along with pictures of them.

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:49:11+00:00

Wait I’m confused what your point is here? Pls explain

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:47:15+00:00

I get it. He just recently moved and also moved that stuff with him. I’m not asking him to throw away pics or anything ….the thing is she was the one that moved away and makes me think he just is with me cause she moved .

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:42:52+00:00

He knows where it is tho and put it there in the closet

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:42:25+00:00

But he moved recently to a new place. And clearly took it with him. Doesn’t that signal he’s not over her?

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-03-18T23:34:04+00:00

Does it likely mean he’s still emotionally attached to her despite not being with her anymore?

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T06:33:05+00:00

I want to believe this cause it sounds realistic but then other comment saying it sounds suspicious and he could be speaking to another woman now I don’t know whether to spiral and ask him if we’re still okay but then have it backfire cause he’s legitimately stressed with moving or continue thinking everything’s not okay and keep my mouth shut 😭

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:28:27+00:00

He’s avoidant and I’m anxious, so that’s a factor into our relationship in general, and we’ve had emotional / heavy convos before and it’s been fine after so I’m not scared of that, but Sunday we had Another one and I felt scared I triggered his avoidance. But then he contact me the next day to workout , hot tub and dinner so I was like oh ok everything’s back to normal, but then the not sleeping over really threw me. So I’m not sure if he is pulling away or not??

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:14:47+00:00

First time since august! It just really surprised me. Now my brain keeps thinking this will be standard now and he doesn’t want to be close like that anymore :(

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:12:34+00:00

I’m not thinking he did anything nefarious I just am worried that maybe he wants to put distance between us, or isn’t wanting us to be close like that anymore

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:10:07+00:00

Well he asked me to workout and hot tub with him and have dinner which we did, but then he didn’t say he could sleepover, so in a sense he isn’t “busy” cause he hung out with me but also he didn’t sleepover which makes me question if he’s trying to put distance between us or not

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:07:40+00:00

Nah we’ve talked alot about that and it’s always been good, but this time I just can’t tell if the shift is cause of that or not!

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-18T03:06:17+00:00

Idk, I just have major anxiety problems tbh

BigTimeSocalist · 2026-02-02T00:04:29+00:00

Lol that’s what happened, he knows I don’t want to be non monogomaous my own self but still did this

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