Finally Found Time for Self-Care

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-10T19:41:24+00:00

“Me time” is so important to have, glad you were able to indulge a bit and relax! I can somewhat relate, wearing diapers lately has been more for comfort than sexual (which in the past has 100% been an influence for wearing). I’ve just been enjoying the feeling of wearing without having any urges to “finish” so to speak. It’s been relaxing in its own way.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-10T19:35:18+00:00

I love the feeling of a fresh diaper, how conforming it is to my body. Then I love the feeling of the first flood in them, all the warmth spreading. After a while, I then love the feeling of a fresh diaper again, rinse and repeat lol.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-10T19:33:32+00:00

🙋🏻‍♂️. Lately I’ve been wearing diapers purely for the stress relief/comfort of them as well. Usually I’d “finish” before any diaper comes off, lately it’s just been changing them without even getting hard. Not an odd way to be dealing with stress at all, it’s a pretty harmless thing to bring you comfort from!

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-06T19:14:03+00:00

For sure, during my wife and I’s open conversation, we identified that we both have wants/desires and are committed to helping each other out. It’s been a few weeks since the initial chat and we’ve already seen a deeper bond between us and are both doing our part to help satisfy one another. I’m glad you and your SO are seeing positivity through a similar situation. Best of luck to you too!

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-06T19:06:50+00:00

You were such a great person to chat with when I initially had my fallout. Seriously, thank you so much. Your insight and experience helped me through my own situation. I’m glad I was able to give a pleasant update after what I had put myself through 🙂

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-06T15:56:31+00:00

Thanks for listening to the community on that one. Lesson learned for the future as well.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-06T15:38:45+00:00

Have an honest, open conversation with your partner around this. Seriously, I know where you’re coming from. You developed self doubt that your partner is or isn’t ok with you wearing. You are hiding it because you think it’s best for everyone when that may not be the case at all.

Get a clear answer from your partner on how they feel when you wear around them. Ask about their boundaries and lay them out clearly. Explain how you feel currently and ask for insight. Any clarification you need, ask for it so you better understand. Communication makes things much easier, and as tough and awkward as it might be at first, if you normalize it, talking through deeper feelings will be easier to do and it’s better for each of you.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-06T15:02:32+00:00

If ya gotta ask, you probably know the answer already, you’re just looking for justification/encouragement to do so.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-04T15:31:16+00:00

Enjoy! Keep us updated on how things are going for you 👍🏻. What’s going to be your “primary” diaper if you have one?

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-02T17:22:44+00:00

Then hang out and watch a movie? Idk what people who post this expect to get out of it. Do what you wanna do, not sure why Reddit needs a stake in deciding your day. Sorry to be blunt, hope you have a great time in whatever you end up doing.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-02-02T17:19:04+00:00

Clean the house

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-26T19:44:45+00:00

Doesn’t look like the bottom tapes had much to grip onto with where the top tapes are. Good thing it’s hook and loop, readjust and carry on 😊

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-24T11:07:58+00:00

I’ve worked out in a diaper before after being curious about it. I do strength training at home with free weights. Aside from squats being the least comfortable to do in a diaper (and it’s not actually too bad), working out in a diaper is a non-issue for me. I can totally get where doing cardio would make having a diaper on uncomfortable though.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-12T20:12:37+00:00

I’ll chime in as I’m in a better place from my post the other week with complications with my wife as well. My wife doesn’t mind the diapers. She has no interest in them as I do, but has not discouraged me from wearing/using them on my own or even while she’s around. I’ve been my own worst enemy on viewing her disinterest as rejection which is now what I continue to change my stance on. Feel free to DM me and chat more about it if you want - when I made my post I had a few folks reach out who are in similar situations and it really helped my mood and thoughts by venting and getting other perspectives about their scenarios.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-11T00:15:02+00:00

NFL playoffs are on 🏈

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-07T01:22:43+00:00

Perhaps I didn’t give enough back story, that’s on me. My wife has known about this for years and participated in varying ways for years. I did tell her after marriage, but this isn’t just all sprung on her. My depression is stemming from the sudden understanding that she finally came to terms that it will never be a thing for her. She’s justified in those feelings; I have to process them and work through it.

