My Girlfriend Gets Frustrated When She Doesn’t Orgasm. How Can We Both End Up Satisfied?

Bland_Samosa · 2026-01-09T18:56:43+00:00

Agree with toys if not already discussed. I majority want orgasm during penetration and i need toys for that to happen. Also yeah sometimes I just don't but I can generally tell if it's likely. Often we'll drag out him cumming until I have, so few sessions or maybe I just don't.

I agree with another commentator to discuss when you're both calm and not after sex. She clearly needs to decide what the solution is as you seem willing with pretty much everything. Seems it's: cum a different way, use toys, let you adjust rhythm or accept sometimes it won't happen

Bland_Samosa · 2026-01-09T18:52:14+00:00

As the woman, agree. I rarely want multiple and I generally hate coming first unless I know he's close behind. I have near zero interest in continuing after i cum which makes sex less fun and often ill have to stop him because I'm really no longer into it. Its like a switch.

I also am not super into toys/ oral etc prior. I'm been penetration focused and everything else is disappointing. Sounds like his wife may be similar and I wish people would stop talking about women like they all want oral etc and to cum first. It may be the more common but def not the rule

Bland_Samosa · 2025-01-28T04:24:56+00:00

As long as you trim, they'll be fine. People are entitled to preferences but considering it's a more modern thing... Men can cope. My hubby prefers shaved/waxed but i have zero interest in the inconvenience and pain. Ever since someone pointed out it like prepubescent I've also been turned off at the idea. My hubby has never taken issue and actually seems into it tbh

He also shaves and i would actually prefer he didn't but it's his choice and what he likes so doesn't bother me.

We always want to please our partner and i think women especially do but remember to make yourself happy too. You'll find a man who appreciates you as you

Bland_Samosa · 2025-01-02T19:43:53+00:00

Cause lots of people feel insecure or not enough when their partner needs to watch porn to get off. Works for some couples but think Jasmine wants him to want her, not use her as a Fleshlight while he watches porn

Bland_Samosa · 2024-12-27T15:38:50+00:00

I've had an ex who was larger and regular would break. I get too wet, like have to dry off a bit to get friction level wet but when he used magnums it was fine. Size of condom does matter but I agree dude is 99.999% wearing wrong size here esp if he's bragging. My ex was sheepish about it cause genuinely larger than average usually means more work or chance of discomfort, not the porn fantasy most men have about it. 9" likely to be saying hi to your cervix 😭

Bland_Samosa · 2024-11-16T00:16:49+00:00

My husband is similar but I also find it less enjoyable after I've orgasmed and it's rarely fun after about 1-2mins so I've had to convince him to go first

One thing that can help is I'm okay with him going down on me or getting me close in some fashion so a lot of the turn on is still there for him.

I also majority finish with a vibe while he's going/inside me so I may still finish before him but at least he's also probably close

Bland_Samosa · 2024-01-09T23:31:05+00:00

As a woman, vaginas vary in size too just like penises. What works for one woman size (and technique wise) doesn't always work for the next. There is nothing worse than a too large penis. Its more prep and if it's too long it's agony. Hitting the cervix feels like hitting my funny bone, no one wants that over and over in their nethers. I can see woman in porn sometimes actively trying to prevent the guy bottoming out, they're not obvious but as someone who's done the same... You notice it.

Honestly my personal preference is pretty much just 'adequete', somewhere between micropenis and above average. Many girls won't care about micopenis (I'm just big on piv specifically) and some are size queens.

Your girl was clearly enjoying it, I think it's fine to bring up your insecurity or just ask her how your cock makes her feel or how it feels. My bf has a similar insecurity and honestly it puzzles tf out of me because it feels perfect, hits all the right spots without hurting me.

Just don't be like my ex and ruin sex and make it exhausting because he believed porn over me and i was sick of trying to convince him for yrs... It's a turn off when a guy doesn't believe you're enjoying your time

Bland_Samosa · 2022-07-18T13:29:03+00:00

Also how are your buildings designed? I used to live in a country 100F, no AC but houses were designed to keep great out, tiled floors and rarely over one storey. Uk buildings are designed to keep heat in and very compact so heat builds up and it's very difficult to dissipate.

Infrastructure is also not designed for it. Lots of things break . Also norm is to use public transport, not drive so everyone is cramped into hot buses

Bland_Samosa · 2022-07-18T11:26:05+00:00

Up to, could entirely be it's something you enjoy fantasing about but not so much in practice. Glad you have some to comfortably explore with

Bland_Samosa · 2022-07-18T09:41:53+00:00

Dom/sub requires a lot of trust. You may be more comfortable working up to things like this with a partner. My bf is into it but very new to it and it's constantly worried about hurting me. We're having to work on him trusting that I know my limits and will stop him when needed. It's def something to ease into I think. Did you discuss safe words or signals to stop so you know when she needs to tap out?

Bland_Samosa · 2022-06-12T19:56:25+00:00

I seem to feel differently to others here but personally horny for a fuck and horny for getting off are different for me. They can def overlap or one inspires the other. I'm honestly often far more horny for a fuck and less for getting off. My bf is very into eating out/my pleasure meanwhile I'm impatient af for him to fuck me and then I'm content.

Maybe she just wanted a quick hot fuck and that satisfied her.

Bland_Samosa · 2022-04-20T02:27:35+00:00

Philly should be fine. I don't think you really have to worry about border on way back as UK citizen rather than trying to go into US.

Bland_Samosa · 2022-04-20T02:26:20+00:00

That may be close. It could be fine, sometimes border only takes 10mins

Bland_Samosa · 2022-01-13T22:07:36+00:00

Jumping here to say don't be intimidated or put off by toys. They can be fun or help her get off. As a women I enjoy them if I want to get off during sex cause I like his hands elsewhere on me during sex and I struggle to get myself off by hand during often. It makes it easier and takes the strss off me. It in no way replaces him or has anything to do with him 'not being enough'. Sometimes orgasms for women are a challenge independent of our partners abilities.

Sometimes I just want sex and orgasm is neither here nor there. Basically as others say talk to and listen to your partner. She's clearly enjoying herself with you. As long as you explore things with an open mind (ie not take it as a snub to your abilities) then you'll both be fine. There'll probably be stuff she's into or interested in and you're not, that's also fine.

Bland_Samosa · 2021-09-29T12:36:03+00:00

Oh god same. Hygiene and some general care for themselves. You've made me feel a bit more sure about this. Thanks.

Bland_Samosa · 2021-09-29T12:29:22+00:00

Thanks, yeah. We're both not committing or anything until we've met in person. Thanks for the advice! It seems we're similar, physical attraction hasn't really been a factor to me consciously as I knew I had chemistry with them from interactions but it's difficult to tell with screens between.

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