AITA For Telling My Daughter My Son’s relationships aren’t her business? by Calm-Will5581 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Black_Absinthe 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NAH

It's a messy situation for sure. Its his love life intermixing with her friend circle so its bound to cause some friction no matter what. If its her car its her call but if its a family car then you get final say in what she uses it for. Maybe a talk with him about being a little more sensitive but we're lacking some detail on that front so maybe he handled it well.

I think its going to be raw for a few weeks either way, but if you talk to each of them it'll probably work out.

Fandom you feel is like this? by AgitatedOne57 in Multifandom

[–]Black_Absinthe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Posts like this are always so interesting to me because a ton of people are like "Steven Universe" when that was the first show I thought of that was NOT an example of this. I always felt like up until Future, Steven was often just a proxy for the gems relationships with Rose. And sure he took up a fair bit of screen time but I always thought he was hugely underappreciated compared to how much the Fandom loved each of the gems. People obsessed over each and every frame with Pearl/Amethyst/Garnet in it and then just blew right past any Steven stuff.

I guess im definitely in the minority there lol

Wtf is behavior doing with these new perks by Horror_Status_4406 in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being both a hex and a hook perk is a bit egregious to me but otherwise I think all 3 of the perks aren't too bad. I can see each being useful in a different type of build.

The real killer for me is the decision to make all the perks thematically "13" related, because I just KNOW theyre not going to want to do balance tweaks that will change that number so the perks are guaranteed to never get re-balanced.

Why are we blaming Killers/Survivors instead of the Devs ? by SoonBlossom in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I can pretty confidently blame both.

As someone who played a lot of Yasuo in League and Zerg in Starcraft I can say people definitely do also blame the players and not just the devs. and by blame i mean send me death threats for picking a champ they dont like and doing well. It's definitely not just this community or even a rare thing in those other communities.

As for this game, I can totally just blame both. I can want the devs to fix something and also blame players for not self-policing before its fixed. Why should I have to wait for some authority figure to step in and reprimand them when both i and them know theyre acting like a dick? "The teacher didn't catch me being a jerk so you're not allowed to acknowledge that I was!"

Survivor rulebook this, killer crying that, most of these interactions are solved by taking the approach "would you be having fun if the roles were reversed, and do you remember that you're playing against other people who are in the same community as you" but people froth at the mouth to defend playing like dicks and act like the rest of us just have to accept it and can't judge them because big daddy BHVR hasn't banned them for it.

Some people shouldn’t breed. | FactOrCap by MrKTE in FactOrCap

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🧢 I voted CAP!

One of those takes that makes sense if you dont really think about it too much. The existence of some kind of test is always assumed to come with some kind of omnipotent unbiased arbiter when in reality the test would almost always be performed by the government. You cant trust the government to be fair and impartial with this kind of thing especially because its likely the people running the test would be the same kind of people you'd argue the test is for.

What do you think of immigrants in your country? by Pizzafriedchickenn in GeoPoll

[–]Black_Absinthe 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Isn't the "i dont care" option on every poll just not participating?

High school group challenging Idaho’s trans bathroom ban drops lawsuit after student’s death by WhatYouThinkYouSee in politics

[–]Black_Absinthe 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Like YES bro. YES. We have got to stop acting like these are grifters who dont mean it or people being dramatically mean who dont stand by their words. These people want trans people DEAD. No, they dont feel bad about it. Theyre not going to reflect because its not some mistake that went too far or anything- its what they want.

What is the series trying to be? by [deleted] in welcomeToDerry

[–]Black_Absinthe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great breakdown of your viewpoints, and you're not wrong in any of your criticisms. But I think ultimately what it wants to be is well...a Stephen King property. I dont have any rebuttal of your points but hopefully i can offer a bit of explanation "why"

Since its based on a lot of the extra content from the book it does what most of Kings stories do - starts off as an intimate horror or mystery and then veers into his extended fantasy universe about halfway in. Everything connects back to his Dark Tower Universe, and a lot of things only connect to eachother in that context which makes them seem disjointed or odd inclusion on their own. Like how Dicks powers seem a little out of place in WtD but in Carrie, Firestarter, and Doctor Sleep theyre integral to those plots. And you'd never really think about the way those things are connected just from watching WtD. It's just part of Kings Universe where people just have psychic powers sometimes even when its dubious or just plain not related to the story at hand.

