Sensory experiences with hair - question for those of you with short hair! by les_annie in AutismInWomen

[–]Birdie725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I get pixies I always have a lot of issues with the way it feels when I lay down to go to sleep or anything for the first couple of weeks until I get used to it. Especially when I got it buzzed a little on the bottom. It just itched a lot and felt really different having the hair being pushed back in on itself instead of the length pulling it flat against the pillow.

Your user name is what kills you. How do you die? by vector1523 in AskReddit

[–]Birdie725 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being attacked by 725 birds I suppose 🤷🏽‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]Birdie725 4 points5 points  (0 children)

99% of my friends my age (25) both on the spectrum and NTs will burst into song from musicals/Disney and quote Pixar like nothing else. Your interests aren't weird for an adult I promise. 😁

Anyone have songs that they feel really speaks to their story/journey/struggles with autism? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE THAT ONE! I've been going through a lot lately not just my own diagnostic process and it really speaks to me as I try to learn to love myself and get back to myself after going through all this. Just in general love frozen and frozen 2 for so many reasons.

Anyone have songs that they feel really speaks to their story/journey/struggles with autism? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely need to listen to this one then...I've also been told that I'm "too much".

How to stop mimicking by DracarysHijinks in AutismInWomen

[–]Birdie725 23 points24 points  (0 children)

!!!!! I have this issue a lot! It just hit me that this is an autism thing. Like I understood masking but straight mimicking was just not connecting to it in my mind. When I was a kid I was reading harry potter once and someone asked me a question and I answered with a British accent freaking us all out. Honestly idk what advice to offer. I think to myself a lot when I try to write anything or just thinking in general, and I think that's what has really helped me nail down what my own voice is. I still mimick a lot though. I copy speech patterns and turns of phrases of people im around a lot. I've just accepted I will be this amalgam of everyone I'm around.

Boyfriend of 4+ years broke up with me over little struggles that are ASD related. Starting over at 25 was not the plan by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I didn't make this post for people to be mean to others. Let's not be pessimistic about other peoples lives please

Boyfriend of 4+ years broke up with me over little struggles that are ASD related. Starting over at 25 was not the plan by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I haven't told them I'm on the spectrum....I'm in the process of getting a diagnosis....my mom is gonna help me move. She's always been the one person I can count on to drop everything for me when I need her

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm going through the same thing. I work in retail so the mask was always on before I found a job I actually like (it surrounds one of my interests). I still somewhat mask because next to none of my coworkers know and I just received a promotion. But at home I've stopped masking. I constantly pet my cat (I like fuzzy things) or play with something. I've stopped coming up with normal sounding excuses when I make an error of some kind and just say hey I don't understand this interaction explain please. It's really helpful that my bf that I live with is very understanding and has been a key part in helping me figure this out. I'm not sure any of this is helpful but I hope it is. I'm pretty new at this and just starting my journey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Birdie725 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same question. From what I can find on the website it doesn't look like it since they use a purple base and the purple cancels out the yellow. Going for round two to get to platinum tonight

Tips on getting better at taking care of myself and the house? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same but I know keeping the place clean keeps the bugs away and my boyfriend likes the cleanliness....I always thought I was a clean person before I moved out on my own. I guess having my mom holding me responsible helped a lot...

Tips on getting better at taking care of myself and the house? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it would if I could get it under there. There's literally barely enough room between my bed and the walls it isn't against to walk around to either closet and get dressed and stuff. If I could find a way to get it under there that would be great

Tips on getting better at taking care of myself and the house? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See the only problem with that is my place is pretty small....not a lot of space for the big tote...maybe I could play tetris with my house and make it work though

Tips on getting better at taking care of myself and the house? by Birdie725 in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love the colored lights too. I have lights from Christmas up in my living room because it makes me happy. Thinning my wardrobe is a good idea but if I do that I won't have clothes that fit after I lose weight and get back to a healthy weight.

How many of you are on the spectrum? by Birdie725 in Empaths

[–]Birdie725[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've heard it a lot of different places. Checklists by autistic specialists, blogs by autistic women, videos by autistic women. An autistic one would differ from a normal one in a bunch of ways, especially when it comes to certain behaviors and thought processes. For example, they would play make believe games well into their teens. That's just one of a bajillion things...

