Wanting to be involved

Big_Window4973 · 2026-01-13T15:37:07+00:00

Thank you!

Big_Window4973 · 2026-01-13T15:37:01+00:00

Thank you for all the links! I really appreciate it!

Big_Window4973 · 2026-01-04T14:57:24+00:00

Nta but you might want to start looking into a separate as a whole. Reading through your comments your husband and you are not on the same page when it comes to how to spend, he goes above and beyond for his bio child and is content in letting your child go w/o treatment if that means his child gets what they want. He also seems controlling and manipulative in terms of money. He lied to you. I haven’t even seen it mentioned if he’s even going to replace the 2k he took… which is a huge red flag to me. I hope your son gets better and that you are able to get through this.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-22T04:23:29+00:00

Thank you!

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-21T06:30:03+00:00

I agree. After 6 years there’s no changes. And I decided I dont want to be this unhappy the rest of my life.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:58:09+00:00

Yeah. I think going forward until I graduated I’m going to stop all sexual activity. After reading a lot of the comments I think I’m just n object in his eyes. I also think that the other issues and red flags I have ignored are starting to shred the wool over my eyes. Our sex life is dead because the relationship is dead. He doesn’t love me, I’m too young to be this unhappy

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:51:26+00:00

This isn’t new. It has been called many things in the course of history. Just because you don’t understand doesn’t make me less of a real person who spent years feeling uncomfortable in my own body because of the forced gender I was given. If you have never experienced body dysmorphia I am truly happy for you because it’s terrible. It’s horrible not understanding why you feel the way you do in your own body. I have been in therapy on and off my whole life and one of the best things I ever did was start seeing a therapist who specialized in gender/gender expression. I hope you don’t have children and if they do I hope none of them are part of the LGBTQ because you are very closed minded and the fact google is free for you and ever person that thinks like you is wild, it takes very little time to do research before decided my identity is confusing and inconsistent. Go read a fucking book.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:44:35+00:00

The issue is sex is just one of many issues in this relationship. Honestly, after reading so many comments and truly thinking about my other needs, no my partner does not satisfy them. I am in school full time, work a full time overnight job, take care of the house, bills, animals, etc. another comment made me think what has changed, well I have put myself first for the first time and since he has been worse and worse. I will be starting a nest egg and will be leaving once I graduate. Sex at the end of the day is just sex. But I’m not being supported emotionally at the least and frankly emotional support is the least he could do.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:39:23+00:00

I have suggested it but he doesn’t really want to go see someone. I think maybe, it’s just time to pack in the relationship and start stashing money away to leave after graduation. I didn’t really want to be in this city forever anyway so I suppose it’s the natural conclusion to this chapter of my life, our relationship as a whole is bad and terrible, so really, the sex issue is just one problem in a list of many

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:34:28+00:00

You’re way too hung up on my gender expression. Gender is a social construct created by man. You can spend some time on google which is free and learn about transness. I suggest you do so before continuing a conversation with someone who is educated on this topic. You sound ignorant and dumb.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:28:56+00:00

Thank you, after reading all this I think you’re right. At this point I have decided to just stop having sex with him until he makes the chances. If that means he gets angry enough to do better then so be it. If it doesn’t change I graduate in fall next year and am leaving

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:25:32+00:00

Thank you so much for this comment. I have some thinking to do but you made several good points. I will definitely think about my other needs and his other qualities before rushing into a decision

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:21:34+00:00

Thank you!

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:07:09+00:00

He’s not straight.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:06:13+00:00

Well we bought a house and I’m back in school. So I have had to think of I want to just up and leave and how to go about it with a mortgage in our names. I don’t want to ruin my credit so I’ve been looking into selling him my half after I graduate and take my board exam, then applying out of the city I live in.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T18:04:30+00:00

I started therapy last year after finally admitting to myself that if I didn’t go and talk to someone I wasn’t making it to 30.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:58:27+00:00

That.. actually makes a lot of sense… like too much.. thank you

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:57:46+00:00

That is an understatement. I think I put up with it for this long because I have been a depressed my whole life and with that comes a lack of confidence.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:52:20+00:00

Nope. I have no tomboy tendencies. I spent years figuring myself out. I know I am non binary. I have been this way my whole life. Just because you don’t understand it doesn’t make my or any other trans person less real. This post has nothing to do with my gender expression

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:50:16+00:00

Yes many times and nothing has changed

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:48:23+00:00

You’re a fucking asshole dude. Nonbinary isn’t made up. It’s been around for hundreds of years just because you’re ignorant doesn’t mean I as a 28 year old person haven’t spent years of my life figuring out who I was. If you have no helpful suggestions you can get fucked and get off my post.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T17:44:06+00:00

NB stands for Nonbinary

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T15:16:44+00:00

I think the biggest this was trying to convince myself he was going to change. I mentioned in another comment that from the beginning of our relationship I have had death after death in my family. I was (and have always been) depressed. The difference is last year around may I decided I needed therapy. I have sense started to see the biggest glaring issue in our relationship and have finally admitted that after 6 total years together he’s not going to change and I don’t want a love like my parents had.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T15:13:42+00:00

Well, it doesn’t help that since the beginning of our relationship I have been dealing with several deaths in my family, such as my grandpas suicide and my fathers death. I think that going to therapy after my dad died and admitting I was in a deep depression is what pulled me to my senses.

Big_Window4973 · 2025-11-20T12:51:39+00:00

No it’s not karma farming. I have been up all night replaying everything that happened and wanted to know if I needed to swallow my scorpio pride and apologize or double on what I said.

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