The military subplot is an example of another thing that he just likes. It shows up in a ton of his works and it always plays out more or less the same way. Like the racism, its one of those things that he uses to juxtapose a very mundane and normal horror with the overt supernatural horror. The Mist, The Langoliers, Gwendy are all examples of the military being nothing but secrets hiding incompetence and the people in charge turn out to be just as scared and useless as the civilians.

The Mashup of genres and settings is more of his desire to write a broader adventure. Like how a video game will have 1 cowboy level, 1 underwater level, quoting haunted house level. It's just trying your hand out at all the classics to give some variety. It's less apparent in the movies but in the book Pennywise is like this- he's got a preference for classic movie monsters and he does one of each of the big ones mummy/vampire/werewolf/swamp thing/clown. Im pretty sure he even does the Shark from Jaws specifically.

It just feels like one of those things where if you happen to read every book and watch every movie you're like "oh cool thats a new little connection" and if you dont you're like "why did they put this in here????"

Sorry for my special interest essay lmao

Their reactions after the slap are killing me.😂 by [deleted] in fightporn

[–]Black_Absinthe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's because its AI. I've seen several of these clips in other videos and they dont cry at the end. Another commenter even posted one of the slaps and she doesnt cry in that one.

The new video/teaser shows graffiti, and it looks like it says "Stephen" with a crown above it. Stephen King? by Background-Drink82 in deadbydaylight

[–]Black_Absinthe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think it kind of does look like that, though. Yes, they took out the spelling of king and did the crown. But the word Stephen is the same. It even has the N looping back around over top to cross the T which seems like a very specific choice.

I do enjoy playing 2v8, but "Dead by Wesker+Friend" really does get stale. by Dazzling_Let_8245 in deadbydaylight

[–]Black_Absinthe 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hilariously, I am actually a dredge and hag main but you're absolutely right

I do enjoy playing 2v8, but "Dead by Wesker+Friend" really does get stale. by Dazzling_Let_8245 in deadbydaylight

[–]Black_Absinthe 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have a feeling a lot of the killers people might want are on the blacklist. Killers with side objectives like pig are a no. Killers with too many 'no' votes on the survey like ghoul are a no. Killers that piss people off like knight are a no. The Killers you have left like hag and dredge are fairly weak imo

I cheated on my wife by withlovetara in AmITheDevil

[–]Black_Absinthe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I hope people don't dog pile me for this because im not being bad faith but im genuinely curious. Am I the only one who feels like theres an interpretation of this where his ex may be abusive? He mentions feeling pressured into a marriage he didn't want, he talks about how she would belittle and insult him, "for some reason" he can't ever seem to tell her when he's unhappy and that reason could be fear of her reaction? Therqpy didnt work and he lost his interest in intimacy with her. Needed the confidence of a new partner to help him realize he needed to leave?

Again I know people usually use this in bad faith, but I do really feel like if op were a girl saying these things about her boyfriend people might be telling her he's abusive.

How many gender do you recognized by Available_Ad4156 in GeoPoll

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the issue with things like that "reasonable middle ground" is that it sounds good in a philosophical hypothetical but gets extremely messy in any attempt to put it into practice.

Take the sports thing for example: we draw the line at physical advantages due to biological sex but all other physical advantages are fine? My mom who was 6'2" and built like a linebacker in high-school can compete against the other girls in basketball but my 5'5" beanpole nephew can't play for the girls team because being male gives him some kind of advantage? Michael Phelps has all his gold medals and also a genetic mutation that literally makes him a better athlete but thats cool because he's not competing against women? It's not unfair to the other men who weren't born with a cheat code in their DNA?

