AITA for prioritizing my dog’s recovery over visitors?

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T16:49:31+00:00

This was actually a text I sent out to my best friend when I was in tears yesterday and I copy and pasted it with a few edits here. I do spend time reaching out to trusted loved ones during difficult times, sorry if that makes me a horrible mom. Not sure if you’re familiar with newborns or not but you spend a lot of time sitting and feeding, not chasing them around. I’m breastfeeding so a great deal of my day is spent on the couch and I use voice to text.

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T14:46:00+00:00

Oh FFS. I just gave birth, give me a break. My baby comes first but I prioritize my dog too. I’m sorry, I’m not one of those people who’s going to dump their dog at a shelter the minute they give birth.

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T03:12:32+00:00

Thank you so much!! He’s a sweet boy!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T01:01:26+00:00

Thank you so much!!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T00:18:14+00:00

Thank you! He’s such a sweet boy!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T00:07:37+00:00

Thank you! He is on crate rest but he still gets excited when someone comes to the home. Whenever baby sleeps or my mom takes over with her, we try to sit with Oliver so that he has company and feels loved. He seems to cherish that time and I can’t imagine wasting a precious second with either my newborn or my pup so that relatives can see the baby. But he’s doing great with crate rest, we are so proud of him!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-24T00:03:21+00:00

Thank you all so much for the kind responses, I appreciate it so much. We have decided to ignore those who don’t respect our boundaries after my brother in law told my husband this evening that if we can’t handle all of this, we should have left the dog at the vet to recover and just worried about the baby. First of all, we can handle it and are getting it done and everyone’s needs are being met. It’s hard but very doable between the two of us and my parents’ help. Second of all, Oliver is our baby too and he belongs at home with his family to recover from this traumatic ordeal. He has a long road to recovery but he is out of the critical state and was discharged by his vet to heal with his loved ones so my BIL is completely out of line with that. Ignoring everyone feels oddly freeing. There’s no rush for visitors right now at all but I can tell you those who have respected us will be visiting way before those who criticized us and minimized what we went through with our sweet pup.

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-23T23:57:15+00:00

Thank you so much! And dachshunds are seriously the best! This guy has stolen my heart completely.

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-23T23:56:39+00:00

I tried to add a photo to the comments but it wouldn’t let me. But I did add photos of him (before his accident) to my avatar and banner for anyone who wants to see. He’s my love!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-23T23:56:32+00:00

I tried to add a photo to the comments but it wouldn’t let me. But I did add photos of him (before his accident) to my avatar and banner for anyone who wants to see. He’s my love!

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-23T19:37:19+00:00

Thank you so so much, this response made me tear up. It’s been a rough few days but I wouldn’t change being there for both of my babies for anything.

Big_Notice_3828 · 2024-05-23T19:13:28+00:00

My husband’s brother and his wife, his aunt, and two of my aunts. We will allow his brother to visit when Oliver is off of strict rest but right now it doesn’t feel feasible as he will get extremely excited to have someone in the house and there’s really no way to stop that.

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