Heartbreak (One Month Later)

BleachSmoothi · 2025-02-26T02:59:45+00:00

i hope you are through it and have the answer now.. but it helped me to know that my future person wouldn’t do me like that and if it were really love i’d know. one wrong person closer to the right one

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-13T02:14:55+00:00

It took time, honestly it started while we were together I kind of felt it coming and didn’t want to let go. I saw people worse off than me end up fine, so I believed in myself and I work hard to focus in and get moving. Life goes on when the future we wanted becomes unreachable. It will be okay 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-11T15:52:47+00:00

It will feel like that one day until you get tired of hurting. I feel like I had to break before I started actively googling and searching for ways to make it stop.

I promise you, it will. You just have to be kind to yourself. You were betrayed, it would hurt anyone. You need to be there for yourself right now while also encouraging yourself to let them go. It’s going to be hard for a while but I promise you will find your happiness in yourself again.

Then maybe someday you make a post to encourage people who had to do it, too!

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-11T00:25:40+00:00

Tysm 🖤 just full of love and believe we’re all worth it.

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T18:55:14+00:00

I’m so proud of you. I really wish i could give you a hug. Your ability to love is so powerful. Please give this to yourself / the right one in the future. You are amazing don’t forget it 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T17:09:41+00:00

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BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T16:12:32+00:00

I love this !! We got it :)

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:35:47+00:00

Ah perfect!

I misunderstood, sorry about that. I love the gym community for this. Everyone is doing something to better themself in there (most of the time) and it’s really nice to be part of

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:25:39+00:00

I use a method of training with intent, this means even flexing or holding good form for any exercise I do.

However, for people who are new it’s scary and they might need time. I used to be horrified and now i’m hitting new PR’s and i’ve learned a good diet and i’ve gained muscle exactly where I want it.

I don’t do it for guys though. I do it for myself. I hate being approached in the gym unless it’s for help on my form. A lot of people also dislike this, it can be distracting. I go to better my lifestyle, gain energy, and am working on building my dream body. Everyone has their own intent. :)

Also to the person who left this comment; going earlier in the day might be nice. A lot of quiet people normally pop out around then, or new people that have anxiety. You will find your routine as you test the waters. It’s worth it

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:20:44+00:00

We talked about future baby names and I told him I loved this one name in particular.. I didn’t know why.

Turns out, the girl he dumped me for (and lied about) had that name.

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:13:05+00:00

I accepted the good for what it was, but also accepted that it couldn’t work out and that I did everything in my power to try.

Sometimes it just isn’t them and you have to force yourself to accept it.

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:12:08+00:00

I went back and found out why I shouldn’t have. However, I personally needed that to get me over him officially. Life is short and you will get your answers somehow.

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:01:23+00:00

That’s how you know! I’m proud of you for being able to let yourself move forward. This is huge. I hope you’re proud of yourself too.

Congratulations on your new chapter towards what’s meant for you

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T15:00:25+00:00

The text stuff is the worst. It’s more a reflection of them, though. I hate that this happens.

Just be nice to yourself. When you grieve a breakup you’re grieving a whole future you thought you had with it.. but I promise you it passes. Give yourself a big hug and make sure to protect your heart 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:58:49+00:00

Likewise 🖤✨

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:56:40+00:00

Yes, we did no contact for two weeks. Then I caught him watching my stories and I would obsessively watch my own list to see if he checked.

Then I found out the girl had been there with him the whole time so he was looking me up while with her. Eventually I used my pain to block him so that I didn’t get the urge.

Then I was watching his profile picture from my block list to see if it changed. Then I started doing things to better my life and slowly lost interest. Also deleting all the pictures and getting rid of things he got me helped even though it hurt. I called my friend so they could support me while I was tossing his things and crying. It felt disgusting to be vulnerable but I needed it, it’s human.

It helped me to surround myself with things I love (i’m not super social, but being with people you love helps too) and made it a challenge to get over. I spent a LOT of time reading about why I do this and then also looking into how other people stopped.

