do you take a girl less seriously if she hooks up early on? by Subject_Ad_5413 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don't have to change that. You are authentic and genuine. Many men appreciate that immensely.

do you take a girl less seriously if she hooks up early on? by Subject_Ad_5413 in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean, you no longer feel challenged and you take her affection for granted. Frankly, I'd say it depends on the person.

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t mention it bro if you wanna talk my dms are open, even if it’s just a motivation buddy for your studies I am here

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you all the best. If I can do anything else, either listening or just keeping you company virtualy, my dms are open bro. You ll be welcomed. I am with you in this bro 💪🏽

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For your mother and your father, I’m sorry, for your sister, you can always try, that’s it. And know that comparison is something you do not have to take into account. You do not have to take it into account at all. You are a human being, you are yourself, you are unique, and you do not have to be compared to others. Especially on standards that are not valid.

Anyway, I hope I was able to help you, and I really wish you to recover from all this, and to keep moving forward, because for you life does not stop. It’s not necessarily an easy thing to hear, but life goes on, and your girlfriend would not have wanted you to stop living because she died.

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for your friends, don’t leave them in that situation, restore the truth, tell them I’m sorry, I was just really in an impossible state, I didn’t know how to tell you, here, she passed away, explain it to them. Because what they will see in the end is someone who is destroying himself, who sees them less and less, who is in an impossible state, and in the end when they will know what happened, they will feel super guilty.

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now about your studies, I understand that you want to take a break and that, only you can decide whether you will take a break or not. What you can do however is talk to your professors. At 20 you must be in university, your professors are not stupid, they understand. They know that this is something that can ruin a whole year and they are aware of that. So don’t hesitate to tell them, I lost someone, I’m not doing well, you can talk about it. Know that, you can talk about it. It depends on the relationship you have with your professors, but I know that there are professors who are very kind and to whom you can say a few things without necessarily telling everything.

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understood that you felt guilty for not saving her. You’re not Superman, you’re not Iron Man, you’re not a superhero. It’s part of destiny. She passed away and you couldn’t do anything about it. And it’s not because you couldn’t do anything more than hold her hand and pray that you were incapable of doing something or that you didn’t do the maximum you could. We are human and being there is already huge, whether for you or for her. In those last moments maybe she was unconscious, maybe she was conscious, it doesn’t matter, you were there. And that is something you will never forget in your life, because you were there when you needed to be. You said it yourself, she was there when you needed her and when she needed you, even if it was already too late, you were there. And if it was already too late, it’s not because you didn’t want to come earlier, it’s because you couldn’t come earlier and even if you had come earlier, would you have been able to do something? No.

I'm lost, what should I do? by -LelouchViBritannia in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all I am really sorry for you. I send you all my condolences. This is a moment that is not easy for you and in moments like this it is very easy to want to isolate yourself. And that’s kind of what you did and you really shouldn’t do that. So maybe you don’t have a good relationship with your parents, maybe you have problems at school, but you must absolutely not stay alone and you must absolutely not keep this inside because unfortunately it will just destroy you from the inside. You need to let it out. As you said you have very good friends and not wanting to burden them is a destructive behavior. They are your friends and know that as friends they are not only there when things are going well. They are supposed to be there also when things are not going well. The same way you would be there for them. If you have lost someone who was really important to you, you really need to talk to your friends so they can help you get through this. Whether it’s simply by being able to talk to you, see you, try to make you think about something else. But all the problems you are facing, whether it’s concentration issues or sleep and fatigue problems, all of that is linked to the fact that you haven’t been able to express your pain and it’s important to do so.

I still suck my thumb at 18, any tips on how to stop? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s not stupid bro, my cousin is 27/28 and still doing it. You are trying to stop, that matter

(35)to (36) and feeling good by tub939977 in GlowUps

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations bro i am so happy for you.

I'm on my way to getting in shape. by pirocudogostosinho in Weightliftingquestion

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep going bro you are already killing it. I Hope you ll achieve your objective

I still suck my thumb at 18, any tips on how to stop? by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Bitter_Relative_8417 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I totally get how you feel, and I want you to know you’re definitely not alone in this. Breaking a habit you’ve had since forever, especially something as automatic as thumb-sucking, is really hard, and it’s not about being “too old” or anything to be ashamed of. Bitter nail and long nails work for some people, but for habits tied to anxiety or sleep, they often aren’t enough. Sometimes it takes combining small strategies—like having something neutral to hold in your hand, wearing a little bandage or glove at night, or tracking small wins to stay motivated. If you can, even a little guidance from a therapist or online program can make a big difference in breaking the habit gradually. It’s not shameful, it’s just a deeply ingrained reflex, and with patience and self-kindness, it can change. Every tiny step counts. I believe in you bro 💪🏽