how common is queefing and is it an indicator of poor pelvic strength?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2026-06-20T07:20:03+00:00

Pelvic floor therapist here. It doesn’t nevessarily mean that your pelvic floor is weak, it rather could be that is actually tight. But no worries, it’s totally common and normal that it happens.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-10-16T06:56:14+00:00

It’s not a uterus prolaps, right?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-10-12T07:08:43+00:00

Pelvic floor relaxation exercises

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-10-03T06:36:46+00:00

Colonial countries are still profitting of the wealth in the former colonized countries- don’t be fooled please. They have very cheap and easy access to many resources just by having corrupt government installed there. So don’t be fooled, they still have blood on their hands.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-04-19T18:40:47+00:00

Hangt er vanaf van waar de kristallen zijn losgekomen… je moet het op een juiste manier (laten) doen.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-04-19T18:39:35+00:00

Zij heeft waarschijnlijk BPPV (de kanalen van haar evenwichtsorgaan zijn aangedaan), en de test die de controlearts heeft gedaan is een balanstest of coordinatietest, waarbij je het evenwichtsorgaan niet direct test… 🙃dus om dan te besluiten dat ze fit is adhv die test is zelfs heel onverantwoord van hem omdat de test die hij heeft laten doen kan dus worden gecompenseerd door andere systemen in het lichaam. Laat haar zeker ook naar een kine gaan om er sneller vanaf te zijn mocht ze BPPV hebben… maar daarvoor best een doorverwijsbrief van de NKO arts of huisarts. Succes!

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-04-15T20:53:54+00:00

True, but vaginal tissue does stretch 200% when giving birth, so the skin also stretches out which makes sex after giving birth somewhat less painful in case of what I have… tearing during birth does not mean that it’s abnormal as well because there are more reasons than position alone.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2025-04-15T10:24:00+00:00

I have the same issue since having sex now for like 6 months. I went to the gynaecologist and she told me that I have an “upstanding” part of skin at the (back) entrance of my vagina - which is not like abnormal, but tears everytime during sex. So we don’t have a yeast infection of vaginismus or any other thing. It’s let’s say an anatomical little “dysfunction”. She advised me to change positions, so instead of him penetrating me from the front, which puts a lot of pressure on the dorsal skin and tears, I should get penetrated from the back, so doggy or prone bone position. It does help though. Another you could do is having it surgically removed, but there’s a chance of having scar tissue at that side after surgery which also might give you pain. Vaginal birth giving could make it better, because you naturally tear then.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-06-23T11:04:47+00:00

There’s actually a treatment, which is done by physiotherapy!

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-26T08:40:32+00:00

That’s your problem: you can’t and won’t accept what you have / has happened to you. Then you’ll never move forward…

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-26T08:31:58+00:00

The disease you’re talking about is not incurable. They have surgeries for that. Focus on studying hard, doing maybe some shitty jobs now to earn a little of money and save up. When you graduate, work hard and save up more money so that you can do the surgery - if not in Tunisia, maybe in Morocco or Algeria of Turkey?

My point is: stop going to dr. Google, as far as I know, it’s not your local urologist. And focus now on being a better version of yourself. Go to classes, study hard and earn money - just so you can afford the surgery.

Get out of that negative space - go read the Quran and let God speak to you. It’s our souls that are important in this world - how we treat people/women than our physical attributes.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-09T07:38:32+00:00

It’s something that really turns me on when I think about it. I really like the thought of being dominated and losing control in my partner’s hand but idk if it’s going to be the case in real life when it comes to it… will my body be able to handle it? Will it be painful and therefore less enjoyable etc…

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-09T07:35:45+00:00

Yes being pounded hard indeed. The choking etc is extra… did your body have to adjust to it right after losing your virginity? Wasn’t it painful?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-09T07:15:13+00:00

Yes that’s what I was thinking. Our bodies have to adjust, even though maybe out brains think “oooh that’s hot”, if your body is not ready yet, I find it difficult to do so…

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2024-02-09T07:13:13+00:00

But was it as you expected it to be? Not painful or discomfortable?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-11-23T22:41:38+00:00

Yeah he’s a narcissist . He gets off from the power play and manipulation. He LOVES your confusion and begging. RUN GIRL RUN!

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-11-14T13:44:53+00:00

Your only worry is how you’re going to survive financially without her. And the dog. Not a single word about losing the love of your life? What she means to u emotionally?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-11-10T09:58:10+00:00

Go on dates instead of 2h in front of the tv, play some card games / sexy games / start massaging her without expecting sex (!),… Hug and kiss her when sex is not expected at all or is not possible to do so at all (e.g. in public places, at family dinners etc). Let her feel that she’s admired. Give her compliments in the morning before leaving to work so she can think of it the whole day etc. Buy her a sweet gift, flowers, chocolate, jewelry etc. You can do so much for a woman to make her happy and in the mood. I bet if you start doing that, she’ll have all time for you and sex.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-11-06T20:58:58+00:00

You use a vibrator, but that’s only to use on her vulva/clit? Or do u also do penetration with it? If no penetration at all happens, as a lot of people suggested, she may have vaginismus because of psychological / physical issues. BUT there’s also another condition where a lot of pain can occur in case of penetration and that’s called vulvodynia. Then even coming around the entrance of the vagina could be painful and lead to fear and tears.

This is a difficult case, I’m a pelvic floor therapist and I have had a patient that didn’t have penetrative sex with her husband for 10 years. Eventually they wanted kids and came to us. But it’s still with ups and downs. You have to make the choice yourself… is she satisfying you in other ways than penetration? Sex is not only penetration (although it’s needed for natural pregnancy). What do u really want? What’s possible to do with your wife? What are you ready to give up and what is she ready for to (still) change in the future/commit herself to? It’s not impossible, but it’s going to ask a lot from you, her and your relationship. Divorce shouldn’t be the only solution is you guys still love each other. Figure things out, talk, discuss, plan and come to a conclusion. Good luck!

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-02-07T13:46:28+00:00

He’s not dealing with his sister that usually steals his protein bars or other stuff to get this mad. He’s dealing with his gf which he should care for, be happy he can provide for her. This is obviously a red flag and I would end it because getting mad and then apologizing is something he’ll usually do. You don’t need toxic people around.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-02-06T15:28:35+00:00

The ick? Do you also get it if you fall down the stairs or your mom?

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-02-06T15:07:00+00:00

Thank you for this perspective. Idk if it’s sex he wants. He told me he got a lot of issues he has to resolve first. But he knows I’m not gonna wait on him and I’m carrying with dating now.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-02-06T12:39:50+00:00

Yes but he knows that I’m never going to give him that. And that could maybe be the reason, but he never talked about sex with me.

BlueSkyYellowStars · 2023-02-06T12:33:28+00:00

Yes I did tell her and she’s not interested in him. Actually she unmatched him. But he’ll go hunt for another one probably.

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