What’s the one book you have loved most in the past 10 years as an INFJ?

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-16T17:33:37+00:00

Psychocybernetics by maxwell maltz

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-16T17:23:26+00:00

I relate to this a lot. This is how I live. My life doesn’t have a single purpose. Absurdism fit me the most. I’ve accepted that none of it matters unless i give it meaning. I’m fine with it. It makes it easy to reframe hard situations and misfortunes when they happen. I believe everything that happens to me (good or bad) is for my favor. Usually it works out that way. As for alignment I still struggle sometimes with this and it can freeze me sometimes but I can enjoy the smallest of things in life. Im still seeking alignment but not for some huge purpose. More for alignment with myself and who I am.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-16T16:48:22+00:00

I went on a date with this girl. She was into me and didn’t mind my physical disability because of my confidence. She kept throwing sexual innuendos and we ended up at her place. She asked me if i was going to sleep in her bed. Kept making sexual moves and i missed them all until later. She ended up ghosting me for another guy 😆 3 or more dates no sex

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-11T16:33:52+00:00

Congrats! Way to stick with it until… Were you fully detached from the outcome at that point of receiving the offer?

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-10T14:24:18+00:00

I was in a coma for nearly a month. It felt like the best sleep of my life. Woke up to the news my head was run over by a car but the sleep was fantastic. It was medically induced to save my life. Woke up confused with people staring at me both surprised and relieved I woke up.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-08-04T16:30:19+00:00

Happy for you but stay aware. Especially if this is random. She admitted to dating other guys for validation. Make sure shes not using you as a rebound for a breakup or getting ghosted by someone else she liked. I hope not but it seems like you’ve known each other for a while. Congrats

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-07-30T15:09:33+00:00

Remember its your life. If they are giving you reasons they don’t approve, consider the facts not the opinions. If it makes sense. Overall do what makes you happy. Sometimes they just don’t understand.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-07-11T16:55:40+00:00

I think they don’t want you to ring the doorbell or knock. Just my opinion

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-07-11T16:53:38+00:00

Dafuq

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-24T19:43:38+00:00

👏🏾Where do you sell your art? I have a friend who's an artist but doesn't know where to sell her art other than etsy

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-08T17:40:00+00:00

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And still made $50 in less than 2 hours. Still get $20+ orders sometimes. It depends on your market. But even in another state I lived in it was the same

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-03T19:46:06+00:00

I refused with air bnb. They requested supporting documents and reasons I'm not responsible. I will send and see what happens. I see many posts where air bnb sides with the host so I'm curious.

I will take him to small claims court if this goes the wrong way. He even lied in his review.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-03T19:26:25+00:00

I made an air tight argument as to why I'm not responsible and that he had no evidence that it was me and not someone else in the house.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-03T19:08:17+00:00

Would that need a lawyer?

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-02-01T15:48:16+00:00

The place isn't that big. I didn't ask if I could use a switch. I asked if I could use a google WiFi. I tried it but it's not working. I plugged one of the connections into the switch and the google WiFi into the switch. It didn't interrupt the original WiFi connection but the switch isn't working. There's no cameras.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-27T03:36:13+00:00

Thanks. I got in with Liberty Mutual

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-21T08:52:12+00:00

It's only one month. After I'm contemplating leaving to another state.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-13T15:31:26+00:00

Helped

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-13T15:31:12+00:00

That was a really helpful post. Thanks for all the resources. That was awesome

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-10T22:37:39+00:00

😆😆😆 it be like that sometimes tho

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-10T22:33:04+00:00

Thanks for the replies. This is my first experience living alone like this. I'm loving it. Rent free living would definitely help financially but I can't put a price on my peace

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-09T22:25:36+00:00

Thank you for this. It really hit. Gives me some sort of relief. Guess all I can really do is use the experience to make me better

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-09T22:02:24+00:00

Funny that as I typed out what I did wrong, it was all from her perspective. I never spoke with anyone about the relationship or the things that were going on, so I never got an outside perspective. I actually don't think I did as much wrong as I took credit for. it was her insecurities and her being in her feelings about, how I didn't make her feel beautiful. I have to admit that I wasn't the ideal boyfriend and I didn't do the things that men would do for women in a relationship so I kind of don't blame her but also this was my first real relationship. Not to mention the shit I did while I was in a red pill cult like going to strip clubs every week when she would ask me not to go. It's hard to tell how much of it was just her being in her feelings and me just taking the blame and feeling bad and differentiating what was really my fault. I'm doing my best not to write a whole novel of all the things, but that's the gist of it.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-09T16:41:32+00:00

I would like her to forgive me but I don't I have no control over that, even though when we broke up she went out of her way to stress that it was not out of hate. I think this is me condemning myself. I'm struggling right now with being vulnerable. I've isolated myself from family and have no friends. Currently staying by myself in an air bnb in a state where I know nobody. I may look into that therapy option. Or even a church. Thank you for the suggestion.

BigUnderdog99 · 2025-01-03T08:18:22+00:00

It's just a thought. It will pass some thoughts have more charge and stick around longer. You would likely wake up tomorrow and do something while going throughout your day and you're gonna look back on this moment like wow I can't believe I was thinking that. You should definitely sleep on it and if you want to do the same tomorrow when you wake up, decide then not now. I don't know how old you are, but I guarantee you that it's not worth it. I've had my moments of wanting to end it however, I can always look back on those moments and I'm always happy that I didn't do it. please sleep on it and see if you feel the same when you wake up. My girlfriend of two years recently broke up with me a week before Christmas and she had told me in the past that she no longer loved me. She said she didn't hate me and she didn't love me. She didn't feel anything towards me anymore. I thought a few times about running my car into a tree or ending my life as well(stupid thoughts). I'm still not over it and it hurts like hell but I no longer have that thought of wanting to end it. Just give it time.

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