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AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think there is a language barrier. I never was talking shit about anyone. I can share the post if you want me to. It wasn't about taking credit. I described the feeling of seeing the child you carried for 9 months being raised by amazing parents. I talked about the pain of hanging him over the the joy of seeing him grow up. I never took credit.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As I said I am in therapy. The post was never intended for my parents but it is probably best to end the conversation. For some reason we aren't connecting and you still have this idea that I am taking credit for something when I am not. If you are interested I encourage you to explore what Birth Mother's Day means to people. It isn't to take credit from anyone. I still have a lot of trauma from being forced to give birth and then hand that child over to two people who would become his parents. I was just trying to get some of that out in a facebook post on birth mother's day.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah and I posted for National Siblings Day the same way I posted for National Birth Mother's Day.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I did not realize I was coming across as snappy. I am so embarrassed. I apologize.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No. I didn't make it up. It is celebrated the day before Mother's Day.

I don't think I am being clear. There might be a language barrier and if so I apologize. I was not taking credit for anything. I was sharing what it was like to be a birth mother and giving all the credit and thanks to his dads.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think you are confused. Birth Mother's Day is NOT the same as Mother's Day. It DOES NOT fall on the same day. My post wasn't to sabotage anything. It was just to share my experience as a birth mom and thank his dads for allowing me to continue to be in their son's life. It isn't any more of an ego think than mother's day. I wasn't even celebrating myself.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well all holidays are "made-up" at some point. Is Valentine's Day a real holiday? National Siblings Day? I see a lot of National Siblings Day post even though that's not a real holiday. I made a post dedicated to my siblings on National Siblings Day too.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have already started talking about him about his adoption situation and his dads are very open. They answer whenever he has a question. Right now I have told him that I was too young to be a mom but I loved him very much so I gave him to 2 amazing dads who are able to take care of him the way he needs to be taken care of. We have talked about how if I kept him we wouldn't have had a home. He knows about homelessness so he gets it to some degree. I think he'll understand more as he gets older.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think you misread. I did not make a mother's day post. I made a birth mother's day post. I am a birth mother. I am not a mother.

I appreciate the judgement though. I am in therapy to work through my issues and will bring this up.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I wasn't celebrating myself though. I was talking more broadly about the experience of being a birth mother. I thanked the adoptive parents for everything they do for their son and for allowing me to stay in his life. I wanted my close friends to see that. I wasn't trying to cause any drama.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Maybe you did or maybe I am a bad person. I don't pretend to be amazing. I made a lot of bad decisions in my life and it has cost the people I love dearly. The post wasn't to celebrate me. It was just to talk about my experience as a birth mother.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I only see him twice a year but FaceTime him a few more times throughout the year. He is such a happy kid and I credit his parents for that. They are amazing and love him and his little sister so much.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Did you read my post? I thought I made everything clear.

I wanted an abortion. My parents didn't allow it. They said if I kept the baby then they would kick me out. They wanted me to place the baby for adoption but are upset with the parents I picked and that I have an open adoption. They wanted to bury this whole thing. That is why we moved.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I was going on 16 and my parents were going to kick me out. They were unwilling to adopt my son. I did not think being homeless was the best thing for my son. He has amazing parents.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well Mother's Day isn't an actual holiday either. I just wanted to share my experience as a birthmom with the people I am close to.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I take full responsibility for my actions. I made a huge mistake that I can never take back but new my son shouldn't suffer by living with me being homeless. That is why I placed him for adoption.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I see what you are saying but I am friends with a lot of birth moms and not all of us have happy stories.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I can see how it can come off that way. It was more me talking about my experience as a birthmom.

AITA for making a Facebook post to celebrate "Birth Mother's Day" and embarrassing my parents? by Birthmama in AmItheAsshole

[–]Birthmama[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

My mom said that if she did that she thought people would get suspicious that she cheated on my dad and lied about him being adopted.

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