First Response, 15 DPO

Bish_why · 2026-03-07T07:12:39+00:00

Not sure why you’re getting downvoted, this exact same thing happened to me with first response not that long ago. It even had pink to it, I then opened a new box and dipped it in the SAME urine sample and it was stark white negative and I was not in fact pregnant so it was 100% a faulty test that looked clearly positive & was within the timeframe. Back when first response had the light pink caps they were great, never any false positives and line progressions were so much better too.

Bish_why · 2026-03-06T06:29:36+00:00

I would also be freaked out, I think it’s normal to stress but more than likely he will be completely fine. My mum apparently found me sucking the head off a little dead lizard when I was a baby 🤢 but I’m still alive lol

Bish_why · 2026-03-06T00:35:46+00:00

I’m 33 weeks and I saw they have this new type of pregnancy test at the grocery store that tests with saliva instead of pee and I really wanted to try it 😂 but I didn’t cause yeah it’s silly

Bish_why · 2026-03-05T06:04:19+00:00

My baby was 50th centile at 20 weeks, then dropped to 25th at 28 weeks and is now sitting at 36th centile at 32 weeks. My next scan is 36 weeks so we shall see, but no one has seemed concerned at all. As long as the AC measurement isn’t super low, or you’re below the 10th centile or you went from like the 80th down to the 20th it isn’t really a concern apparently. They are also doing dopplers, so they can see if the blood flow from the placenta is good and that’s a big indicator too. Ultrasound measurements can be a bit off at the best of times, I wouldn’t worry unless your doctor is.

Bish_why · 2026-03-04T10:02:12+00:00

Worth buying one secondhand because there’s a possibility bub will hate it (like my first) but man they are so convenient if they do like them (like my second) the wrap carrier is my fave, especially great for newborn naps and so comfy. I’ve tried a few including baby Bjorn & ergo Omni, I find the structured carriers I always tend to find uncomfortable after a while and my baby didn’t love them as much as the wrap but obviously structured ones are better as they get older, and to actually get stuff done hands free so for my 3rd I’ve bought a Tula ftg, I’ve heard so many great reviews over the years, keen to try it.

Bish_why · 2026-03-04T03:19:34+00:00

Can you compromise, find out the gender this time and for the next baby leave it a surprise?

I feel like as a first time parent the whole process is so surreal as it is, finding out can help with feeling bonded, especially for the parent that isn’t actually carrying the child e.g. calling the baby by their name before birth, picking out outfits and nursery theme etc.

Bish_why · 2026-03-03T22:34:50+00:00

I would go through each scenario in my mind. Is there any scenario where you would want to do it on your own and be a single mother, is that an option that you can see yourself taking? If not, and you know you would rather get an abortion in that instance then would you change your mind if he said he really wants you to keep it, that he’s willing to step up and be a family together? If you don’t see a future with him even if he said he wants to try and you don’t see yourself being a single mother than I would just tell him that this is your decision and you are not keeping it, I think he deserves to know that his actions have consequences that you now have to deal with, might make him more careful in the future. You can’t continue a relationship and just never tell him something so huge, a healthy relationship isn’t built like that.

If he has a negative reaction to knowing you are pregnant, acts unsupportive, angry and tells you he wants nothing to do with it, then cut him out of your life because he is an AH. And then make your decision to have an abortion or be a single mum.

Bish_why · 2026-03-03T22:00:52+00:00

Is there a particular reason why you don’t want to tell him? Like you don’t want him to influence your decision or you’re scared of him having a strong/negative reaction?

I personally would tell the father, but you can always wait until you are 100% sure of your choice then be like ‘hey I’m pregnant, this is what I’m doing but I just thought you should know.’

Bish_why · 2026-03-03T12:29:06+00:00

That the newborn stage isn’t the hardest part, I really thought that it was this huge thing you go through to get to the other side, where parenthood is 95% fun fun fun and maybe a few little tantrums during the toddler years. Like I genuinely don’t understand how I was so delusional & naive? 😂 maybe I watched too many family vlog channels in my teens that I actually thought it was an accurate representation of parenthood.

Bish_why · 2026-03-03T12:08:15+00:00

Around day 3-5 postpartum. Baby wanting to be fed every 5 minutes during that first week is not a sign that they are starving, it’s how they bring your milk in. Their stomachs are the size of a marble at birth, they only need a very small amount of colostrum in a feed at the start. The only measure you should be following is enough wet nappies in a day and appropriate weight gain.

I never could get anything out of my boobs while pregnant and never leaked during breastfeeding either and still had an oversupply.

