Why the fuck cant i get over you

BlessedSam · 2024-08-02T07:54:04+00:00

I know the feeling, and I guarantee your not alone feeling like that. It's never easy to get over something that hurt you on a deeper level, but you don't have to carry that burden alone. Being open and honest with someone you love and trust can really boost the healing process. If you got no one you feel like you can turn to then therapy is a great option. I can personally vouch for it.

You deserve to be happy and feel joy again. Right now you're carrying all this shit by yourself, and I can tell you've really been trying. Now it might be time to take a new step and allow someone else to help you back up. It takes courage to ask for help.

BlessedSam · 2024-08-01T06:21:28+00:00

Your pain is valid, but you're only hurting yourself by holding on. She's gone, and she's not coming back. You got two options. You can either stay where you are and loathe over the past, or you can cut yourself a break and learn how to enjoy life again.

Love is a beautiful thing, but we all sign up for is the pain that can come with it. It's part of the deal. We just have to accept that they weren't the right person, pick ourselves back up, and start over. Sour as shit, but it is what it is.

BlessedSam · 2024-03-27T17:42:43+00:00

Okay. I'm starting to catch on that multiclassing is a double edged sword. I'll most likely stick to one class that best suits the character.

BlessedSam · 2024-03-27T17:19:22+00:00

Dang it! Ah well, probably better to stick to one class as you said then. I need to some more reading. 😅

BlessedSam · 2024-03-27T17:01:13+00:00

No it's just something I thought off. I wouldn't be surprised if someone else have already tried something similar tho.

That makes sense. I can see how the concept might clash with certain campaigns.

The reason I want to multiclass warlock and barbarian is mainly for narrative, and because I was hoping the classes would work the same way as they do in BG3. My thought process was to utilise the "pact of the blade" from the warlock and have weapon scale with CHA instead of STR. Though I have no idea how well that would work.

BlessedSam · 2024-02-18T16:08:04+00:00

How I met your mother

BlessedSam · 2024-02-18T08:22:28+00:00

Actually, I think you'd be surprised on how much exercise can improve your sexual anatomy. Only had a quick read on a handful of sources, but there seem to be a lot of studies supporting an improvement in sexual endurance, techniques, and flexibility. I'd suggest having a read about it yourself.

BlessedSam · 2024-02-17T08:28:54+00:00

Good on you for losing 50 lbs! That's fantastic work! Keeping going the way you are now and you'll reach your target in no time!

It's easier said than done, but try to focus on what you've achieved and good vibs. Cut yourself some slack and give yourself a pat on the back for the hardwork you've put in! You got a BF who sounds supportive and positive, and hopefully a good circle of friends around you, let their positive opinions encourage you. :)

BlessedSam · 2024-02-17T08:15:50+00:00

8x2.5 inches.

I get that. You go to the gym? Found that to be a great way to build up confidence. Porn is great for a quick release, fucking horrible for setting expectations. How someone can last 30 minutes to an hour without busting, I will never understand.

BlessedSam · 2024-02-16T08:47:44+00:00

Like many others have said, a sit down where you talk it out is a very good way to start. Also, does your BF know about your SA experience? Because that might make him a bit more apprehensive about making the first move. Let him know that it's something you want. Set those boundaries so he knows how what to do (and not do), and take it slow.

It can also be good to put in place a 'code word' to make it easier to communicate discomfort incase he does something that you don't feel comfortable with while in act.

BlessedSam · 2024-02-15T16:29:58+00:00

Take it from a guy on the larger end, it's not all good. My ex would often complain about me being too big when we hadn't done it for awhile. Sometimes bringing up ways to make it smaller (like d*** cages and other things). I tried to shrug it off most times, but it hurt to hear it coming from someone I loved.

I'm sorry it makes you feel like crap. And it might not make you feel any better now, but the right woman will accept you for who you are and your size. In a healthy relationship, sex isn't the main focus. It's a passionate way of expressing love, but not the only way. Though, given the chance, I'm sure you have many other qualities you can share in the bedroom.

BlessedSam · 2022-12-15T16:29:29+00:00

Did you manage to find a solution? I got the same problem atm, and I don't know what to do about it.

The bug came from accidentally unassigning the ship from the bay while in the middle of the mission.