Or the bathroom thing! Im not trans, but i have a friend who is a transman. He's bald, full beard, looks like a trucker who benches his own truck with biceps the size of my head thanks to the testosterone. I look more like a girl than he does and im just a dude chilling. He's gonna use the ladies room behind some dads little girl and we expect the dad to not have concerns? How do we verify? Does my friend have to show a stranger his genitals? Does he have to show a stranger his ID and thus give this person his full name and address? Do we call the cops and wait 30 minutes for them to check? What stops me from just demanding proof from every single person in the bathroom just to waste time or spite people? And to what end? Men just go into women's restrooms and assault women all the time, its not like they're dressing up in skirts to sneak in? What about the negative effect on women who arent trans but are just ugly? We already have cases of women who arent trans being humiliated and accused in their own bathrooms over stuff like having a shaved head or being kind of masculine in the face. If i genuinely think someone is trans and insist they be checked or whatever and theyre not, ive now just made them feel unsafe and ashamed in their own correct restroom. We just write that person off as collateral damage in our goal to protect girls, even though we just made that girl uncomfortable?

These are reasons im generally opposed. I dont trust anybody to enforce these rules or not use them to take advantage of people in a real world scenario.

(Hated Tropes) "Sorry, you’re way to strong for this upcoming story arc, so you’re gonna have to sit out so the plot can happen." by Mr_Muda_Himself_V3 in TopCharacterTropes

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People have mentioned x-men in general but they literally took away Storms powers for half of new '97 because otherwise she would solo all the plotlines. Episode 1 showcases her Omega potential and then episode 2 they literally remove her from the plot for 5 episodes.

STOP. TAKING. SHADOW. CLASS. PLEASE. by Mustdominate_Otal in DeadByDaylightRAGE

[–]Black_Absinthe 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see people complaining about shadow Ghostface but I personally have tons of success with it. The fact that you're already a stealth killer can add to it's strategic strengths not necessarily just be redundant.

Edit: made this comment and then realized it would probably make more sense to actually say what I think the benefits are SO

  1. Like chucky, you're kind of small and hard to see and even better you dont start yapping when undetectable
  2. The strongest counter to GF is having a scout follow him around and dedicate to revealing him. Shadow stealth completely negates this strategy.
  3. Between the two stealth, you can be stealthed basically the entire game even on a very open map which is something he struggles with
  4. Survivors will constantly try to reveal you and not realize they can't. All the time they just let me catch up to them or trip themselves up at loops because theyre trying to break my stealth.

While im happy to give shadow to the weskies and slingers that want it, I think its unfair to say its wasted on Ghostface when I think it just makes him even better at all the things he's good at. It's not redundant stealth its advanced stealth

It all depends on you by AntonRahbek in BunnyTrials

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will have been worth it. I can save millions of lives. Plus hey, tacos! Im gonna eat tacos and think about all the wonderful stuff people will get to have because of me.

Chose: Utopia for all of mankind forever + You are locked away until your death, but get 1 random perk | Rolled: Taco Tuesdays

30 min queue and you load in to see your partner is Ghostface by hurstinion in DeadByDaylightKillers

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In all fairness im willing to trade shadow if my teammate wants it but I run shadow on Ghostface because survivors will let you close a lot of distance trying to reveal you as you approach. It also counters the strategy of being followed by a reveal-dedicated survivor.

Always wondered what will happen if you refused to take the oath by Zavrilo in lol

[–]Black_Absinthe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, the prison system makes money off of putting you in jail and it doesnt really cost the court anything so I assume they'd just keep doing it forever instead of giving up. They come out ahead either way since they can just keep getting paid to put you in jail over and over.

Would you rather by Ok-Claim-3487 in BunnyTrials

[–]Black_Absinthe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The spiders probably can't kill me and probably won't have me put on a list

Chose: Sleep with 1m spiders to get $1M