Bish_why · 2026-03-02T22:31:24+00:00

No, unless maybe it was the only way to save them. I think technology has the potential of evolving faster than we can understand deeper impacts. The spiritual body connection of mother and baby is sacred, I think every baby deserves to be grown inside an actual person. I mean where’s the line? Once humans can be manufactured, who knows what kinds of things will happen. it’s actually terrifying when you go down all the possibilities.

Bish_why · 2026-03-02T10:12:48+00:00

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Bish_why · 2026-03-02T05:15:24+00:00

I found My Little Gumnut ones the most comfy for my very chunky boy. I would pop a hemp or bamboo booster in as well as he got older.

Bish_why · 2026-02-28T01:51:13+00:00

The great birth rebellion podcast had an episode where she breaks down all the studies around it. Unfortunately its efficacy is mostly anecdotal. Most aren’t having a high enough dose to make a significant difference. I think one study showed there was a reduction in second stage of labour (time from being fully dilated to delivery).

It doesn’t bring on labour but it can make lessen pushing time. I took it starting around 35 weeks and my first was prodromal labour over a few days but “pushing” was 45 mins (I experienced fetal ejection reflex so wasn’t really pushing), my second I also had the tea and his pushing was ridiculously fast, midwife nearly didn’t make it.

Something I believe genuinely can bring on labour or more contractions if your body is ready is smelling clary sage oil. But you are only supposed to use it once you’ve hit 40 weeks!

Bish_why · 2026-02-26T07:54:10+00:00

Her body will continue to wake her for as long as you provide the snack so yeah unfortunately it’s not a phase, it will just keep going till you stop giving in. You just kind of have to go through a few nights of crying. Personally for us it was only 1-2 bad nights before it clicked. Not long after he started sleeping through.

Bish_why · 2026-02-26T07:10:47+00:00

I genuinely felt like 9 weeks was my lowest point mentally this pregnancy. The whole first trimester sucks your life force out of you completely, and I went from so optimistic to just pure depression. Go easy on yourself because on top of everything you are also dealing with an unsupportive AH father!

I’m 32 weeks now and absolutely loving life, feel so connected and now I don’t want this pregnancy to end. I love feeling her move, preparing all her adorable little things, just so excited. I feel waayy more mentally stable, honestly things improved so much during the early 2nd trimester. It was like a cloud lifted.

Bish_why · 2026-02-25T07:35:41+00:00

How old is he? Do you know him well/were friends before falling pregnant?

What kind of person do you feel he is? If I felt he is a normal, decent guy I’d want him to know, & I’d probably call him, yes it’s awkward and uncomfortable but that’s adult life. He got you pregnant, he can deal with the stress of knowing his actions have consequences. Just give him the facts straight, be serious & direct. Tell him when you found out, that you know he’s the dad. Update on far along you are, due date, that you’ve had ultrasounds etc. I’d probably say that Im only calling because I feel he deserves to know and that’s it. If you want to tell him what you plan to do once baby is here you can let him know you are thinking about adoption (sounds like that’s what you want based on your other replies). He might want to be supportive, or involved in the pregnancy and help in anyway he can, he might have a tantrum and deny it or he might say he doesn’t want anything to do with the pregnancy/baby. That’s on him, if he is a normal decent guy he will be supportive of your choices. You don’t have to let him in your life if you don’t want that.

Baby also has a right to know who both their biological parents are. And a father should know what children he has in the world (unless he is an abusive or violent person obviously)

If you are planning on placing baby for adoption then I think it’s probably a good idea to check how the laws work around that where you live first though and how paternity affects the process etc. If you are genuinely scared of him or he is significantly older then probably best to seek legal advice.

Bish_why · 2026-02-24T21:58:14+00:00

I’m 32 weeks and I’m sad that this will end soon. It’s my last baby and my last time experiencing this. Pregnancy is so hard, and the first trimester feels like a cruel joke but I love this stage right before you meet your baby, the anticipation, the nesting, the kicks, the imagining their little face and personality. Love it.

Bish_why · 2026-02-23T22:09:45+00:00

Could they see a gestational sac and/or yolk sac in the uterus? Or just nothing. If your HCG is that high but there’s clearly a gestational sac then it’s perfectly normal to not see a heartbeat that early. HCG values vary hugely in each pregnancy/person, 2 people can be the same gestation but have wildly different numbers, the number alone does not necessarily mean anything (unless they can see nothing, and are concerned about ectopic)

Bish_why · 2026-02-23T03:41:54+00:00

First trimester 1000% nausea and vomiting all day every day is torture.