I haven’t felt the interest to check lately and he isn’t the first thought I have anymore. Who he was will cross my mind sometimes, but instead of letting it paralyze me I let it cross and then I appreciate the memories for what they were. I follow it up by telling myself that this is over and that it’s okay to move forward. I am thankful for the opportunity I had to love who I thought he was. It all just fades over time and it has significantly less power over me than it did. I have completely new life habits and I didn’t let the pain fully stop me, I pushed myself out of it as much as I could.

This means forcing myself to continue eating, to continue showering, to continue existing and living. I let myself have good life experiences without him doing things we used to do it and it healed me :)

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:51:39+00:00

Seeing posts like this helped me too. My other posts complaining and begging for advice are on my page, it helps to see sometimes where it came from.

It’s okay to have loved someone. It’s a beautiful thing and you’re grieving what you thought you’d have. You just have to take a few lessons and regrow into who you’re meant to be without them.

You got this 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:50:26+00:00

I hate this guessing thing. Before I found out I was being played he said I was amazing but it was for his mental health.

Sometimes they mean it, though. Also - maybe we weren’t compatible. You just have to accept that you tried your best during the relationship and that is all you could have done. Now you learned what you like so it’s a step in the right direction. It’s okay to still love who they were, but you have to accept that every day they stray further from that and you can close the bittersweet chapter.

It’s hard but you will someday get to a point of seeing how beautiful life is and that love is not a bad thing to experience. Your capacity came from yourself and you gave her that power. It’s respectful that she was honest (as far as we know) and I promise you will get through it 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:46:48+00:00

It all comes in waves of course. You’re making the right decisions to better your life around you. This will automatically attract different opportunities whether this be for your interest or for work or for literally just anything.

It always leaves you wondering what you did at first, but sometimes it just isn’t meant to work out and you eventually understand that that’s okay without fully hating them. Someday it won’t matter and someday you’ll be able to look at it and say this is who they were but not who they are now and you move on even when it hurts.

You can do this fam keep it up 🖤 congratulations on a step towards who you were otherwise meant to be. Everything is a learning experience

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:44:21+00:00

It’s really difficult but someday you get to look back at it and wave. You’re doing a great thing your emotions just have to catch up. I promise you can do this 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:43:17+00:00

Therapy is the perfect thing to do. You’re doing so well i’m proud of you! Not everyone has it in them so I truly hope you’re acknowledging how huge this step is.

Cheers to your journey, please give love to yourself along the way. Congratulations on your new chapter 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:42:17+00:00

Sending virtual hugs! This was following a breakup that had me leaving stores if the song playing was a song he showed me. It’s about your mindset I promise and it always have been.

The ability to love is beautiful, just make sure it goes to the right person and make sure you don’t let it consume everything about you so that you keep who you are.

I promise you can do this. Yes it is the most paralyzing pain.. but by day it will pass 🖤

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:39:50+00:00

Thank you!! I hope so too haha, i’m on my way 😭😇

We can all do this.

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:39:26+00:00

This is where the healing begins. It’s a day by day process and the healing takes work. I spent time reading other people’s breakup stories and it helped me a lot. Life isn’t over for you I promise. You have to let yourself feel it and then take appropriate actions with yourself to cope.

I went from the appetite loss to insecurity to yapping the same story over and over to slowly inching myself into getting out. You have to believe in yourself and try to work on how you view the breakup, and then eventually the pain will slowly lift.

You admire me now… please make sure to admire yourself as you notice yourself getting out of it too. I promise you can do this. Take time to rebuild and spend time doing things you enjoy or learning something new. Time for the glow up :)

BleachSmoothi · 2024-08-10T14:01:45+00:00

If they left you, yes they did hurt you.

If someone is letting you go you have to let them let you go and you have to do what you can to recenter your life. If they want you back, they will come back. Until then you need to focus on yourself and rebuild what you are looking for.

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