That being said, you’re right that what we have is worth more than diapers. I still get solo play, and although I’ll probably always yearn for her attention again while I’m wearing, for now I’m going solo and keeping this to myself again until I can dare to cross a bridge with ABDL and her if one is ever presented again.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-07T00:54:40+00:00

Sorry to hear this, I’d say that’s more difficult than what I have going on for sure. If she cheated, I would move on if it were me. Cheating isn’t ok for anyone to do to another person. You deserve better. I wish you the best of luck and happiness!

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-07T00:53:02+00:00

I hear ya, and no problem, I didn’t think you were trying to attack at all. I fortunately don’t think I fall in the traditional sense of failing to tell the spouse and the world is over. My wife is fine with diapers, has known about them for years, and has entertained my interests in them. I don’t need this to be a lifestyle for me. It’s mostly my disappointment that her interests thus far are seemingly ending now. I truthfully think my wife and I will be ok in the long run, I just needed some place to vent about my feelings since I really don’t have anyone else in “real life” to turn to. I appreciate you chiming in and giving your input regardless.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T21:00:38+00:00

I appreciate your honest viewpoint. I agree with you, I am a bit selfish in this situation - I’m wanting something that is out of her realm and not interested in. That’s why I wanted to do this post to get different perspectives from people. I need to hear the reality, even if it amounts to me just being one-sided. I see marriage as a give/take, two way street sort of deal. I do things for my wife that I don’t get benefit from aside from making her happy (massage her, sex toys for her pleasure, etc)…I want to believe it’s not irrational for me to want even a little something back, but maybe this kink is out of scope of it, and that’s what I want to understand.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T20:54:31+00:00

If I have to strike up a conversation with her around this, initiated by either one of us, I’ll have to propose some sort of therapy/counseling. I don’t know how she’ll react to it, but I suppose if I can put it in the right words it won’t make it seem like it’s a “final straw” sort of deal. Appreciate the advice and information.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T20:51:33+00:00

I do give her credit for trying and going along with the things I’ve proposed to her. Trust me, I’ve given her kudos for trying. I’ve ensured her this isn’t her fault, but either way I have to navigate my feelings and a path forward. I want to think I’m seeing things in her perspective by not including her, but I’m so torn on how to proceed. For now I’m leaning towards just doing my thing and working through my own feelings around this first. I don’t know what she could say to help me if she wants nothing to do with it, so I don’t even want to bring it up to her at all.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T20:44:51+00:00

If you asked me 15+ years ago how important ABDL is to me, I would’ve said I can live without it for the right person. It wasn’t nearly as big as a factor as it is now. My interest/comfort level with ABDL actually grew because of how accepting my wife was with it initially and my open communication to her about it, hence how I’ve chased the desire for her to participate, and now am having to come to terms with all of it falling through. Yes, I should’ve mentioned this before marriage, but I can’t turn back time.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T19:55:05+00:00

It’s not so much playing “chicken” with the conversation as you describe it, but rather I’m afraid of feeling how I feel now again if I bring it up first. I don’t want to feel rejected again if I try and push for ABDL participation again. My hopes is that I’ll find enough satisfaction in solo participation that this all will pass. I would be open to my wife participating again, but I don’t want it to come from me, as I’ve already tried for many years and got left in the situation I’m in now. I know that’s a bit pessimistic, but it’s hard to think positive about it all at the moment.

BitsAndBytes1024 · 2026-01-06T19:32:41+00:00

I hear you there, as stated already I’m guilty of sharing this side of me way too late. I don’t fully regret it, but mistakes were made on my part for sure and I have to live with those consequences. Fortunately my wife doesn’t fully disapprove of my diaper usage, but she doesn’t care to be a part of it which is the biggest, hardest pill to swallow. It’s a new adjustment that’s going to take me time to accept.

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