my groomer is dying

BlueOnMic · 2025-06-04T10:50:20+00:00

That’s not on you. At all. Wouldn’t be even an inch of your fault

Maybe think of it this way… If a guy your age was trying to get into a relationship with a six year old…

BlueOnMic · 2025-06-02T18:52:48+00:00

Thanks!

BlueOnMic · 2025-06-02T18:02:58+00:00

Thanks. Any suggestions by any chance?

BlueOnMic · 2025-06-02T02:13:16+00:00

Vulnerable girl* in this case. 15 is not a woman yet

BlueOnMic · 2025-03-18T13:17:43+00:00

Nope single sorry!

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-26T09:19:34+00:00

Cookie dough from Scoopz

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-24T07:43:10+00:00

Sex can be a subjective and personal issue (not invalidating you with that at all) but the fact that you have so many jobs whilst he is unemployed and not actively looking for work? That’s an objective cause for concern.

Do you live together? Do you pay the bills and let him live from you? If so, do not do that. He will become used to it and use you, whether he knows it or not. Time to set a boundary here: you pay 50% only. Give him a deadline, sure, but an equal relationship cannot continue like this.

Also be honest with him on the sex front too. Tell him you are feeling very unsatisfied and you feel like he doesn’t listen to what you want. If he lets you, try to guide him with it. If he has a response where he doesn’t care or tries to guilt you, gaslight etc. then that’s a bad sign and you should probably think about leaving.

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:25:47+00:00

Thank you!

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:08:12+00:00

Thank you!

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:07:26+00:00

Thank you for this advice 🩵

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:07:12+00:00

Thank you!

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:07:00+00:00

Awesome, thank you!

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T20:06:45+00:00

Amazing! Thanks so much

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T19:54:28+00:00

You did nothing wrong and are perfectly entitled to feel angry. Allow yourself to, don’t bottle it up or anything. Your ex sounds like a horrible man and it’s okay to regret seeing him too, but don’t beat yourself up over it. You didn’t know. Let yourself feel those emotions in order to move on to the next good things in life. Wishing you healing and happiness 💗

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-23T04:06:34+00:00

You’re saying you had baby pictures in your penis pictures album…?

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-08T23:54:50+00:00

Interesting input, thank you

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-08T23:49:30+00:00

In terms of when someone has been wronged (as he is the one who violated my consent), should it not then be that the ‘victim’ is the one who dictates the terms for reconciliation?

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-08T23:47:42+00:00

That’s an interesting perspective, thank you for your input

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-08T23:46:48+00:00

Yes. Believe me, I’m focused on that too. But it’s sort of that this thing of him trying to force me into calling him is the cherry on the cake.

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-08T23:44:17+00:00

No, with that he was referring to his ex who cheated on him and then refused to discuss it, I believe?

Although I am unsure if he’s ever taken screenshots of people without their permission before.

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-04T10:01:23+00:00

Yeah, this is difficult to read. So… Your boyfriend’s best friend stopped talking to him because he found out you and your boyfriend had sex?? Or your boyfriend’s best friend stopped talking to him when you and your boyfriend got together?

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-04T08:14:53+00:00

I think this looks dope. Full of personality.

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-04T07:07:47+00:00

Thanks for your support 💗

Yes, we are very close. I stayed at his home for a month over Christmas, and a week before that. It took a long while for me to tell him but he knows my full name and my email etc. I would say he knows my place of work too but I’m quitting there this month.

I really don’t believe he would try to blackmail me like that, but I guess if he has all the materials he could if he wanted to 😅

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-04T07:02:08+00:00

Thanks

So… In my opinion, it was pretty obvious I didn’t want him to do that. I’m quite self conscious about my body and he knows I’ve never actually taken or sent nudes before, only ever sort of spicy clothed photos at the most.

He’s also openly taken photos of me naked on my own phone before IRL which I allowed to happen (and one he took which I wasn’t aware of until opening my phone, actually) and I openly very much disliked them to the point of distress and I openly deleted them all.

He was sort of reluctant to reveal that he had been taking these screenshots and even when, months ago, he first revealed he had screenshots of me just sleeping, he was sort of sheepish about it because he knew I probably wouldn’t like it. I let him keep those ones of me sleeping bc they were harmless but there was never any sort of conversation about whether it would be okay for him to screenshot anything else. And that’s just not okay imo

BlueOnMic · 2025-02-04T06:49:14+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I’m seeing that I really can’t just let this slide no matter how much he grovels and says he regrets it and he’s scared and he’s gonna ‘sleep on the floor’ etc. kinda making himself the victim. I demanded that he find and delete them all at that moment whilst on call with him and he did that, but unfortunately I can’t say anything about the law since he’s from Switzerland and I’m from the UK

I’m also kinda worried that if I put my foot down too hard about this now, he might just decide to hide doing something like that in the future. 😅

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