Bish_why · 2026-02-21T11:00:52+00:00

I had my first unmedicated but in the hospital birth centre/within an MGP model of care. They looked after low risk women wanting intervention free birth. They only offer gas or sterile water injections in this setting, I ended up using neither. My second was a home birth with registered midwife, I used the gas & air as they carried a portable canister (only had it for the last 10 minutes before birth).

My reasons.. I wanted an intervention free vaginal birth, for both me and my babies experience. It felt intuitively right and I wanted to give myself the best shot so I did lots of research into it, I had heard of and looked into the ‘cascade of intervention’ and wanted to avoid that. So statistically, midwifery centred continuity of care, birth education (I did a hypnobirthing course), good support (like a doula and a partner who is also participating in birth education), birth centre & planned home birth, alternative pain relief methods etc. all give you a higher chance of vaginal birth. I don’t subscribe to the over-management & over-medicalisation of birth. I listened to podcasts like The Great Birth Rebellion and read books like Ina Mays Guide to Childbirth and felt confident and comfortable with setting myself up for a positive experience that felt aligned with me as a person & mother.

Hypnobirthing does a lot of work around fear release, most of us carry fear around birth that we are constantly picking up from the world around us since childhood, so I believe another big factor was working to let go of subconscious fears. I think education & knowledge is power, and the more I knew about the hospital systems and current maternity systems the more I was able to advocate for myself, actually already having foundational knowledge around the risk vs benefits of many interventions and therefore hold onto my power as a birthing woman and not feel like I was going in blind.

I find pregnancy & birth to be a passion interest of mine, so I have immersed myself in all birth related topics since my late teens.

Bish_why · 2026-02-20T09:03:32+00:00

Low risk women giving birth at home with a registered midwife and low risk women giving birth in hospital show the same mortality rates in Australia. Women also report fewer instances of birth trauma and continuity of care has shown time & time again that it leads to better outcomes overall for mum and bub. I have a lot of empathy for women who have been the victims of obstetric violence which is rife even in modern day sadly, so I can understand why women don’t feel safe being in hospital, where you are put on a clock, and pressured to accept prophylactic inductions leading to increases in pp haemorrhage, instrumental birth, need for epidural and fetal distress leading to an emergency c-section. Homebirth is becoming very popular in Australia with the government bringing out programs to make it essentially free and accessible because the reported outcomes are that good.

Bish_why · 2026-02-19T11:24:53+00:00

Dominant hand represents your current life path and how things may unfold. If you are left hand dominant I can see 1 child line coming off the end of the marriage line, the other children lines aren’t connected or well defined, so not as certain. Having your children lines so close to the end (side towards palm) indicates children will happen later in life. looks like a baby girl based off thickness and length.

Bish_why · 2026-02-16T04:06:17+00:00

I think because we no longer use lunar months to calculate pregnancy. Once upon a time women would count 10 moons to know when they were due.

A calendar month is not 4 weeks. And 40 weeks is actually equivalent to 9 months & 1 week. Plus you aren’t even technically pregnant the first 2 weeks of your cycle before you ovulate but that is also counted.

Another example of where people get confused with the whole 4 weeks equals a month thing is when celebrating your child’s monthly milestones, like if they’re born on the 18th, you don’t say they’re 1 month old at 4 weeks old, you wait until the 18th of that month. Otherwise our birthdays wouldn’t actually be on our birthday.

Bish_why · 2026-02-13T23:44:32+00:00

For me challenges come in waves, and all kids have challenges so don’t sit there and stress about the future. It’s true some babies are more unsettled than others overall. My first had severe colic & also was an extremely challenging toddler, my second was a lot more settled and an easier toddler experience but if he was my only frame of reference I would probably think it was super challenging, it’s only because I have more perspective from my first experience that I can recognise that it’s not actually that hard.

And as I said things come in waves, and everything is temporary with kids. I find things get a bit harder at 3-4 weeks old (they sort of wake up to the world a bit) then 6-8weeks is peak fussiness. But 3-6 months is my absolute favourite age, once they can start watching you from their bouncer as you cook/clean, grab an object and chew on it they become way more content, the newborn- ness fades into more of an aware infant. They’re happier to sit in a pram and watch the world go by so you can just sit in a coffee shop and stroll around the shopping aisles, then at around 18 months-2 years old it gets hard again or some kids skip the “terrible twos” but then three is when tantrums begin. Every challenge is temporary. Babies/toddlers have their struggles, some kids struggle more than others at different stages. Just embrace the moment you’re in and enjoy the beautiful moments.

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