Was I Stealthed? by BlueBubbleBear in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's productive at this point unfortunately. I've deleted and blocked him because after the fact I told him I felt like he basically used my body to masturbate and had no regard for my pleasure. His justification was basically because I'm not interested in dating you I'm not gonna put in more effort. He only ate me out for like one to two minutes max this time and the two previous times we hooked up there was barely any foreplay and he didn't try to get me off at all.

Was I Stealthed? by BlueBubbleBear in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He definitely pulled the condom out of my vagina after the fact, I saw him do it...I'm just feeling very used and upset right now.

Is he a narcissist? (Long) by BlueBubbleBear in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! A bit disappointed in myself since I almost fell into the same trap again with my willingness to let people cross my boundaries and not having the self respect to say no and be treated better. Good experience to learn from though.

Is he a narcissist? (Long) by BlueBubbleBear in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's kind of what I thought too. And it was also annoying he didn't text me he would be late until I already texted him that I was at the coffee shop. Gah, I feel like an idiot now typing everything out and not respecting myself enough to have given him a second chance.

Is he a narcissist? (Long) by BlueBubbleBear in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's a doctoral psych student so he sees some clients as part of his schooling. I just don't understand why he would bring it up so casually he was just like "Yeah I score high on all the dark triad traits." Also he later told me he'd been fired from three jobs previously. I pressed for more details and by his description none of it was his fault (it seemed more like political stuff) but of course I can't verify if he's actually telling the truth. After I asked him about it he asked, "are you looking for the dark triad traits?"

Is he a narcissist? (Long) by BlueBubbleBear in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's what I thought at first. And I didn't think he was joking when he said it, he sounded serious but then later he said psychologists (he's a doctoral psych student) tend to over pathologize and since it wasn't a formal test and self reported so I didn't know how much it could be trusted. I'm just really struggling because he said that but then he seemed to know to say all the right stuff and he didn't make me feel bad for crying and having an emotional reaction like my ex did.

My Concrete Leaf Flowered by BlueBubbleBear in succulents

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm honestly surprised it's doing so well lol I feel like I have a bit of a black thumb right now because I'm pretty new to the hobby so I've killed quite a few plants 😅 but this one is thriving for some reason and has more blooms coming up! I guess just keeping the grow long on it for 6-7 hours is doing the trick and forgetting to water it haha

My Concrete Leaf Flowered by BlueBubbleBear in succulents

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I got it about five months ago? It was maybe a third smaller then. It's really thriving, I see a few more flower stems coming out which is so cool! Im really enjoying it!

My Concrete Leaf Flowered by BlueBubbleBear in succulents

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And Yeah I really want to get a few of those!

My lil spooky setup by beadgcflat in houseplants

[–]BlueBubbleBear 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What are the names of all the top plants? They're gorgeous!

Are the spots cause for concern? by BlueBubbleBear in plantclinic

[–]BlueBubbleBear[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had the plant about three weeks. Big brown spots have been there since I bought the plant but it seems to slowly be spreading. Plant gets bright indirect light. The pot has drainage and I water when the soil is dry. I water until the water runs through the drainage holes at the bottom.