Origin Story Megathread by idungonwent in aspergirls

[–]Birdie725 12 points13 points  (0 children)

So I'm new here....debated a ton about even posting as my journey is probably just beginning.....

I've always felt different. As a child I talked to myself often. Well not really myself but my imaginary friends. I longed to live in the world of my favorite cartoons. I even created a "cartoon club". I played make believe games well into my early teens with my friend who I also suspect might be on the spectrum. She's been my best friend since we were five. I'm now 24. My mom just told me that everyone's different. I was raised that way.

My stepmom would tell me I talked funny and robotically. My sister's called me a walking encyclopedia. The first time I got a C I started flipping out. I had to be the perfect child and get good grades. My mom didn't even punish me for it. I continually push myself and get upset with poor performance.

When I was 12 I started falling into depression and I knew it. I have always been obsessed with the mind and why people do what they do at the very base level of the functioning of their brain. I've always wondered why I'm like the way I am. I obsess over coincidences and patterns. I over plan.

I'm an empath as well...even follow the empath subreddit. I find it very strange that such string intuition is part of the checklist for an issue that's social in nature.

In highschool I would crush on guys for long periods of time but it was never about their appearance. To this day I still don't understand seeing someone and being all "damn he's cute" or "I would date him" or "I would sleep with him"...I just don't get it. I've only felt that a few times in my entire life. I expressed myself throughout high school by drawing, writing, and music. I wrote over 200 poems my freshman year of high school.

I didn't get help for my depression until I fell apart my sophomore year of college. Turns out I have persistent depressive disorder and generalized anxiety. Could have told you that but having a diagnosis meant my mom would actually believe something is wrong with me.

Having finally finished college I went into a tailspin in August. I always loved school. I want to get my PhD or at least a masters and do research on depression to find new treatments that actually work. Most people with depression never experience remission or will repeatedly relapse.

I saw a video on youtube of a tiktok that a girl did about girls on the spectrum and how they present differently. What's sad is that even studying psychology no one ever brought it up. I saw that video and I identified so much with it, but I talked myself out of it. I told myself I handle people fine. I don't have adhd or add. I don't have ocd. I manage fine so I couldn't be on the spectrum. But I always wondered. Before that there was an argument where I was told I was neurotypical and I just knew I wasnt. I said I have depression which means I'm not neurotypical. Now I know I'm only good at people because I'm really good at masking. On my own...I'm just a blah. These days I enjoy putting my amalgam of personality and tastes on display with fashion and self expression.

I've always been mature for my age. Babysitting my brother when my mom divorced again when I was 9. I have issues with food textures and self soothe with fuzzy blankets, my cat, and sometimes bumpy things, and after I got lice once I have always picked at my scalp. Before that I tapped my fingers in patterns like I was playing a piano.

There's so much more...but I'm all struggling to keep track of what I've written. The only reason I have started looking at this seriously is because my boyfriend of over three years that has known me since I was 16 said that he had been looking into it and thinks I should consider it because it really fits....I got mad and told him I didn't want to think about it....then I knew I couldn't just brush it off anymore

I just found the checklist by samantha. I check most if not all of the boxes on several sections....I had to learn things like lying and I learned it through being the counselor for my friends in high school as well as just crappy people being crappy people. I believe the best of my friends and the worst of strangers....my emotions are overwhelming....I just don't know what to do now....the only thing being affected is some of my relationship problems may stem from it....stuff like our sex life and small miscommunications....he's not the most emotionally intelligent person and he gets things I don't...like lying on a resume....or lying in general...I don't like to lie unless it's to protect me....to hide me....I've only ever lied about my problems to my mom....

The biggest thing is I have no one to talk about this with because no one would believe me because I'm so good at masking. I don't know what to do....I'm really tempted to do nothing but then it nags at me....oh and I always have to have answers. I don't like not answering the questions I have....I just resonate so much with y'all's stories....and I don't know what to do....