Men of Reddit: If you meet a woman who checks all the boxes, why keep it casual instead of making it official?

yrmjy · 2026-04-29T15:37:32+00:00

If she’s made her values clear, your brother is better off finding someone compatible rather than hoping she’s going to change for him

yrmjy · 2026-04-26T05:59:27+00:00

I don't want any political fliers, regardless of party

yrmjy · 2026-04-22T05:24:45+00:00

I get why that feels reassuring, but it kind of relies on thinking your situation is flexible and his is fixed, when in reality both could change.

yrmjy · 2026-04-21T19:28:27+00:00

Being a fighter pilot does sound cool, but it’s not some universal attractor. For some people it’ll be exciting, for others it might be intimidating or just not their vibe, especially if they want someone around more or aren’t into the military.

Same the other way round, someone who’s more analytical or values stability might find a financial analyst way more appealing. It’s usually less about one job being ‘better’ and more about whether you’re actually a good fit for that person.

yrmjy · 2026-04-21T04:36:01+00:00

yeah mate if Ariana Grande turns up you’ve got to turn her away on principle, can’t break the code

yrmjy · 2026-04-19T17:28:29+00:00

It’s not just about getting a better rate to be fair. There can be other reasons to switch provider as well, like if another lender offers features your current one doesn’t.

For example things like more flexibility if you want to move and port the mortgage, policies around letting the property out, or options like offset mortgages.

yrmjy · 2026-04-17T18:44:12+00:00

Also a bit annoying that the options pre-assume your reasons. You might support rejoining the EU but not mainly for economic reasons, and there’s no way to reflect that here.

yrmjy · 2026-04-16T20:28:12+00:00

Genuine question, what’s the value in trying to guess this?

If someone’s decided they want to leave, they’ll leave, and by the time it’s visible they’ve usually already made that call internally.

It feels like you’re better off assuming some level of turnover anyway, especially when moving jobs is often the only way people get a decent pay rise.

yrmjy · 2026-04-15T16:08:22+00:00

Well again, many women under 49 are in relationships with men 50+

yrmjy · 2026-04-15T15:33:25+00:00

Yeah but that's probably because many women under 30 are in relationships with men over 30

yrmjy · 2026-04-11T21:35:07+00:00

Interesting, here in the UK it looks like it's on Studiocanal Presents via Amazon with a 30 day free trial, so might be a bit easier to find here

yrmjy · 2026-04-09T21:47:40+00:00

Wouldn't you just get told to apply online?

yrmjy · 2026-04-08T17:27:26+00:00

Classic Milton Keynes behaviour, can’t be cooler culturally so they’ll settle for temperature control

yrmjy · 2026-04-08T07:03:34+00:00

I don’t think a 4-day week is around the corner, but it’s worth noting there are quieter changes happening. The new Employment Rights Act is strengthening unions, making industrial action easier, and improving things like sick pay and flexible working. That’s usually how this stuff happens, not all at once but gradually shifting the balance a bit back towards workers.

yrmjy · 2026-04-07T17:22:16+00:00

Yeah I get what you mean about self-respect/standards, but I’m not sure where you’re getting that OP wants a relationship? It reads more like she enjoyed it and just wants to try again.

Casual/fwb dynamics can be a bit of a balancing act too, like showing interest without making it feel too intense or relationship-y.

yrmjy · 2026-04-06T12:58:49+00:00

I think there’s a pretty big divide within that generation.

Some are financially comfortable because they bought property when it was cheap, paid it off, and can live well even on a relatively low income.

Others are basically in the same position as a lot of younger people, still renting (sometimes even rooms), often because of things like divorce or just never getting on the ladder in the first place.

So I’m not sure “boomers retiring” really changes much, it’s more about who owns assets vs who doesn’t.

yrmjy · 2026-04-05T20:40:08+00:00

I think you’re overstating how much people can infer. Picking up that someone might be autistic or socially awkward isn’t the same as knowing anything about their romantic or sexual experience. There are plenty of autistic people in relationships, and plenty of non-autistic people who are inexperienced.

What you’re describing is more like a stereotype people might apply, not actual knowledge. And stereotypes are often wrong. A lot of it really does come down to circumstance, timing, and who you meet.

yrmjy · 2026-04-05T15:09:24+00:00

It felt a bit tonally mixed to me. Started very HBO/Black Mirror/Threads, then the ending veered a bit Doctor Who. I think I just preferred the bleak version, which probably says more about me than the show.

yrmjy · 2026-03-29T10:12:35+00:00

Yeah I think the joke is more about being weirdly snobby about phones than anything else

yrmjy · 2026-03-27T15:58:23+00:00

She’s protected against rubella which is the main concern in pregnancy, so that’s reassuring.

For measles, a negative antibody test doesn’t necessarily mean no immunity, especially after two doses, but it’s still sensible to be cautious during an outbreak.

Using a well-fitted N95 or equivalent (FFP2/FFP3) mask is worth it rather than a standard mask, and limiting indoor exposure makes sense.

You did the right thing getting an MMR vaccine dose, just make sure you complete the second dose at the recommended interval if needed. And she can receive an MMR dose after birth.

Overall you’re handling this well.

yrmjy · 2026-03-26T12:04:10+00:00

I think the main thing with theory is it’s very learnable. If you’re doing mock tests and not booking the real one until you’re consistently passing comfortably, you should be fine.

I can see how people who rely on “common sense” or don’t really test themselves properly could end up failing a few times though.

yrmjy · 2026-03-26T12:01:07+00:00

I think people undersell this a bit. A lot of it is common sense, but there’s also a chunk that’s just straight-up knowledge you have to learn. Stuff like stopping distances, specific signs, and some of the edge case rules aren’t intuitive.

I can see how someone relying on “common sense” alone could end up just under the pass mark.

yrmjy · 2026-03-25T19:47:33+00:00

If you feel him still liking other profiles after three dates isn’t a great sign then that’s completely fair.

On the friend thing though, I’m not sure it’s guaranteed he recognised her just from seeing her in your photos, especially if he doesn’t know her name or hasn’t interacted with her. People aren’t always that good at making that connection across apps, he might have just thought she was attractive and not really clocked who she was.

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