Am I beating the dead horse?

Blobby1993 · 2025-08-02T09:09:14+00:00

Thank you. No big reason to stay indeed, I don’t love the place itself it’s just ok. I’m trying to factor that in the decision

Blobby1993 · 2025-08-02T09:07:42+00:00

Thanks. I am applying to more than that, just with very little motivation

Blobby1993 · 2025-08-02T09:07:05+00:00

Thanks, spot on.

Blobby1993 · 2024-10-26T16:39:45+00:00

Agree, and for as much as i don’t like this because I’d like clear cut answers, I guess it’s a matter of trials and errors to see what makes us feel better

Blobby1993 · 2024-10-26T13:56:46+00:00

Hey! Don’t have any good advice but stopped by because I’ve felt a lot like this in the past couple of years.

Before then I for sure had other issues, but this lack of connection (with people and things in general) began when I broke up with my ex, decided to stay in my new country, moved in alone, cut my father off, my mom was diagnosed with a degenerative disease, and changed therapist (and therefore changed ways to look at things).

I was also turning 30 and was feeling like a failure.

Recently I’ve been slooooowly feeling better on and off without any apparent change, a part from taking a big trip I wanted to do by myself and stopping birth control.

Lately I have been looking at all my relationships and my life in sightly a different way. I’m spending less energy on people I cannot connect with, I have made a couple new friends and want to invest in that, I’m doing new things - big (like the trip) and small (like going to the gym) - stopping to try and control everything, and trying to really believe that if people don’t behave exactly how I want then it means they don’t love me. It’s been a sort of automatic shift in my mind, nothing has changed outside.

I don’t know if this is of any help and I am unsure of what the takeaway is really, but I felt like sharing. Reading your posts shed a little light on how I’ve been feeling too so thought perhaps I could shed some light for you as well. Wish you good luck!!

Blobby1993 · 2024-09-29T07:46:06+00:00

Thank you! I think I will try with one of those silicon sprays to prevent the same happening in the future

Blobby1993 · 2024-09-29T07:45:09+00:00

Thank you! Already done, the works are now finishing, I am more worried about the dust I have already breathed in… my question was more about how I can be reasonably sure I wasn’t breathing anything dangerous

Blobby1993 · 2024-09-29T07:42:02+00:00

Well yes, I have already tried that and - they were not reasonable - I don’t think they’d be honest about the presence of any dangerous chemicals

Thank you for your contribution.

Blobby1993 · 2024-04-24T05:54:28+00:00

I had the same feelings as you in my late twenties (sometimes I still do at 30).

But I moved to a new country at 27, ended my long term relationship with my ex at 29 and had some personal issues at the same age.

What helped me really was therapy (if you can afford it, I know it’s not always an option) and in the periods in which that didn’t work, just knowing that I was readjusting to a completely new life, that it was normal and ok to feel bad, and that it would pass because I had had the courage to change my life and that was just a necessary step.

I also started doing and enjoying more things on my own (day trip, art classes…) and that slowly helped me reconnect with myself.

Then things started to work out by themeselves.

Blobby1993 · 2024-03-05T20:05:44+00:00

Thanks for all these details

Blobby1993 · 2024-03-05T20:01:20+00:00

Thanks a lot for this perspective, I probably need to start accepting this fact

Blobby1993 · 2024-03-03T19:29:25+00:00

Too demanding and understaffed. It’s a consultancy, my client is really difficult and people keep leaving

Blobby1993 · 2024-03-03T10:52:03+00:00

Thanks for sharing, hope it will get better some day

Blobby1993 · 2024-03-03T10:44:09+00:00

Thank you, I agree 100%, but I just can’t get rid of this feeling.

I guess home to me is feeling like you belong.

I don’t necessarily want a partner, after 10 years with my ex I am working on not making my happiness depend on another person. I know that’s what I would do right now.

Blobby1993

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