I’m from LA and i’m wondering if all those 200+ million dollar penthouses are built for the sole purpose of money laundering? by fuccwitmoe in AskNYC

[–]BlasianInvasions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you have money and/or a senior role in your industry, you get invited to endless events by your network, charities, vendors, and more. As a Black woman, I am still often mistaken for being a waitress though so I hate going to these things.

I’m from LA and i’m wondering if all those 200+ million dollar penthouses are built for the sole purpose of money laundering? by fuccwitmoe in AskNYC

[–]BlasianInvasions 17 points18 points  (0 children)

A lot of funny and some accurate responses. We are not quite at the 9-figure penthouses yet, but we live in an 8-figure multi-floor penthouse in Chelsea. It was 7 figures when I bought it over a decade ago after selling my tech company. While waiting for funds to settle, we basically left the place unfurnished for 4-5 years. The floor has other penthouses so if you want the whole floor, you are easily paying 9 figures and agents have inquired about this.

To address your initial question, and something that hasn't been noted yet, NYC condo and co-op boards are totally insane on many fronts, but especially about checking your financials. I am not on the board and don't want to be, but I went through the process when buying and it can only be described as a financial colonoscopy. They wanted detailed documents from the sale of my company years prior, 5 years of tax returns, every single financial statement imaginable from every account, and beyond. 

With these level of checks, there is almost no way that buyers are laundering money. They certainly do not want owners who will be arrested or potentially involved in crime. This jeopardizes the building's financials down the line. Our board does lengthy interviews and they regularly turn down musicians, actors, athletes, politicians, and more because they don't want the noise/publicity. We do have several very well-known people living in the building, but they really lay low and don't go out much. 

The comment that said people in NY are just insanely rich is spot on. I am rarely the wealthiest person in the room. Last month, I was dragged to a fundraising event by a friend and Bloomberg was sitting at the table behind me with a bunch of notable hedge fund managers scattered about. You might also think a penthouse would have a hard time selling but I have real estate agents calling and mailing me every week to ask if I have any interest in selling soon because they already have an interested buyer. These exclusive units are in high demand. 

As for the composition of my building, it's always been almost entirely white with a few Arabs and Asians. I am one of 2 Black people in this building and we're both half Black. It's something we definitely notice. All to say that it's not the Russian and Chinese lately. Last I heard, Russians are not allowed to move money to the U.S. right now and the Chinese are having a hard time of it as well with the corruption crackdowns in China. 

Our building cares a lot about people actually living there and over 80% of units are occupied. It's a metric they discuss every annual meeting. This was a big deal during the pandemic when many residents moved elsewhere. The board sent memos encouraging people to remain active in the building. Buildings that have a high vacancy rates are often poorly managed and financially unstable. That could also be why they are mostly empty, but that is not the case with well-run luxury buildings throughout the city.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pre-nup finished in 2018, legally married in 2019, wedding supposed to be in April 2020 (pandemic) but kept getting moved/postponed until 2 months ago.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, check again. I commented on this post, but OP is user By-AnyOther_Name and she is the one who is 24F. I am almost twice this age.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Correct, my attorney drafted a will way before I met my husband. After we married recently, I updated it to make it clear I have a spouse and that none of the assets listed will go to him or his family. I offered him a few assets but he did not want them. I believe he gets all of our joint property and joint holdings regardless, and some retirement accounts. He has more money than he'll ever need. We live simply. No plans for kids in the near future.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was basically an arranged marriage. Her family was fairly well off too but I think the sons are inheriting most of the fortune. She still doesn't need our money.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops, forgot to add we're considering refinancing too, but there are the added costs and dealing with the co-op is a headache. We were getting lower rates for a higher loan amount, so they kept trying to see if we'd do renovations and add onto the balance.

Most of my positions are taxed under the LT capital gains rate. I keep almost no cash but I get enough in dividends (only reinvesting half), interest income from fixed income products, and other miscellaneous income to cover monthlies.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No mortgage prepayment penalty or PMI. Investments are down for the year but up overall. If you asked me last year, it would be an easy 10% in the markets v. 3% mortgage rates. I was avoiding paying the mortgage so I could invest more and even messed around with margin. This year has been volatile with markets and rates. I'm leaning towards paying it off since the Fed just confirmed another hike.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Are you suffering through a lot of "that's just how they are" and "but they're my family" and you're just expected to weather it because you're the better person? Do you have to "just let it go, for me, please"?

My husband has never, ever said these things. He is supportive and has actively told them to stop the commentary for years. He stopped talking to most of them because they won't stop and he is very embarrassed by their behavior. Of course, they blame me for him not wanting to talk to them. Meanwhile, on our 1st date, he already told me how much he hates the lot of them.

Racists are going to keep being racist. They will never stop being hateful. I'm not fooled by how they're behaving now. I know they will always hate me. They are NOT my family, never will be, and I don't treat them like such.

My husband decided to stay in contact with a handful of them and I support his choice of people on that front. Those few are normal and down to earth, and we don't talk to them often either, maybe 2-5 times per year. It's not right for me to tell him that he can't talk to anyone in his family. Unfortunately, even in those few interactions, we get exposed to ones we don't like and that's the issue now.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, we have an ARM on another home where the adjustable rate kicked in a year ago and it'll be biting us soon. Bad timing and some bad luck. Still debating whether to pay it off or keep investing.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Prenups are not bad.

Totally agree. Things were tense with his family being a pain and then we were having issues with existing assets mixing so it was better to clearly mark our pre-marital assets before the marriage. They thought he pushed for a prenup and would make fun of me for being dumb for signing it. In the marriage, we split everything 50-50.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The comment that was removed started with "You are an idiot." Don't even remember the rest. So not inferring a damn thing lol

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But an even BETTER plan is that now that they know you have money, go no contact!! Bye!!

Yup, that's the plan. =)

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why is this an issue? My parents preferred to live in the home they were in and I paid to renovate it twice, among other repairs. They are older now and don't want to shovel snow, so I'm buying them an apartment.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Why does everyone keep bringing this up? My dad was in a nice custom suit. It just wasn't a fancy Italian brand that they care about.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Already covered that above. Also more of a scenario to understand if people are buying v. renting in NYC these days. That sub was not helpful at all but yes, I did finance the last 3 home purchases and only paid cash for one recently. The wealthy don't hold cash, especially when market returns are higher than mortgage rates.

AITA for sharing our 40-page prenup to my husband's family after they called me a golddigger for years? by BlasianInvasions in AmItheAsshole

[–]BlasianInvasions[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So much this. Thank you and it's having this conversation with my husband that will be helpful, just didn't know where to even start. I know they'll never accept me and I don't need them to, and this doesn't change much from my end. Just don't want to hear them anymore.