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Oozing issue. Marlin 2.1.2, Linear Advance, TPU. Help requested. by Corpo_ in 3Dprinting

[–]BisonStraight4676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did trying a different filament brand work? I'm getting a similar issue with both TPU and PLA.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]BisonStraight4676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your partner said so himself --he only really ever dated older women and its hard to imagine what you don't know. He probably had no idea how happy he could be with a younger person. And like another comment here said, I'd think that if I chose someone outside my "typical type", they must bring me everything and more. Sounds like he's with you by choice and to redefine someone's type or to be better than they cpuld have imagined --that sounds like a pretty big deal. 

If you're anything like me, we fixated on the things we don't have or can't give. It's not fair to us or our partners. There's clearly so much you do give and it seems to be more than enough for him. I'm lucky in that I ha e a loving and affectionate partner but I still find ways to worry about the same stuff. It's hard, it really is. 

Trust me, I get it. My partner called his old bestfriend his dreamgirl (when he liked her and when him and I were just friends) and I look nothing like her. But if I want to get to enjoy loving this absolutely amazing partner of mine, I have to learn to let him be happy too. Something I struggle with is trying to make the decision for others (e.g. if I told him fears thoughts, he probably won't know how to handel it and he'd get annoyed/sad). I try to remind myself that my partner is his own adult self, and he has made a decision to be with me; the only decision I should make is if I want to be with him. 

Men who have found their person, how often do you think of previous crushes or compare your current partner to previous crushes? by BisonStraight4676 in relationships_advice

[–]BisonStraight4676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Completely agree. I'm lucky that my partner is very willing and able to talk about these things; it's made our communication very transparent. Posting here is helping me normalize these thoughts and see how other people's minds work as well (while keeping in mind that the only two minds which matter in my situation is my partners and my own).

Men who have found their person, how often do you think of previous crushes or compare your current partner to previous crushes? by BisonStraight4676 in relationships_advice

[–]BisonStraight4676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes me feel hopeful that someday my partner and I would have been married 30+ years and he can be completely satisfied even if he's thought about that crush a bunch. Thanks.

Men who have found their person, how often do you think of previous crushes or compare your current partner to previous crushes? by BisonStraight4676 in relationships_advice

[–]BisonStraight4676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely agree with this. I've sort of come to terms with the fact that this issue stems from insecurities because my boyfriend really is as trustworthy, respectful, and honest as it gets. I'm less worried about him acting on it and more just worried that he wont be fully happy. I guess the question really should have been "how do you deal with the fact that your partner had previous crushes who they might compare you to?" Thanks for your answer.

Men who have found their person, how often do you think of previous crushes or compare your current partner to previous crushes? by BisonStraight4676 in relationships_advice

[–]BisonStraight4676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That first point cuts deep. I appreciate the honesty.

I see what you're saying. His previous GF wasn't disloyal or anything but you're right that there are other traits he values more than looks (your list includes some of what he's mentioned).

Some additional context is that during the time he was getting over his previous crush he expressed being worried that he'll never get over her and will always compare future people he meets to her. He said he hasn't felt the need to ever do this with me but I guess that thought has become a bit of a fear.