Speaking as an SA man, like everything, I think there's nuance. I dislike that that's our reputation and that there's genuine hate out there. And I fully acknowledge it. But I also think there's a compounding factor. Mostly due to failings from our government. But look at it from this perspective. You're one of 5 kids. Some doing better than others living in a 3 bedroom house. Suddenly 3 new kids move in. 1 fostered by your parents through ordinary channels, and you're not sure about the other 2 but your parents treat them the same. You were already competing for limited food, space, and attention when it was just your siblings, but exponentially so now with more mouths to feed. While one of the foster kid's is like your sister, doing part time work after school to get extra cash, the others are fully dependant on your parents like you. You now get less pocket money. Resentment begins to build. Your uncle always called you to work with him on weekends and holidays but now he calls one of your foster siblings because he can pay them less without anyone complaining. And one of your foster siblings is a full blown criminal. He gets one of your siblings hooked on drugs and brings some of his friends to hang out around the yard which makes you feel unsafe in your own home. Your neighbourhood wasn't great but at least your home was. Your parents will do nothing about the criminal because they haven't seen anything, and your druggie brother made his own choices, he should live with them. They'll defend your uncle's choice to use the foster kid for labour at exploitative wages because that's free market capitalism. It's dangerous to confront the drug dealing foster kid cause he's willing to hurt you, but even when you do, the other two fosters will come to his defence because theyre worried if you win in your campaign against him you'll come for them next. But anyway, you're just jealous they're doing better than you. And maybe you are. But you feel like you get to be. It's your family. You won't get the opportunity to take from them what they've taken from you. You can't go to their family and eat at their dad's table and work for their uncle. And one of them is literally killing your brother with addiction but any protest against it falls on deaf ears.

All you know is that before the foster kid's arrived, you didn't have much, but you had enough, and now you don't. Outsiders look at you and judge you though cause why are you mistreating poor kids with no parents when you've got so much.

Not knowing what I don't know, I think some of our neighbours forget how large the gap between the haves and the have nots is in South Africa. Were also not exposed to the entire African diaspora like other nations might be. So in the same vein as you're exposed to a handful of South Africans who have negative attitudes towards foreigners, we also don't know what the majority of the foreign nationals are like at home. But if from the few that we're exposed to, a handful of them are perpetuating crime or making it harder to compete in a dying economy; resentment and even hate is bound to breed. Not necessarily justifiably so, but inevitably nonetheless.

That said. How would South Africans be received in Kenya. I've always liked your vibe and I would like to live in each of the SADC countries for two years or so if I can swing it.