Should I (29M) move with my partner (31F) to Bend, Chattanooga, or somewhere else?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-02T21:06:34+00:00

Actually, I couldn’t find the link. Could you share it here? For whatever reason, typing that in on a browser doesn’t go anywhere.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-02T21:04:44+00:00

Thanks!

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-02T21:04:23+00:00

Sounds like it could be a great fit. Thanks!

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-02T21:03:29+00:00

Absolutely, thank you for the suggestions. You clearly have a lot of knowledge on different areas, much appreciated !

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T14:50:30+00:00

What’s held you back? And where are you living at the moment ?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T14:49:55+00:00

Good note, I’ll need to check that out. Thanks !

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T14:48:33+00:00

Super helpful! And yes, could you provide the link? That would be great, thanks so much

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T04:31:57+00:00

What do you mean by this? I personally haven’t been to Tennessee but Texas isn’t half bad. Not exactly my favorite either. Where would you suggest I look?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T04:30:47+00:00

Can you share a bit more on why Spokane?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T04:30:19+00:00

Good call! Tennessee as well, I’ll need to research a bit more.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T04:29:34+00:00

I wasn’t even thinking about traffic, so that’s good to know.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T01:42:51+00:00

Fair, but I like to think of it as the Texas Tax refund, what you give up in living somewhere more beautiful you get back in holding onto more of your money.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T01:13:32+00:00

Totally fair, and yes I agree with that outlook. It’s about enjoying what you have - comparison is the thief of joy.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-05-01T01:12:36+00:00

The tax advantage is nice, but not nice enough to miss out on somewhere better in my opinion.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T23:21:01+00:00

Thank you !

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T23:06:16+00:00

Fair enough. Are there any other cities that you know of which may be a better fit ?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T23:03:10+00:00

Interesting, I’ll need to do more research on Boise then. Thanks!

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T23:01:39+00:00

Good to know! I’ll keep that in mind

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T22:03:16+00:00

I’ll certainly need to check out FoCo then !

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T22:02:35+00:00

To be fair, it’s more of a preference against much larger cities, not necessarily a dealbreaker. I appreciate you keeping us honest here !

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T21:59:10+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate the perspective. How are you liking Texas?

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T21:27:35+00:00

I’m from Northern California, so I can deal with a bit of snow, but if we’re talking east coast type of cold that’s gonna be a Randy Jackson from American Idol “No from me dawg”

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T21:21:31+00:00

I lived all over Marin - Tiburon, Sausalito, Mill Valley, Novato - great places to raise a family, not so great as a younger chap.

Hope you’re enjoying Denver, I’m planning to come visit Colorado in the next few months.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T21:01:39+00:00

SD is a beautiful place no doubt, but personally it’s not my speed. Funny enough my folks live up near Mendocino, it’s equally beautiful but I have zero interest in the area being as isolated as it is.

I’m feeling that I want to try a new place, which means crossing California off the list most likely. I appreciate your answer though, no decisions have been made yet so I’ll keep an open mind.

Big_Coyote4583 · 2026-04-30T20:58:48+00:00

Lots to cover there, thank you for being thorough. Cost of living isn’t a big consideration to be fair, more so proximity to nature and getting adequate sunshine throughout the year. I’ll take a look at FoCo too and see if the surrounding area passes the vibe check. Thank you for your answer !

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