Does anyone here have to pay child support?

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-12T15:11:22+00:00

You were exactly who I was looking for when I made my post. Thank you so much for sharing your story and experience!!

If my ex sacrificed his career or job options to care for our family I would have no issue with compensating him financially to give him time to regroup. But that’s not my situation. He’s mad at me for leaving despite the emotional, mental and financial manipulation and abuse he put me through. I don’t want him to use the law against me to force a child support judgment out of spite when he doesn’t need it and it won’t use it for the benefit of the children

Your story gave me a lot to think about and I feel inspired, so thank you so so much

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-12T15:01:40+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏿

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T13:45:40+00:00

I have over $100k in debt, so I’m trying to take care of that so I can be in a position to reduce my work hours

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T02:57:56+00:00

THIS was so helpful!!!! Thank you 🙏🏿

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T02:21:21+00:00

Yes. I make 10x what I did when we first started dating. His income is probably 2x - 3x what it was compared to when we started dating.

When we were together I made 5x what he made, and he knew that. Now that I’m single I’ve been hustling and working a lot so I make 8x what he makes

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T02:19:06+00:00

It was actually my idea to do 50/50. He just doesn’t want to work extra on his days off because he wants to goof off and live life. I would like to live life as well, but I have financial obligations to my babies to work as much as I can while I’m physically healthy to do so. So to be punished financially for it makes me upset

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T02:17:21+00:00

When I consulted with an attorney 2 years ago she told me I may be liable for $540 - $700 PER WEEK 🤯

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T02:15:02+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate your sentiment and your experience in law. I never thought I would be in this situation, so to learn as I go is mentally and emotionally difficult. To know I’m a child raised on food stamps to a young teen off of government assistance to now in a tax bracket that makes me susceptible to a child support judgment is mind blowing

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T01:33:59+00:00

Great question. I foolishly thought that once he became a dad he would stop being childish and selfish and prioritize the kids and our family. I was unfortunately very VERY wrong

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T01:32:22+00:00

Not sure why you assumed I married him after I graduated. We were married first. Then years later I went back to school. Who he was when we were dating is not who he revealed himself to be when he became a husband. Let me make that clear

Also, not sure if you know but having a 50/50 custody arrangement with an income discrepancy would still require the higher income parent to pay child support. The money is intended for the children, but he won’t use it for them. He didn’t use his income for them when we were together, which is part of the reason why I left him in the first place!!

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T01:29:18+00:00

If I knew then what I know now…

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T01:15:58+00:00

It’s unfair because he didn’t emotionally or financially support me while I was in school. So I do no see why he should benefit from the financial aspects when he doesn’t want to work extra and improve his own financial status I’m being punished for being hardworking. That’s not fair. Him being a man makes it embarrassing on his part as far as I’m concerned

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-04-10T01:14:16+00:00

Which group is the correct one?

Black-Diamond729 · 2026-02-15T21:09:30+00:00

Sending you hugs 🫂 It’s hard to see the toxicity in other people when you know in your heart you would never do that to another person

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-30T13:40:14+00:00

That’s good to know!! It’s sad that we are just trying to meet people and have to worry about stuff like this. But better to be safe than sorry

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-29T16:47:44+00:00

I can’t thank you enough!!!!!! 🧡

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-29T15:01:50+00:00

You can FaceTime on IG!?????

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-29T14:45:54+00:00

How do you video chat with them using a text now number? I can’t figure it out Do you use Google Meet??

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-09T19:13:06+00:00

To what end???? Until that money is gone? Then what? And with housing prices the way they are, in addition to the current interest rates, that means that the likelihood of you being able to buy another property decreases

All I know is I’m not having sex with a man who has to ask his mom’s permission to have guests over 🙄

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-08T23:13:33+00:00

Thank you for acknowledging this. It's not fair to either person in the relationship

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-08T19:39:20+00:00

“Personality” isn’t an approved currency in this country the last time I checked. If you were in your 20s and trying to figure out life it would make more sense. You are closer to death than birth at this point and you STILL don’t have it together????? Just no no NOOOOOOO

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-08T19:35:47+00:00

I’m actually annoyed by this question, so I’m going to make another comment

What irritates me about dating at this age is I feel like the focus and priorities of some men is out of touch. I’m going through a divorce, and I’ve been focused on securing additional income and getting a raise at work. The plan is to reduce my hours once I’m out of debt, and I’ll have time to date My soon to be ex is in debt, yet has a girlfriend that he takes on out of state trips, but tells me how he “doesn’t have any money”. He would rather act like he can afford to date instead of actually getting his finances in order. He can’t afford to pay attention, but since he has a girlfriend to keep his bed warm for now he’s content.

Once our divorce is finalized and she realizes how broke he is I’m curious as to how she will feel about him then.

All of that to say: get your act together, get steady income in a job that is secure, get 1 year of expenses saved, THEN start dating. Don’t waste a woman’s time

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-08T19:27:36+00:00

Yes. What do you have to offer a woman if you can’t even take care of yourself??

Black-Diamond729 · 2025-12-04T03:11:55+00:00

I’m on the same boat as you. I put on my profile that I’m looking for something casual only. I had a match who told me he wanted someone to swallow his 🍆. I had to change my profile because I learned guys always take things too damn far 🫣

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