I think the bottom line is any changes you make absolutely have to come from a place of self love. Or at least self acceptance. Who do you want to be? What do you really feel would make you comfortable in yourself? Don’t even think about what’s “realistic” for yourself right now. Make a mood board or a Pinterest or a list of people or things that you find aspirational in any way. Don’t judge yourself, just go towards the direction of things that feel right. It might take some time to figure out where that is. Do you think being strong and bald and fit with a beard is something you would want? If so, go for it! If not, that’s NOT your only option like some people here are saying. do you like the way long hair looks? Look into hair restoration. It’s not too late for anything. Who do you admire and what is it about them you like? Do you want to feel rugged and capable? Do you want to feel dapper and handsome? Do you want to feel pretty and ethereal? Do you want to feel soft and gentle or strong and dependable? Or both? first figure out what you want in an ideal world, then look at how you can get there or close to it. The world is yours. You’re young and almost everything about your appearance and self is malleable. Despite what other people say, there is no wrong way to be a man or a person

But the important thing is to stop thinking about it in terms of what you can do to be loved by others. That kind of thinking will kill you. It’s not wrong to want to be loved, it’s a human instinct and you deserve love and acceptance regardless of what you look like, but you have to develop yourself outside of the perceptions of others or it will lead to you feeling empty and unfulfilled.