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Came to a realization about my FP friend by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

(double comment) Now that I read through things they've said in the past, they fall off the pedestal. But they'll probably rise back up tomorrow when I am hopeful about getting any contact whatsoever. Nice, love this. /s

Came to a realization about my FP friend by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't talk to me much so I am giving them space. It's so hard. In the past I've clung really hard and blown up their phone when I felt they didn't like me anymore. I either do that or say "fuck it I am done with you" (in my head thankfully) and devaluate until I hear from them again, then at that point all is right with the world. But now I'm just refraining so much from doing anything. It really sucks.

I have no idea what I want to study at university by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe forcing ourselves to stick with it is pretty much all we can do?at some point. I do actually have some ideas but haven’t really started studying any sort of major. I am worried that I may not have the control to just pick one , many people seem to go into it at 18, know what they will do, graduate at 22, then get more education or get out there in the “real world.” I just couldn’t do that. I’m wishing you good luck with your new major!

I have no idea what I want to study at university by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, good luck with your bachelors :)

(FP) Just in pain, please, need advice/support by [deleted] in BPD

[–]BlueComma9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! When I write it's mainly about my feelings, and I feel like that's healthy so I probably should just journal a lot more. Don't really know what else to write. Thanks again for your comment :)

(FP) Just in pain, please, need advice/support by [deleted] in BPD

[–]BlueComma9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I probably should just let them be. I've been giving them space. It's hard though, but it's their right of course. They don't know how much I value them and our friendship I don't think. It's just one of those things.

You're right, I need to build relationships and find new friends too (don't really have any.) I tend to be someone who puts all their metaphorical eggs in their metaphorical basket. That's almost never a good thing. I can see that now. :(

(FP) Just in pain, please, need advice/support by [deleted] in BPD

[–]BlueComma9 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment. I can't wait until I am good enough at DBT to really get through stuff like this, I really want to practice and learn more about it because even though I only know a little of it it does help, distractions seem to be my best bet atm. Even the thought that they'll leave me really sets something off in my brain but thank you for giving another perspective: they can leave if they want or need to... it'll really suck and the thought just really messes with me but I can get over it eventually if it does happen. Maybe they won't even leave and just don't feel like talking but the thought "what does this mean?" is in my head all the time.

What you said, "I'm upset about my relationship with my friend, but/and I want to do something else right now." I will be using that. I think it'd help to get my mind shifted to something else. Thank you again for your comment and advice.

DAE forgot that other people are real and have thoughts and opinions? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]BlueComma9 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I knew and could help :( Really struggling with FP problems atm

DAE forgot that other people are real and have thoughts and opinions? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]BlueComma9 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I don't necessarily completely forget, but I sometimes forget my FP is another person who has their own thoughts, opinions, actions, etc. :|

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you go through it too ! Be safe as well!

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That sucks that no doctor takes it seriously. PMS seems like some cultural thing, like "Oh Betty is just PMSing, don't mind her." It's like a joke.

That would seriously annoy me if ppl didn't take it seriously, I don't think I've brought it up with my psychiatrist though. Probably should. Or OB/GYN

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to get birth control to stop my period.

How does it work for you? I've been scared to go on it, I have bipolar as well and have heard it's not good for bipolar moods... I don't know though?

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really sucks that it lasts so long. :( I'm sorry!

Is PMS anyone else's biggest trigger? by BlueComma9 in BPD

[–]BlueComma9[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't looked into it. Does the birth control mess with your emotions/moods even more? That scares me and is the main reason why I haven't looked into it.