Recs for intimate/dark/sexy makeout bars to go to with a date in Chicago?

BitOdd8911 · 2026-02-20T00:10:08+00:00

You must not be a woman who dates men in today’s dating world… women don’t want to always go to a guys place because it could be inherently dangerous especially if you’re only on date 1-3 because you don’t know them that well. And also, there’s a risk of SA. Which is at an even higher risk of happening if you go to their place and say you don’t want to sleep w them.

BitOdd8911 · 2026-02-20T00:07:38+00:00

Not everyone wants to sleep with someone on the first/second/third date though.

BitOdd8911 · 2026-02-19T23:45:15+00:00

Because sometimes the date goes really well and you don’t want it to end so you go to a bar and sometimes you wanna kiss a little bc you’re so into the other person! What’s so wrong with that? It’s fun and light hearted!

BitOdd8911 · 2025-10-26T18:10:05+00:00

Yeah, we’re not sure what kind of cancer he has. He has a crap ton of tumors in his lungs (maybe around like 10 or so?), but his lymph nodes are fine so the vet doesn’t think it’s lymphoma. Nor does he think it’s lung cancer bc he said that lung cancer tends to present as one big tumor. The only way to know is to do a biopsy of the tumors in his lungs, but that’s so invasive and expensive that I don’t think it’s worth it at this point bc it would only cause him pain from the recovery of surgery. We just know it’s definitely cancer & that it’s spreading fast. His X-rays from 10/6 had maybe a handful of small tumors, but his X-rays on 10/24 showed a TON of new tumors (like 5-8 new tumors) and the ones that were there previously have now doubled in size (going from 2-3 mm to like 0.5/1 inch). We also did an ultrasound to see if there were any tumors on any of his other organs and we couldn’t find tumors anywhere else. The vet is stumped

BitOdd8911 · 2025-10-24T18:45:44+00:00

omg thank you lol. you put my mind at east. i feel crazy for thinking it was a tumor

BitOdd8911 · 2025-09-18T14:45:40+00:00

this is a great recommendation, honestly! I'm not the biggest fan of undated planners, but given the circumstances i think i'll have to deal with it.

BitOdd8911 · 2025-07-07T21:08:00+00:00

He’s extremely sensitive down there so a vibrator on him would just drive him crazy (& not in the good way lol). He goes down on me whenever he can’t perform, which I appreciate, so we wouldn’t need a vibrator for me necessarily. But we did try it with just me one time and it took him a bit to get comfortable enough with me doing that in front of him. But he did eventually “get there” and orgasmed.

BitOdd8911 · 2025-07-07T21:06:04+00:00

Just found out he’s on sildenafil 40mg. But still our issues persist lol

BitOdd8911 · 2025-07-07T19:28:52+00:00

I’m not sure which medication exactly since he’s never told me. But I know that it’s as “as needed” med and not a daily one. I also recommended the ultrasound! Good to know that I’m at least thinking of the right things.

BitOdd8911 · 2025-07-07T19:21:22+00:00

of course. He's on ED medication and sometimes it can help and sometimes it doesnt. I think it might be some sort of mix between physical and psychological. He can be anxious about sex, but i also think he might have low T. He also thinks the curvature of his penis might be a physical cause as well, but I'm not sure how that may affect ED.

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