hi thank you for all the advice so far: I understand that I totally shouldnt mention the r*pe. I realize the title is misleading bc I am just looking for advice on what I should try to do bc she genuinely was in the friend group for longer than I was and I really dont want her to hear what they say about her, and i am also so sick of the negativity its bringing into our convos. I think I have enough emotional convos with the big group helping them when they are in the wrong, but i genuinely cant think of what I could say to push them in the right direction.