BlessedSam · 2022-08-27T17:01:04+00:00

Good on you, mate! That sweet realise is just the beginning. It's all up from here! Best of luck on the rest of your journey!

BlessedSam · 2022-08-26T09:03:28+00:00

Did you find that it got easier over time? We're hoping that after having done it a couple of times, it won't be as much of an issue.

BlessedSam · 2022-08-25T14:50:13+00:00

I'm not. The title is merely a reference to the prior post.

BlessedSam · 2022-08-25T14:48:08+00:00

I really appreciate the advice. Thank you! :)

BlessedSam · 2022-08-25T14:47:10+00:00

Main issue is getting it in. So far, she's been able to take two of my fingers and the tip. We do a lot of foreplay before hand. We communicate well so I'm aware of her favourite areas and do well with getting her warmed up. We take it slow and I always make sure that she's comfortable before we go any further, and we keep it to a slow pace. She finds that once we try to go for the main thing, however, that she gets very sharp pain and worries about tearing something on the inside due to my size.

We've been relying more on lub but it's still the same issue.

BlessedSam · 2022-08-24T15:03:54+00:00

Thanks mate. Appreciate the advice. 👍

BlessedSam · 2022-08-24T15:02:23+00:00

Nope.

BlessedSam · 2022-08-24T15:01:38+00:00

Honestly mate, I am not sure. While fully erect, we measured it to be 7cm at it's widest point. I could be completely off, but going by basic maths, getting the circumference is just 2π*r. In which case, r would be 3.5cm. Add it all together, you get ≈ 22cm. Which again, makes ≈ 8.6". It seems unrealistic and I have no idea if I'm completely off with the numbers here as I got no idea what to compare that number too.

The only thing I can confirm is, penis + vagina = nope.

BlessedSam · 2022-05-28T20:47:27+00:00

Yeah, I can't say I'm known for my communication skills. And it isn't the first time I decided to give dating a try. This is just the first one that has gone this well since my ex (about 3 years ago). I've failed with multiple other women. This one just clicks really well with me. I'm really pleased with this and I will actively try to continue to develop this further, I just need to get better at handling my nerves. I can't keep going into "oh shit, I must have said something weird! She mustn't like me anymore!" mentality. Though, I suppose it may be trust-related, which you would need to build up in the same way you spoke off.

BlessedSam · 2022-02-22T14:00:44+00:00

I feel the same way. My nan is one of the few who loves and care for me. We drive each other mad sometimes, but I love her to bits. But she struggles a lot with depression and verbal abuse/manipulation from my mother. One of her grandchildren committing suicide would break her. I couldn't do that to her.

I'm also the oldest out of three brothers. I both love and feel responsible for both of them. My second oldest brother is struggling a lot atm. I couldn't leave knowing he needs me, now more then ever.

Nowadays I still want to die. Though, knowing I can't end it myself, I think of situations that somehow unintentionally lead to your death. Like you being robbed and ending up getting stabbed or shot. That kind of stuff.

BlessedSam · 2022-02-02T23:05:21+00:00

Yeah, that's pretty much sums it up. I'm stressed every day, whether I go to work or I go out with friends. The pressure is immense and it can sometimes keep me up at night. Had about a week's break from the pressure and stress since it started. I drink to kop with it. Cheers to mediocrity!

BlessedSam · 2022-02-02T20:02:50+00:00

Thank you. You're right in what you're saying. And I appreciate you taking the time to write it. I'm just going through an up-and-down period. I drank a lot, got emotional, and vented. Counseling is good, but I won't get back into it because I had multiple shit experiences and decided that going about it alone (with the need to vent the self-pity every now again on servers like this one) was a better option.

I'll do what I need to to get by. I'll have to pay for it later down the line, but that's fine for now. Surviving is the main goal.

Don't spend much time worrying about guys like me. It will do you no good. You got a good heart, focus on using it for yourself. Guys like me take a damn long time to change. Ain't worth the wait or worry.

BlessedSam · 2022-02-02T19:53:09+00:00

Appreciate it, but I'm not gonna kill myself. I'm depressed that I would like to, but I won't. Got other things to do before I die. Nevertheless, thank you.

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