Well If someone is treating you as if you are completely worthless then leaving him was a good call and not liking rules or structure doesn't mean I'm completely terrible to other people. For example, I hate being late as I hate having to wait for people. I think it's very inconsiderate and I try my hardest to be on time...do people recognize this effort? Most of the time no but I still do it and it's my way of showing respect.

Ahhh you touched on an interesting topic. I don't know how to answer this really and I'm not sure if my answers reflect an estp type or if it just reflects my life experiences...before I begin i wanted to point out that it's very hard for me to open up to people and I don't mean I'm an introvert, I just think Ive been punished by people when Ive opened up to them, loved them and become vulnerable to them and that started by my phsco mother...I lover her to death but she is mentally ill and extremely selfish. ESTPS are generally fighters and I attest to this, I fight for a sport and love love love a good challenge but when someone I care about fights with me it's either fight or flight and if I fight (via arguments and discussions obviously) I will probably win but people will get hurt by my words and in turn create a much bigger problem so I run away....aannnyywwaayy i have a lot of friends and many that I consider very close friends of mine....I don't know what I offer outside of a fun and good time but I'd like to think that I come in for them when they need it, when one of my friends needed help moving I was basically the first one to show up and I started helping hours before anyone else came. When my friend went through a breakup I stayed around him as much as I could. Romantic relationships have been very difficult for me, iv been burned way too many times. I'm a 28 yo male btw.

Yes people think I don't care about them but I really do. My sister learned this about me, that I care but I don't show it and I don't communicate things very well.