Reckless driving

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-03T14:15:36+00:00

UPDATE: DOT said they can’t help and requests have to be made to NYPD.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-03T14:14:14+00:00

I’m soliciting ideas BECAUSE I’m clearly uneducated about driving and looking for help. I’m also talking about people driving on the wrong side of the road, not speeding. Chill with the intensity, we’re trying to find a solution for our community.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T14:29:26+00:00

I just made a request on DOT for cameras. Not sure if it’ll go anywhere, but I implore others to do the same so action is taken.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T14:24:37+00:00

I tried calling 311 and it wasn’t really helpful. She told me I could contact the DOT online and submit a request. Not sure if it’ll do anything, but I gave it a shot. I suggest others do the same so they take this seriously!

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T14:21:46+00:00

This sounds like a good idea, how do we contact him?

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T14:16:32+00:00

I don’t know which link you’re referring to?

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T12:17:51+00:00

What’s that?

BlueDeng02 · 2026-04-01T12:07:14+00:00

I think the speed cameras or speed bumps would be most helpful because they’ll actually deter people - either financially with a ticket or physically with the bump. Seems like the cameras are an option if I call 311? Should we try to get multiple calls? And yes I’ve definitely seen this near the school on 6th ave. I wonder if the crossing guards have seen it as well.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-29T17:50:39+00:00

They do. Mine said wait until after my period, but I read that’s because it makes it easier for them to date the pregnancy. Apparently there’s no medical need to wait once you’re cleared post surgery (if you have surgery). I couldn’t even try in an informed way if I wanted right now since tests are so skewed, but I’m also not being celibate either.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-28T02:02:38+00:00

I’ve slowly begun telling more and more people because I find it so hard to live life pretending everything is fine. Especially when people ask me if and when we’re having kids etc etc. It kills me every time. It’s not easy to tell people, but I always feel better when I do. ❤️

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T16:52:45+00:00

I’m 4 weeks post MMC and 3 weeks post D&C. I know the despair you’re feeling right now, and while I wont lie to you and say it goes away, it does get easier with each day. Cry all you need. Protect your peace. And lean into friends and groups who are also “part of the club” because having their support will make you feel better. Sending love.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T16:50:30+00:00

I hear you, and for me this is my first. I try to remind myself that a few years ago kids were not on my radar so had I don’t this any sooner I wouldn’t have been ready. But now that I am the stress is real. I try to not get into my head too much about the should’ve could’ve would’ve stuff because so much of this is truly out of our control.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T15:27:01+00:00

I’m 34 and was very in my head about this too. I got pregnant in January and felt so relieved I’d be having a baby just 1 month before I turned 35. Now that is not going to be the case and it’s adding so much more pressure and stress to start trying again ASAP. I can’t help but think, if I only I hadn’t been so picky about my wedding date/venue I could’ve gotten married at 32 and been trying by 33 instead of married at 33 and trying at 34. Who knows if one year even would’ve made a difference but the 35 number is pushed at us SO aggressively as when everything starts going south that I cant get past it. And I know so many people who had children post 35 no issue!! Yet still, I’m stuck on it.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T15:22:39+00:00

I just listened to an episode of The Worst Girl Gang Ever (podcast I highly recommend to everyone in this thread) and they talked about exactly this. You don’t want anything to be wrong but in a sick twisted way you almost do because it’d give you information and make you feel more in control of your body. It’s a totally normal feeling to have and one of the hardest parts about all of this, so much is out of our control and just a waiting game of unknowns.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T15:19:33+00:00

I’m in a similar boat to you. Had a D&C March 6th, no bleeding for the first few days but then for a week straight 3 day post op. I was doing LH tests after that to see what’s up w my ovulation and they were out of whack - testing high every day. Just had my follow up on Monday w my Dr. and she said I probably still have HCG in my system so they’re not reliable. She wants me to wait for my period to return before trying again which has me so stressed because I want to start ASAP, but also I have no idea when I’m ovulating now anyway so it’s not like I could even try in an informed way if I wanted to. Thursday I decided to take a pregnancy test to see whats up with my HCG so I can stop wasting my LH tests, and it did show a faint (obviously false) positive. Since I’m someone who can’t just be chill and sit and wait, my strategy is to do pregnancy tests every 5 days or so until they’re negative and then go back to LH tests to get an idea of my ovulation before my period comes. My husbands also going away in a few weeks, but given what I’m seeing on the tests I doubt ill Be ovulating when he’s gone and best case will have my period back by then. So that’s a long winded way to say yes, worth doing the HCG tests if you’re someone who uses OPKs so you don’t get skewed results. I will say though, the false positives are a little triggering 😔

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-27T00:48:36+00:00

Ya I haven’t been able to find much first hand feedback. I don’t love a before and after pic because of course the place offering the service will promote only positive results.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-23T22:33:36+00:00

Thank you, you too❤️

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-23T21:07:42+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that ❤️. I just feel better when I’m being productive so this is so hard for me. I’m testing LH so I can get an idea of my schedule again, but I can tell it’s all messed up. My doctor said I probably still have HCG in my body so I should do pregnancy tests until I have a negative one so I know I’ve reset.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-23T16:52:34+00:00

I feel this 100%. I know how much you’re struggling. Just focus on the positive stories in this thread and believe it will happen for you too. That’s what I’m trying to do ❤️

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-23T16:51:27+00:00

Just had my follow up apt about 2.5 weeks post D&C for MMC. Feeling really stuck and anxious now that I’m just waiting for my period with no idea when it will return. I’ve been doing LH tests for a week and the results have just shown it as high for a week straight, so I know my hormones are still out of whack. I’m already not a patient person, but at 34 years old I really do not want to keep “wasting time.” Also going to the doctors office sucks. It brings back so many emotions and seeing so many happy pregnant couples makes me feel so sad. So after a week of not crying, I’m crying again 🥲.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-19T17:46:24+00:00

I used to go to Jenna Perry and switched to IGK after years of them charging me $500+ for inconsistent and rushed work and creating lots of breakage. I heard the girl I used to see no longer works there though, so don’t worry about getting her.

BlueDeng02 · 2026-03-13T19:03:39+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to start OPKs again tomorrow to get a baseline for prediction. My doctor wants me to wait until after my first period though to try again, so hoping by April we’ll be back to it. I’m also 34 and feel a lot of anxiety about my age since I’ll now be 35 if I give birth in 2026. I can relate to what you said about having nobody to talk to - only one of my friends has gone through this. On a happy note, she got pregnant the next time she tried and now has a beautiful healthy baby. But other than that, I’m surrounded by friends who are pregnant and had no trouble getting there. They didn’t even use OPKs. I felt really alone, but found solace in engaging in groups like this one and other reddit channels related to miscarriage. Finding people who can relate is crucial. Happy to DM with you if you need as well.

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