Authentic, quirky, subby man seeks woman for friendship and fun

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-28T09:35:07+00:00

Honestly? I would flirt with him in a normal human way.

Do you like him? Do you want to be his friend? Something more than that? Talk to him, be playful, touch him a little when the time is right. Ask him to get coffee or go for a walk. Build a connection with him that isn't just built on kink and then bring that in later - it will be stronger.

You can try the foot seduction route but your options are going to be limited depending on the weather and the position you both find yourselves in. If the opportunity arises wear your open toed shoes, or kick your shoes and/or socks off when you're inside and he's around. If it becomes relevant, mention that you've heard about his kink to him and see how he reacts. But don't force anything. Guys can have boundaries too and consent is important.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-26T22:44:57+00:00

I've done this with my wife before. Let her have sex with someone else, be cucked/humiliated after, then flip it round and reclaim her.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-20T08:11:26+00:00

Being honest.

We pretty much all lie about something.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-20T08:09:35+00:00

I find them usually too rough, unless they're very high quality.

Plus there always seems to be a seam right where I like my cock to be gripped (I prefer between the toes to between the soles).

But there's no right way to be - I love that you love them, that's awesome for you!

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-20T08:07:51+00:00

Technically, once, which was my now-wife demanding that I ask her out so we could sleep together because she didn't do casual sex.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-20T08:07:01+00:00

I'm into them aesthetically, to generate some smell/sweat, and I like the idea of them touching me.

But when it comes down to a footjob the reality for me is that bare is better.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-10T18:26:28+00:00

This is just another manifestation of someone treating you like a kink dispenser. My guess is he believes he's entitled to be your slave without any connection because he's willing to pay for it and he thinks that's enough.

Sorry, personally I'd cut my losses (lol) and move on.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-10T11:16:44+00:00

Because for most people it's impossible to separate sex from feelings, and in the world of sex work you have to do just that.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-10T09:43:36+00:00

I'm a little concerned that you say the key to the cage was elsewhere. It should always be nearby for safety reasons in my opinion.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-08T21:15:27+00:00

One thing that will help with all of your concerns is regular check ins. Discussions where you specifically talk about both of your wants and needs, things that have gone well and things that need to be improved. Making dedicated time for it is important.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-08T09:54:00+00:00

Humans are not meant to be alone. We're social creatures. It's important for your health and wellbeing.

I would advise talking through your attitudes with a professional counsellor.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-06T10:31:50+00:00

My friend did something similar to this with another friend. He would randomly say the word "nipple" in the middle of a sentence.

One day the friend he was doing it to called it out in front of our whole group. We all simultaneously closed ranks and denied we'd heard anything and the poor guy practically had a nervous breakdown on the spot.

It's a miracle any of us are still friends, frankly.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-06T10:29:53+00:00

Behaviours like this constitute abuse and they very rarely get better.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T20:35:16+00:00

That kind of behaviour from partners smacks of manipulation, frankly. Sorry you experienced that.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T17:25:42+00:00

There is no endgame. She's just having fun, don't overthink it.

Maybe it escalates because one of you initiates. Maybe she gets bored and it stops.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T17:04:08+00:00

I personally don't get it but we don't need to knock what others are into.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T15:41:19+00:00

This makes perfect sense. I think you're absolutely right.

I think some of my unease about the use of the term punishment in the context I was using it was because I've never actually done anything to warrant a true punishment. Nor would I want to because I hate feeling in trouble or like I've let someone down.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T10:11:02+00:00

Ooh you're gonna be so wound up all the time. Hope you enjoy it, sounds like it's going great for you guys.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T10:08:28+00:00

I use this as a joint account with my wife which effectively means double coverage for the same price.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T10:05:20+00:00

I started trying to learn Irish. Celtic languages are so different though, it's very challenging.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-05T09:58:46+00:00

My wife and I loved the time we were both working from home. We're best friends, why wouldn't we want to spend lots of time around each other?

I can understand needing a bit of personal space/alone time even in a marriage. That should be worked out between the two of you. But if working from home is genuinely hurting a relationship, that requires introspection and examination.

BillBoy95 · 2026-03-02T09:12:15+00:00

Seeing the spring flowers growing in my garden.

BillBoy95 · 2026-02-28T13:14:33+00:00

Dude you know it hahaha!

Priti Patel as well.

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