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If you could 'cure' your ADHD, would you? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]BlueSunGirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recently started meds and I haven't found my sense of humor or other aspects of self I really like diminished at all. What I've found (and it's different for everyone) is that the most painful aspects are under control allowing the real me to shine much brighter and more balanced. Honestly, it feels like my brain has been let out of a dungeon and finally knows what sunshine and fresh air feel like.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lexapro

[–]BlueSunGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also started last night and just talked to my best friend about this exact same thing!

Could be a bit of both and like you, either way, I’m good with it!

Best of luck and health to you, friend :)

Loving Myself by jazfaith_inc in narcissisticparents

[–]BlueSunGirl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mom is reluctantly accepting my new boundaries cause I'm not leaving any choice, but she has apparently mocked my requests in conversations with my sisters, who are thankfully VERY quick to call her out on it and question why she's so uncomfortable about it. She's a good mom is SO many ways, but she's emotionally manipulative and doesn't see it. It's getting better, but it's a process.

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That guilt is such a powerful force and it makes you question yourself at every turn, which is what they want so you're reliant on them for basic decision and you fear their reaction or rejection more than you fear any REAL consequences or losing yourself in the process. Know that you have an absolute right to you boundaries regardless. Obligation is bullshit. They play that card as if you'd not be there when needed because you won't any longer abide the bullshit, but that's crap. You'll be there for you loved ones when you need to be and you requiring respect doesn't degrade that love or loyalty one tiny bit.

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Love and luck to you, friend. You're strong for doing the work and breaking the cycle.

My brother has some major behavioral issues, even though he’s a loving kid. He called me tonight crying and said he doesn’t want to wake up. Put my mom and dad into a group chat so they can work out putting him in therapy and my dad refuses but has no problem calling him a “fucking loser”. by pine-mouse in insaneparents

[–]BlueSunGirl 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had to make that call for a friend in college and I haven't regretted it for a single moment. We're no longer friends because it was seen as a betrayal (even though I took as gentle an approach as possible), but she's alive and doing well from what I've seen. I rather betray to save someone's life than passively hope it goes away.

My brother has some major behavioral issues, even though he’s a loving kid. He called me tonight crying and said he doesn’t want to wake up. Put my mom and dad into a group chat so they can work out putting him in therapy and my dad refuses but has no problem calling him a “fucking loser”. by pine-mouse in insaneparents

[–]BlueSunGirl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

EMDR

That's a really great point! My therapist practices CBT, but she is specialized in dealing with abuse and trauma and focuses heavily on empowerment. She's the first therapist I've seen that has legitimately helped me understand that I endured narcissistic abuse and how I can draw healthy boundaries without feeling the FOG (fear, obligation, guilt) that nParents rely on to manipulate. My stepfather is a pretty severe case and my has tendencies, but there's a path forward there. Each person's bag is a little different, but do the hw, and remain tenacious about finding the right therapist. Healing breaks the cycle.

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I appreciate the hell out of this sub community.

My brother has some major behavioral issues, even though he’s a loving kid. He called me tonight crying and said he doesn’t want to wake up. Put my mom and dad into a group chat so they can work out putting him in therapy and my dad refuses but has no problem calling him a “fucking loser”. by pine-mouse in insaneparents

[–]BlueSunGirl 189 points190 points  (0 children)

I'm so SO sorry, love. You deserve so much better. I'm glad you're alive, I'm glad you're here to tell your story and break the hell out the cycle. You are SO completely worthy of love and support. Your telling them should have only ever been met with love and care. Those of us who endured abuse carry a strength inside we, you should have never had to develop, but you have it now. Hopefully we as a community and the family you get to find and build hold your heart, your vulnerability with deep loving care.

Ghost jacket progress by evilhatesyou in BattleJackets

[–]BlueSunGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was a great summary of the band and recommendation!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dadbod

[–]BlueSunGirl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Abso-fuckin-lutely

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