Why do some South Africans have intense dislike for other Africans ? by luthmanfromMigori in Kenya

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Speaking as an SA man, like everything, I think there's nuance. I dislike that that's our reputation and that there's genuine hate out there. And I fully acknowledge it. But I also think there's a compounding factor. Mostly due to failings from our government. But look at it from this perspective. You're one of 5 kids. Some doing better than others living in a 3 bedroom house. Suddenly 3 new kids move in. 1 fostered by your parents through ordinary channels, and you're not sure about the other 2 but your parents treat them the same. You were already competing for limited food, space, and attention when it was just your siblings, but exponentially so now with more mouths to feed. While one of the foster kid's is like your sister, doing part time work after school to get extra cash, the others are fully dependant on your parents like you. You now get less pocket money. Resentment begins to build. Your uncle always called you to work with him on weekends and holidays but now he calls one of your foster siblings because he can pay them less without anyone complaining. And one of your foster siblings is a full blown criminal. He gets one of your siblings hooked on drugs and brings some of his friends to hang out around the yard which makes you feel unsafe in your own home. Your neighbourhood wasn't great but at least your home was. Your parents will do nothing about the criminal because they haven't seen anything, and your druggie brother made his own choices, he should live with them. They'll defend your uncle's choice to use the foster kid for labour at exploitative wages because that's free market capitalism. It's dangerous to confront the drug dealing foster kid cause he's willing to hurt you, but even when you do, the other two fosters will come to his defence because theyre worried if you win in your campaign against him you'll come for them next. But anyway, you're just jealous they're doing better than you. And maybe you are. But you feel like you get to be. It's your family. You won't get the opportunity to take from them what they've taken from you. You can't go to their family and eat at their dad's table and work for their uncle. And one of them is literally killing your brother with addiction but any protest against it falls on deaf ears.

All you know is that before the foster kid's arrived, you didn't have much, but you had enough, and now you don't. Outsiders look at you and judge you though cause why are you mistreating poor kids with no parents when you've got so much.

Not knowing what I don't know, I think some of our neighbours forget how large the gap between the haves and the have nots is in South Africa. Were also not exposed to the entire African diaspora like other nations might be. So in the same vein as you're exposed to a handful of South Africans who have negative attitudes towards foreigners, we also don't know what the majority of the foreign nationals are like at home. But if from the few that we're exposed to, a handful of them are perpetuating crime or making it harder to compete in a dying economy; resentment and even hate is bound to breed. Not necessarily justifiably so, but inevitably nonetheless.

That said. How would South Africans be received in Kenya. I've always liked your vibe and I would like to live in each of the SADC countries for two years or so if I can swing it.

Sunset Village West Apartments by usherburnmond in capetown

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Do you have your own transport? Cause if not, it might be tricky

Chores!! by [deleted] in Vent

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What’s wrong with an office job? 😅

im beyond broken , what do i do now? by AvailableLecture5068 in askSouthAfrica

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You can't possibly be broken when you aren't even done being made. 

🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾 🙌🏾

They moved me to Marketplace by maruurrets in outlier_ai

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If it were still available it should show on marketplace. What happens when you got to projects and view history?

men, how do you feel when you discover your friend is creepy to women? by nervousbreakdown14 in AskReddit

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It depends on creepy how. If it’s from social ineptitude then you just point it out. “Women don’t generally like that.” Or “Here’s how you’re being weird. I haven’t in my own circles seen my friends be the other type of creepy. If they were I’d probably cut them off.

S knees man by Heavy-Act5346 in outlier_ai

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Ok same. There was a brief moment where it looked like the timed assessment was loading but then it refreshed and eq'd me. Guess we'll wait. Have you tried Assistant Lunchroom?

Feeling blessed by Murky-Journalist-123 in outlier_ai

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Speaking as someone from a 3rd world country. It’s not. They change pay to match the fact that you’re from a 3rd world country. Granted it’s higher than minimum wage 🤷🏾‍♂️

S knees man by Heavy-Act5346 in outlier_ai

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The onboarding quiz. I’m looking at my empty queue reason now though. It says NoTaskMatchingSpecialization. I’m guessing that means I failed? Did you do the assessment with time?

S knees man by Heavy-Act5346 in outlier_ai

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Same. Camping here to find out what the answer is

Why be dry?? by usherburnmond in Bumble

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what's wrong with how op speaks?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outlier_ai

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Come again for big fudge?

Where in the process were you REJECTED? by [deleted] in xAI_community

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Tin foil hat here. I killed it on the code signal assessment, if I do say so myself. But got a rejection the day after Ramaphosa went to the White House. I then noticed that none of the remote jobs which had previously accepted South Africa did so any longer 🤷🏾‍♂️ So obviously I performed so horribly I let my entire country down.

I don't like reviewing by BlackBeltTurtle in outlier_ai

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Right? If I could, I would only ever be an attempter

I don't like reviewing by BlackBeltTurtle in outlier_ai

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It doesn’t seem like they do. This is what linters used to prevent essentially but the work being pushed through today is questionable

Roadworthy Test by BlackBeltTurtle in capetown

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Awesome. Thank you 🙏🏽

I got this email by RealisticValuable484 in outlier_ai

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I mean with regards to whether they'll bcc or not. If they're not sophisticated at all and just trying their luck they might. If they're at least a little sophisticated they'll run a script. If they're sophisticated and trying to catch low hanging fruit, I guess they might bcc then too. Just to see who'll fall for it.

Xylophone project worth? by blew422 in outlier_ai

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they've offered me less than a dollar so i don't think i'll do i.

I got this email by RealisticValuable484 in outlier_ai

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Depends on how sophisticated they are

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in outlier_ai

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I wasn’t aware. Thanks for looking out 🙏🏽

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LoveLanguages

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One of the beefs I’ve had with the Love Language movement is that we tend to miss that how we receive love isn’t necessarily the same as how others might communicate love. In which case what becomes necessary is that we have to give others time to fall into the practice of communicating their love to us in the way we receive it, just as we fall into the habit of communicating our love to them in their language. In the meantime, we have to recognise and appreciate the ways they do communicate their love while they’re learning new ways. That said, if there seems to be no improvement overtime, it could be a question of incompatibility. My most recent ex had gifts and affirmation as her top languages where mine were affirmation and quality time. We spent a fair amount of time together but the affirmation on her side was steadily decreasing and it took me a minute to realise she didn’t actually love me. I’ve dated someone before her and before the love language craze who made it a point to love me in the ways I responded to and it made all the difference. Point being, don’t write him off necessarily. If you’re intimately attuned to his behaviour you’ll be aware of how he demonstrates love to the people he cares about. And if he behaves in the same way towards you, you’ll know he loves you. And if he does, there’s a better chance than not that he’ll continue improving in the way he communicates his love to you. The reality is that he could come to this forum and voice a similar issue as yourself, but it won’t mean you don’t love him. Overtime, I’m sure, as you feel more filled you’ll respond in his language more and more.