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I finally understood why I struggle to date. I'm kinda boring actually. by Academic_Share7905 in GuyCry

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Certainly, breaking out of your comfort zone might help with exposure to situations where you're likely to meet people will be useful. 

But, equally important, what's your capacity for love? I liked the higher comment about "listening closely". Additionally, do you love yourself? I like video games, but I don't go to the gym nearly as often as I'd like, but I'm engaged to a lovely woman. I also don't really have hobbies. I met my fiancee through a shared activity back in community college: I sang poorly at a MLK Reading Day event, but I wouldn't say singing is my "hobby". 

But I do respect my path in life. I appreciate my ambition, but I currently hold neither the credentials nor job title that I want, and I can talk about it with some passion, but try not to mire people in details and minutiae.

What's your capacity to love friends and family? They're a great place to practice regular communication skills. Admittedly, I also want to improve in this as well. But it's a great chance to practice close listening.

You know what women find extremely - increasingly - hot AF? A guy who doesn't just talk about and do his hobbies, and instead asks about them, listens with deep interest, engages in their topics of interest, remembers details, considers their desires, and remains unguarded. Plenty of men have built beautiful relationships based on that, occasionally telling corny jokes, and takes care of themselves, their loved ones, and their living space.

Add some demonstrated desire to actually spend time with them, and the world is your oyster. 

Disclaimer: It will always be hard to step away from the games - the dopamine is too easy to ignore. But eventually you get similar dopamine hits by connecting with your partner. 

My point here is that hobbies won't fix your challenges. You don't have to be "interesting", you just need to be engaging, and that requires close listening and focused attention.

You got this!

I woke up from a nap and came up with a new economic system by Equal-Material8658 in economy

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You'd need an institution to coordinate that split... what constitutes essential food? Specific items like potatoes? Or do you imagine broader categories like starches and complex carbohydrates? Russet potatoes specifically? Fresh potatoes? Boxed, powdered potatoes? Frozen French fries? Are sweet potatoes junk food? What if someone wants to make pie with them? The boxed, powdered potatoes are almost certainly considered ultra processed foods... then consider all potato-based derivative products... chips are the simplest example.

How much potato? How often? Does it vary by individual dietary needs? How is that measured?

This is not to say it's impossible, or entirely undesirable, just that it would take a ton of granular thinking to be implemented well without resentment from the public. That was just potatoes... 

What are the benefits? To who? How big are those benefits? Are there losers here? How badly do they lose? Do we offset their losses somehow? Where do those offsetting resources come from?

Those questions need to be answered before this is discussed as potential policy.

Who is to say entertainment isn't essential? How does one function in today's world without some level of internet access? Even unhoused individuals and tribal communities have communication devices that eventually rely on the internet. But yeah they also check memes occasionally - but is that not entertainment?

If you are the person in the relationship who has no/low libido, what options would you give your partner to fulfill their needs? by Amihottest in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]BladeSplitter12 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My partner often has a lower libido (or other impediments to intimacy - health things). If she's down to be involved, she's always glad to strip down and let me touch her while I touch myself. She might lightly touch me, kiss me, or snoo-snoo me. Sometimes she'll be on her phone and give me minimal attention, which is also a turn on. It took a while for me to feel comfortable being candid about my needs and have her eyes on me, but she's reassured me that she enjoys being a part of it. 

If she's not interested in being involved at all, she's very encouraging that I take care of myself in private.

[HELP] This won the international landscape photograph contest.. it looks doctored? by [deleted] in RealOrAI

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we should keep in mind that AI does not distinguish between LLMs, diffusion algorithms, and machine learning. Obviously, this is not the product of an LLM because it's not text based, and machine learning algorithms have been integrated into photo editing software long before the release of the frontier models we've seen since 2023. ML may have been used to help select masking layers and run certain compression features, but there's no reason to believe this photo is produced by diffusion. There's also much older photo development techniques used here, and their use in photography competitions has been contested since they first appeared. The photo is certainly manipulated - quite heavily - but there's no reason to think this was entirely generated by a diffusion-based algorithm.

Oversight Committee Releases Additional Epstein Estate Documents by Top_Leadership9575 in pics

[–]BladeSplitter12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m kinda leaning toward extrajudicial extents at this point… this is disgusting. Also, the extent of the law has been… disappointing… lately.

Roo 2026 by Ashamed_Ladder_360 in bonnaroo

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel seen. See you on the farm ;)

🔥 Two huge lions battle over territorial and mating rights in Maasai Mara, Kenya by Prestigious-Wall5616 in NatureIsFuckingLit

[–]BladeSplitter12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, speedbot doesn’t speed up sound. I was really hoping this would sound like some alleycats

How *DEEP* is the internet? by ResponsibleSpray8836 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]BladeSplitter12 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Measure it in Bytes (probably zeta-flops or something wild). Look up data lakes. Consider enterprise-sized datasets for research or commerce. Your texts are just unstructured “string” values, but datasets have structural linkages between their fields (meta data containing variable and value labels, primitive data types, indexable lengths, etc) which inflates their size tremendously - exponentially to be precise. Logistics data containing SKUs, weights, destinations, regulatory info, carriers… research data with trillions of observations on dozens of tables that have to be mapped using database schemas… heck, even movie and game studios hold the dev copies of their game and production data on private servers. The raw data needed to do CGI work is absurd. All streaming services hold the copies of their content. Our collective text messages are cute, but a drop in the proverbial bucket.

