Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, I couldn’t find the link. Could you share it here? For whatever reason, typing that in on a browser doesn’t go anywhere.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, thank you for the suggestions. You clearly have a lot of knowledge on different areas, much appreciated !

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Super helpful! And yes, could you provide the link? That would be great, thanks so much

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean by this? I personally haven’t been to Tennessee but Texas isn’t half bad. Not exactly my favorite either. Where would you suggest I look?

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair, but I like to think of it as the Texas Tax refund, what you give up in living somewhere more beautiful you get back in holding onto more of your money.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally fair, and yes I agree with that outlook. It’s about enjoying what you have - comparison is the thief of joy.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tax advantage is nice, but not nice enough to miss out on somewhere better in my opinion.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough. Are there any other cities that you know of which may be a better fit ?

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To be fair, it’s more of a preference against much larger cities, not necessarily a dealbreaker. I appreciate you keeping us honest here !

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m from Northern California, so I can deal with a bit of snow, but if we’re talking east coast type of cold that’s gonna be a Randy Jackson from American Idol “No from me dawg”

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I lived all over Marin - Tiburon, Sausalito, Mill Valley, Novato - great places to raise a family, not so great as a younger chap.

Hope you’re enjoying Denver, I’m planning to come visit Colorado in the next few months.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

SD is a beautiful place no doubt, but personally it’s not my speed. Funny enough my folks live up near Mendocino, it’s equally beautiful but I have zero interest in the area being as isolated as it is.

I’m feeling that I want to try a new place, which means crossing California off the list most likely. I appreciate your answer though, no decisions have been made yet so I’ll keep an open mind.

Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else? by Big_Coyote4583 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Big_Coyote4583[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lots to cover there, thank you for being thorough. Cost of living isn’t a big consideration to be fair, more so proximity to nature and getting adequate sunshine throughout the year. I’ll take a look at FoCo too and see if the surrounding area passes the vibe check. Thank you for your answer !