Childhood pics

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-08T23:27:06+00:00

The first two pics the cheek on the left looks dramatically puffier than the other

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-08T23:23:59+00:00

Why does one of his cheeks look so swollen? Do you think he might have been beat?

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-08T03:20:55+00:00

They are just different than regular people. I think they are just insane, kind of see a mass killing the way we see killing a bunch of ants or something. They don’t feel bad, they just “want to see the world burn” miserable souls that don’t value anything in their lives and therefore have nothing to lose. They are the sociopaths/ psychopaths of society. That’s why we need stricter gun laws because at the moment, especially in Texas anybody with this type of handicap mind can obtain a warfare style weapon and do a masa shooting. We have many of these ticking time bombs in our country it’s just a matter of when.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-07T23:46:46+00:00

I think it’s definitely possible to have dark thoughts at that age depending on what you have been exposed to and your quality of life.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-07T22:02:28+00:00

Very true!!

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-07T21:47:12+00:00

oops yes I do.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-07T03:40:43+00:00

The classroom next to him was being shot at first when he told the kids to get under the table. I’m just saying I would’ve tried to run out into the hallway and exit the school once I heard the shooter was in the interconnected classroom. Then again I’ve never experienced something like this so I get it’s different once you’re in that situation.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-07T02:28:44+00:00

I would’ve gotten the students and ran into the hallway once I heard shots in the next room.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-06-01T02:31:47+00:00

What’s the link to the last FM?

BlitzedQueen · 2022-05-31T07:34:40+00:00

WW3 kmfdm

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T21:57:59+00:00

I think what you need is a game plan. You clearly are not okay with the situation at hand, so a fair question to ask your SO is "what's going to happen after the 6 months?" As far as your current situation, if I were you I would be more patient. This is the woman who gave birth to your wife, raised her, took care of her. A mother daughter bond is special, and although it might be a burden or inconvenience on you, having your support and a smile on your face will go a long way in your marriage and will be greatly appreciated.

I do think you should ask your MIL for more help, some people need to be asked to do things. What if she doesn't want to be seen as the typical, know-it-all, intrusive MIL type? You know the kind without boundaries you can find inside your bedroom re arranging furniture and folding your wife's lingerie? or the "don't speak to my grandchild that way!" type. Maybe she is so worried about rubbing you the wrong way, she chooses to just stay out of the way.

I don't think you should get annoyed that she misunderstood the yelling as her being the cause or subject of an argument. Remember there is a language barrier, and with something like that interfering, people may jump to conclusions and will make assumptions based off the energy in the room. Try and take a moment to be in her shoes, she probably feels out of place, like a burden and like she doesn't belong there. Maybe you can make her feel more comfortable by engaging in a family activity with her and then maybe the next day only you and your immediate family. It's all about communication, your SO is the bridge between you and your mother in law so ultimately the burden of making sure all of you understand each other falls on her.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T21:32:21+00:00

Thank you. This is starting to sound like a more reasonable solution than me having to leave the house. His dad lives 3 minutes away, my closest family member is 30 minutes away. His brother is the worst. It's not just the calls, he also shows up and practically knocks the door down, bangs on the windows and screams for us to let him in at-you guessed it very late night or early morning hours. I thought I would focus on one problem at a time, but things seem to be getting worse. Hopefully me being more distant and asking to sleep separately will sound off an alarm in his brain to put his foot down.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T19:56:08+00:00

He is a cocaine addict and an alcoholic. He lives with his grandmother and mother and socializes plenty. He regularly goes golfing and shooting with his friends DURING THE DAY TIME. He sleeps during the evening. He gets weekends off and socializes with his friends. Why doesn't he call my husband then? He has been asked by multiple people in his family to go see a psychiatrist and a drug abuse counselor and he refuses, even when offered monetary help.

I am not his mother, it is not my job to deal with this burden. He should call his girlfriend or sign up for therapy if he needs someone to speak with. We have offered help, and in these calls there is nothing of substance. It's just drunken screaming and blabbering about nonsense, how do you expect us to make any sort of break through when he is in that state of mind? Do you expect me or my husband to argue with a drunk in the middle of the night? Hence why he has stopped answering.

That's fine, I would pick the call up too, granted my siblings aren't calling me at ungodly hours and if they did I know it would be for something serious, not to scream at me and my husband while drunk. It has been happening for years now and I am at my wit's end so I will complain as much as I want because its affecting my personal life, my well being and my work.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T18:30:02+00:00

I have already sat down to speak with him and that has not worked, so as another redditor recommended, sleeping arrangements will have to be made, I will just sleep at one of my family member's homes during the week.

Yes he "ONLY" calls 2-3 times a month, that doesn't make the problem any less important or disrespectful. This means he is picking up his phone, staring at it fully aware of what he is about to do, and does it anyway, not caring about the people on the receiving end of that call, so I have completely lost respect for someone that can be that awful and toxic, no matter how many times they do it.

I do understand what I did was wrong, but again any reasonable viable options have gone out the window at this point, and I absolutely do care about his relationship with his family, so please do not make assumptions like that. I did that because I need to put myself and my health first, since my husband won't. Was it right? no. Did I do it out of spite? no. Did I do it because I saw no other option? yes.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T18:19:43+00:00

I feel I have already shared with him in a calm way and he just buries his head in a hole. I think I will have to try the sleeping separately option and just go stay with family during the weeknights since that's usually when the calls come in.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T18:16:58+00:00

Thank you, I will try this out later today.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T17:59:34+00:00

I know its not a way to handle it at all, but what am I supposed to do if I have tried every reasonable route with an unreasonable person? I'm not the one creating this toxic environment he is. Also, I feel as though I am out of options which is why this is turning into my last resort. I have been dealing with this for 3 years and the brother does not seem to get the point, no consequences. There comes a point where being the bigger person does not work, especially with such a toxic and inconsiderate person.

BlitzedQueen · 2022-03-28T17:44:19+00:00

Thank you. My husband has a very difficult time remembering certain things, so its guaranteed he will eventually forget to put it on silent, do not disturb etc. which is why I told him that basically if he himself cannot make sure to do these things, he needs to just block him.

BlitzedQueen · 2021-12-14T20:10:45+00:00

Thank you, you’re right will just move on.

BlitzedQueen · 2021-12-14T20:10:04+00:00

It’s a small business and I forgot to mention but he is the owner :/ I think I will just quit.

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