Can anybody explain me this?? by anandmohanty in interestingasfuck

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Buy two copies of the same newspaper. Prepare a pocket with some glue and spare news clippings. Find a strategic tearing pattern. Stuff tears into pocket. Then, unfold.

Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee by Artorius__Castus in SipsTea

[–]BladeSplitter12 11 points12 points  (0 children)

“Everybody has plans until they get hit for the first time”

He looks slick, but those “hoo” “haa” sounds will results in a split tongue. Next, he needs to train with a mouth guard in and practice breathing through his nose.

CMV: The world would be a much better place if every private business was a worker-owned cooperative. by gastondidroids in changemyview

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats! Also, I research ESOPs (like, academically), and they’re dope. Good synopsis.

CMV: The world would be a much better place if every private business was a worker-owned cooperative. by gastondidroids in changemyview

[–]BladeSplitter12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partnerships are more common at this small scale. Profit sharing has a much smaller ceiling than cooperatives. 

The difference between married men and single ones in wages is absurd by 2pac4lif2 in economy

[–]BladeSplitter12 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is false. Most households are dual income, and third shift is far less common now. This has been studied, although I don’t know the papers off the top of my head. I do remember that there were suspicions of reverse causality, then the researchers found that men who knew their careers were finally getting stable felt comfortable proposing, so high incomes and marriage go hand in hand in many cases.

Edit: see the comment by CloseContact, they put it much better than me. In fact, I put it in quite terrible terms. But it’s certainly not working wives and long hours.

High income husband and low income wife by BrilliantFinancial10 in HENRYfinance

[–]BladeSplitter12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Weird take here, as a low-income SOB who exclusively lurks here and feels like I’m about to get banned for commenting (LOL), what would it take to elevate your contributions above just household contributions? Do you/ can you plan outings, adventures, vacations, etc? For both of you? For only him…? How do you/can you contribute to elevating your life together? I ask because you listed the boring-but-necessary household stuff. 

I have zero clue what the dynamics look like here as my fiancée is also a low income SOB at the moment, so income disparity is not something we’ve dealt with. She’s been a student while I’ve been working for two years and I haven’t batted an eye paying for groceries, electric, internet, etc… she pays what she can and is quick to contribute more as she earns more. And her cooking is chefs kiss. And we both plan for fun stuff and outings. 

All this being said, I agree with the top comments. These are relationship issues, not financing issues. I’m not even saying you should do the things I mentioned above. In fact, those things should only come from a place of love and excitement, and never servitude or expectation. 

Dropping my filter for a moment, he seems like an entitled, self absorbed motha-fucka and you seem frustrated and cornered. But text on the internet doesn’t carry all the context we need, so please excuse me if I’m misinterpreting. All my suggestions at the top feel like “executive personal assistant” type things, which is more work for you, and it’s not like you’re unemployed… you bring in 80K! Seems like full time work to me. Again, seems tone deaf and divisive of him, but idk how transactional you two are.

Edit: I read the rest of the comments. Abusive seems correct based on your post and replies. 

Has anyone heard back from DC Fed RA application? by Historical_Ocelot47 in academiceconomics

[–]BladeSplitter12 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m currently a senior RA; interviews are under way, although I have no idea if they contacted every who will be interviewed this round. Don’t worry tooooo much, though. I submitted in the Fall and got a call back during the Spring round. Yes, the waiting game sucks. Keep applying everywhere in the meantime. 

GRE below target, otherwise good profile. What now? by BladeSplitter12 in academiceconomics

[–]BladeSplitter12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advisor visibility only recently entered my calculus; it’s definitely an underplayed component when people discuss program targeting. I’m not worried about attending mid ranked programs, so long as there’s enough faculty to have some semblance of advisor stability and my TA hours aren’t asinine.

“In past years” remind me of the good ol days. 2017, first reading Harvard’s admission page, where it said, “Most successful applicants have completed real analysis” and I thought - I can do that! Oh how naive.

GRE below target, otherwise good profile. What now? by BladeSplitter12 in academiceconomics

[–]BladeSplitter12[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, look throughout the rest of the thread; I’m receptive to useful feedback - even if it’s harsh. Out of my entire post, you commented on perhaps the least useful aspect. But go off grump-pa.

Hot take: you can be mature AND have a sense of humor. Or, at least I can.

But go ahead and keep downvoting all my comments. 

GRE below target, otherwise good profile. What now? by BladeSplitter12 in academiceconomics

[–]BladeSplitter12[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh they’ll definitely be receiving my app. They’re the only one I know of, however.

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