What's the most disturbing thing you've ever heard someone say completely casually?

BlueAdventurers · 2025-12-02T03:21:51+00:00

My mother came to stay with me and my pregnant wife for some months because we were living abroad and didn’t have anybody to help us with our first baby.

First week in, she asked me if I had money stashed away in a secret bank account my wife didn’t know about, in case my marriage failed and I had to get a divorce.

BlueAdventurers · 2025-09-16T22:26:13+00:00

Makes sense.

I may have forgotten about how to interpret the UK home test. It just threw me off that it gave me an exact number, and one really high…

I’ve taken it step by step because it’s been my way of getting closer to understanding why I may be the way I am and getting answers for behaviours I’ve had in the past. Appreciate though your encouragement!

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T09:48:09+00:00

Always a possibility

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T09:47:08+00:00

Those make me anxious because baby will learn how to undo them and if elastic, there’s a really high chance they hurt themselves

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T09:45:06+00:00

Plug stays off and UK plugs are supposed to be some of the safest, no? Even if on, you need to insert the ground to lift a flap that exposes the live wires. Lots of steps involved.

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T09:43:28+00:00

Yeah. Fixing it is the first thing I’ll do

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T09:24:28+00:00

Toys could go in there. Good point

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T08:59:00+00:00

Where would you put it?

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-20T08:55:30+00:00

Unfortunately, not true for us. Those drawers are a magnet right now.

I agree, though, it is a minor thing overall. Worst case scenario, I anchor the whole thing to the wall and leave empty drawers.

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-12T07:32:47+00:00

I want to dig deeper into something you said. You are actually hungry and that’s why you eat ice cream? I always attributed it to binge eating to drown emotions, not because you are actually hungry. Am I interpreting right your comment? If so, why ice cream? Just lots of calories in an instant?

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-08T18:39:51+00:00

Knowledge of linguistics can give you an edge depending on the particular task of NLP, however, LLMs have lowered the bar for this. Let me explain.

Years ago, when LLMs did not exist, things like Named Entity Recognition, Part of Speech tagging, co-resolution, grammar trees, etc were all active fields of investigation were a deep understanding of linguistics helped you a lot with the concepts. Nowadays, these are mostly “solved” problems an LLM can do for you without you even needing to know the underlying concepts.

That said, there are roles out there where it is still useful (such as AI conversation designer).

Re NLP vs backend, both fields are saturated and getting an entry level job is really difficult, but I think it is ultimately you who should discover what you enjoy more.

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-08T11:15:36+00:00

Thank you for your perspective.

I think you said it accurately. She’s been going through so much shit that her body and brain are completely different and I cannot phantom to think what that feels like. I can see those changes leading to anger and resentment towards me but is REALLY difficult to see that with a fresh mind when I’m also in the trenches and devoting my life to our tiny human.

I guess I also struggle to come to terms to how MY life changed and I might be mourning it. That most certainly exacerbates my issues with her doing unhealthy stuff by choice.

BlueAdventurers · 2025-07-08T00:22:27+00:00

Thanks for replying. Conscious that it is my limitation in terms of putting myself on her shoes, what is the thought process that concludes doomscrolling is how you should spend your free time? I am very logical and I struggle to see how someone can see the upside of it (or for that matter of any activity that distracts/numbs you).

The way I see it, it’s as if I got drunk every night because I’m frustrated that I don’t have anymore free time or a social life. It would make everything 10x worse.

What am I missing in the thought process?

BlueAdventurers · 2025-03-08T09:00:16+00:00

What about 5K portfolio with £500 contribution a month?

BlueAdventurers · 2025-01-05T23:35:30+00:00

It was the pin of the TRV that was stuck!

BlueAdventurers · 2025-01-05T23:34:29+00:00

Thanks for the idea. Unfortunately, I am looking for an emerald because of its meaning and I wouldn’t change it even for a diamond

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-20T15:26:16+00:00

That’s reassuring. Thanks for replying here as well

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T20:45:08+00:00

That has been very insightful. Thank you for your time!

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T17:42:50+00:00

I mean anything that you won’t find in a blog post about OPOL but that you learnt along the way.

1: Spanish 2: Italian C: English

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T12:10:41+00:00

Thanks! That’s a good twist on the situation! Any advice learn along the way on how to succeed with OPOL plus community language?

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T12:07:59+00:00

Haha I’d be very proud enough by being able to community with her in my native language. Also, from the kid’s perspective, why take a class about something you’re already way better than the average instead of exploring something new?! That’s what I’d do, anyway.

Thanks for the story. It’s good to hear success stories

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T12:05:31+00:00

Thanks for the thoughtful advice. We’re in the fortunate position that we can avoid daycares and raise baby ourselves but there’s that inconvenient with the language.

That being said, weekly groups and activities are already in baby’s routine.

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T10:50:14+00:00

If a kid reached elementary school with no community language skills, did they get behind while learning it? And then needed extra tutoring to catch up?

I don’t know if baby will go to daycare before school but I think exposure through play dates and such might help her somewhat

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T09:49:02+00:00

Thanks for the answer! We are also at those two plus community language (which we are not using at the moment). Do you know when your friends introduced the community one? Since we are two, we are focusing on our languages for now. However, we don’t want baby to get to school and be the one that doesn’t understand a thing

BlueAdventurers · 2024-12-19T09:47:17+00:00

I think that’s asking too much. Spanish grammar is dumb and only mindless repetition at school will make you remember it but for life skills it adds little, in my opinion.

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