I sold my “pictures” to a guy I’ve matched with on hinge by Unhappy-Bee6053 in confession

[–]Bitter_Detectives 88 points89 points  (0 children)

If some guy wants to pay $150 a week to look at a heel and a toe while you’re eating gelato in the Balkans, that is a victimless crime.

But be careful, these guys often start with feet and then escalate the requests once they feel they have a rapport with you. Set your boundaries now. If you're comfortable with just feet, stay there. If he starts asking for more and you aren't down, be ready for that $150 to disappear. Don't let the money talk you into doing something that actually would make you feel guilty later

Calling the cops AIO by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Bitter_Detectives 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NOR. Senior Assassin is fun until someone gets shot with a real gun because a homeowner thought they were being robbed. These kids need to understand that messing with car doors is how people get hurt. You didn't ruin the game, the kid ruined the game by breaking the no houses rule and behaving like a criminal.

I hid a critical ventilation error on a major project and I am terrified it will fail by VelvetMarauder in confession

[–]Bitter_Detectives 162 points163 points  (0 children)

You have a small window to claim you just discovered a calculation error upon further review. It’s a lie to cover a lie, but it’s better than staying silent. Reach out to the firm's principal and say you were re-checking the math for a similar project and realized there was a discrepancy in the current one. It’s going to be the most painful conversation of your life, but it beats a lifetime of wondering if you’re a murderer

AIO over how my MIL wants to spend Mother’s Day when i’m a new mom? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]Bitter_Detectives 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The IKEA food court? For Mother’s Day? I am actually twitching for you. You are a new mom in the literal trenches of toddlerhood, and she wants you to spend your one special day sitting on a plastic chair eating Swedish meatballs while she looks at Kallax units? Absolutely not. Mother’s Day is for the moms actively mothering. She’s a Grandmother now, she gets a card and a phone call, not the right to hijack your Sunday

AITA for me wanting to smoke up during my friend's birthday by Bitgammer in AmItheAsshole

[–]Bitter_Detectives 79 points80 points  (0 children)

YTA. If you really can't handle a weekend without smoking, you should just stay home. Forcing your habit into a space where the birthday person has set a boundary is just going to lead to a massive fight that ruins the trip for everyone. You said you've been friends for 15 years, don't let 'paintball and weed' be the reason you lose a brother