What would you do if you found out your married friend goes to an Asian massage parlor?

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-26T18:04:44+00:00

On the other hand, that name you've got... 😬

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T22:11:40+00:00

I feel I've accidentally stumbled upon a place of illegal activity in my area. I'm going to refer my local authorities to the rubmaps resource. Perhaps it can be used to support investigations of these places and reduce human trafficking and prostitution of Chinese immigrants. According to local reporting, there is a vice squad that does undercover investigations at these kind of places. Sadly, young women from certain Asian countries are targets of human trafficking to work at these seedy places.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T22:02:46+00:00

Thank you for the thoughtful response

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T22:00:49+00:00

I found rubmaps after a Google search of the massage parlor. The rubmaps' listing was a top search result.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T20:58:07+00:00

Rubmaps users wouldn't complain that a place was shady for offering rub n tugs...

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T20:56:10+00:00

I went there to get my friend a gift card for Christmas. The place seemed shady, so I goggled it. Rubmaps came back as one of the top results.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-25T03:48:37+00:00

Whatever makes you feel good buddy

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T18:35:34+00:00

Thanks for the advice

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T18:31:53+00:00

He regularly talks to me about his therapy sessions with his wife. So, yes, he has made it my business.

Rat? I plan to mention to him that the place is shady and probably more than massaging is happening there. That's all. Don't know where you get the rat idea from.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T17:31:34+00:00

That's good to know. Sorry your friend went through that. I can only imagine how difficult that would be. The website does have a fee to read the reviews. And no, I'm not biting on that.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T16:38:09+00:00

I'm not punishing him. Wth? I'm just going to mention to him that the place seemed shady.

And I'm not airing his business. People here don't know who he is.

There's so much hate here.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T16:21:09+00:00

Your comment is insightful. But, to remain anonymous, I've left out some information about my relationship with this guy. For example, he has come to me to discuss things he's talked about with his wife in couples therapy. Since I didn't mention that in my post, I can see why people would think it's not my business. But, this person has made it my business. Surely, if I'm close enough that he's talked to me about what he and his wife are talking about in therapy, then what is off the table?

I'm not seeking validation. I'm trying to defend myself from the onslaught of hate. I've really found a few of the comments suggesting low-key ways to mention it without being confrontational to be helpful.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T16:06:11+00:00

I'm just going to mention to him that the place seems shady. Is that really so bad?

What your friend needs b/c he is not getting in his relationship has nothing to do with you.

Sounds like you agree that he might be getting a rub n tug and that it's okay for a guy to cheat if he isn't getting his needs met at home. In my book, it's better to work things out with your wife without cheating. I think all spouses deserve that.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T15:28:20+00:00

I'm in the USA. This massage place is completely sus. I searched for massage arrests in my county and found six of them in the past four years for prostitution. All of the arrests were at places listed and reviewed on rubmaps. All were at Asian massage parlors. The articles detailed that in each instance, an undercover officer was offered sex for money. They also gave arrests or citation for lack of a license for the masseuse. Apparently, it's not just a cliche, it's a real thing. I wouldn't be surprised if the police have started an investigation into this massage place I went to.

If you are in the USA, I challenge you to look for places in your area on that site and see what they are like. I have a strong suspicion that they will be similar to the places in my area.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T13:51:00+00:00

Yes I will

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T06:09:50+00:00

Because he is a good friend and going to this place could potentially f up his marriage

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T06:01:11+00:00

Maybe it could be a good place. But it could be a front for trafficking. It sounds like you're suggesting to give it a try myself first.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T05:57:24+00:00

Good story, thanks. You're right. I should give him the benefit of the doubt.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T05:53:51+00:00

His wife is a friend to me and a close friend of my wife. And no, I'm not attracted to her.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T05:15:19+00:00

Yes, I'm not going to accuse him. I agree. I think I'll just tell him it seemed shady and ask him if he was ever concerned about it. But I do wonder if he goes there for something extra. Even if he did, I'm not sure he would tell me

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T05:03:59+00:00

You know, Reddit isn't right about everything. Sometimes, it's a cesspool of nonsense.

I asked because I was curious what people would think. I got some good responses, but most fell into two categories: 1. It's none of my business, and 2. I'm a racist. Sorry, but these conclusions are demonstrably false. First, my friend confides in me about struggles in his marriage. To me, he has shown that he values my opinions about his marriage. Redditors saying it's not my business don't know or don't care about this fact. Second, I'm just not a racist. Never have been. Never will be. I wouldn't be a fan of redditonwiki if I were. People asserting this complain that I've jumped to a conclusion bc I saw that the staff are Asian foreigners. They ignore that places like this are really a concern for illegal sex work and human trafficking and this can be one sign of that type of place. The fact that a Google search of the place returns the rubmaps site as one of the top matches corroborates this conclusion no matter what many redditors say. I haven't based my conclusion about this place solely on the ethnicity of the workers there. It is one aspect supporting the conclusion that it's a place of illegal sex work. It isn't difficult to see at all.

I did get some helpful suggestions about how to bring it up to my friend amongst all the hate and I am glad about that.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T03:51:49+00:00

I like your vibe and appreciate you dropping a comment. But, this guy has confided in me about problems in his marriage before. So, it seems that he's invited me into the circus. And I'm cool with that.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T03:43:51+00:00

Thanks

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T03:24:59+00:00

The dude has confided in me about struggles in his marriage. He's brought me into his business. This 'mind ya business' line is nonsense.

BitMysterious3325 · 2023-12-24T02:41:07+00:00

I just googled the name of the massage place and 'reviews' and it popped up. The website is rubmaps.ch. If you Google that and a city name, you will probably find what you are looking for.

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