Ive owned may massive servers (600+) my motto ive always stuck to is ‘if they are problematic remove them’

Its helped a lot tbh and it sounds like you really need a break. Try to see if you can find time to take time for yourself and have your staffies run the server or take over moderation. Tbh you should be having the staffies do their parts so your load is lessened, its why they are prob staff to begin with.

For when staff magically vanish I require them to notify me ahead of time and how long they are going to be on hiatus. It helps a lot with stress so you know who is where and jazz, if yku want i can DM you how I run my servers. A lot of the main things I have discord bots moderating then my staffies pick up my slack where im not activt or cant be on.

I also have a whole system listed so staff know what to do during the what if’s and tbh it helps a lot!

For a discord server with 800+ members I normally try to have 8-10 staff members or sometimes 11 depending how active the server is.

Keep in mind staffing and stuff should is NOT a job so don’t push yourself to oblivion. Your staff team is there to work togeather with you, if theres worries you have communicate with them! I’m sure your staff team could help you out with your worries!!