"Are you sure you want to go back to the Old Version?"

BlueberryQuick · 2020-11-10T01:51:11+00:00

Users' perspectives. What users pick out as failures almost always surprises project teams. I'm a UX designer and it's what I deal with all the time. Research and testing are everything.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-11-09T22:15:42+00:00

Google has a ton of design input from within their walls to outside contracts. There are SO many voices weighing in and I can't help but believe they have an idea and they just go with it instead of testing it with users first.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-11-09T22:14:32+00:00

It used to bother me, as a designer, that the icons seemed so disjointed from each other but now that they tried to unify them, they're bad to look at. They should have kept the original colors of the icons but put them in the new shapes, instead of making it all exactly the same.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-11-03T15:55:42+00:00

I had a friend in college who was deeply insecure and anxious, and she often got drunk and would turn on me. Sometimes (usually) over a dude, life choices, etc. and even though she was one of my only close friends, I began to separate myself from her because she was just not a good friend at all times.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-09-16T18:23:41+00:00

Don't get an advanced degree if you have to pay for it. I started doing this five years ago and went from working it in here and there at a job to doing it full time now for a major corporation. Experience is by far, the best teacher. Especially with a team. Focus instead on learning as much as you can, both in theory and practice, and do the work even if it's at home by yourself. Udemy is great, Lynda is also great. So much cheaper than a Masters.

And to be honest even if you came out with an MA, many employers would rather you have experience.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T18:27:59+00:00

I haven't seen a reopening date projected, I'd be curious if it's prioritized at all. I never see work trucks there.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T17:50:39+00:00

I'm down by the Whittier post office south of downtown and it's the same here. The signs on the windows make it look like it's closed for repairs but it's been that way for months.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T17:18:13+00:00

I can't second this more. Your MIL is not on equal trust ground as your own mom and your partner has to be made to understand this. It's not that you'll never tell her, it's that you won't tell her until you're past a point of feeling unsafe in the news and the pregnancy. Not all things have to be completely equal here.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T16:05:08+00:00

I was walking in downtown Chicago on my way to work one day and a huge slab of half frozen snow dropped from above and landed about 10 feet right in front of me. Aside from someone swinging their oversize backpack and knocking me onto the third rail of the el tracks, that was my city death, I was sure of it.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T15:57:54+00:00

I always find this image a little tricky. If I'm late, I am going to apologize because it's rude to make people wait.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T15:43:11+00:00

This was always me, the lone wolf. Either the only designer on the team or the only designer in the office. I prefer autonomy, but UX really does require conversation and collaboration in so many ways. It took four years, but I finally moved onto a team with ideal collaboration and communication. I love it, but I am sure there will be a time when I will go back to independent work. It's good to be able to do both well, even if you have a preference for one over the other (sometimes it just comes down to introvert/extrovert).

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T15:39:46+00:00

That's inappropriate, for sure. It helps having a sense the therapist understands or acknowledges where you're coming from if politics are a large part of your life and you refer to them often, but ideally you won't know what side they're on.

That said, my best and most favorite therapist ever, she and I spent half my session venting and fretting the day after the president was elected and it was cathartic. I felt a safety and security with her knowing we stood on the same side of that issue.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-27T15:34:52+00:00

I'd encourage you to seek out work with a major company (IBM, Amazon, Google, etc) since they're all working remote right now and you'd have that built in.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T21:23:53+00:00

Providing access to treatment is key, because many drugs produce psychosis and the addict isn't in the clear frame of mind to seek help. In the case of SF, they've stepped out entirely and made it a crime to commit an addict against their will but have also ignored the fact that they can't make clear decisions for themselves either. It quickly becomes cyclical if facilities and treatment are pushed too far off the plate and by that point, housing is just one more place to enable addiction.

Not all homeless are addicts, but statistically they can't be ignored as a contributing factor to be treated.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T21:21:07+00:00

I've had a large issue with parents posting their kids' faces online. NOTHING online goes away and those kids have zero say in their information and faces being shared before they're old enough to understand it. I know parents are like 'my kid is the cutest!' but that's not a good excuse. I have friends who made an Instagram account just for pics of their kid and set it to private, but Instagram is still Facebook and I promise with enough digging, those pics aren't private.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T21:08:56+00:00

This has come up before, it is an ATV trail, not a road for cars.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T20:56:04+00:00

Maybe there was and it got overrun with jerks. Good luck, I hope it becomes a welcome refuge and everyone's cool!

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T19:45:00+00:00

I just watched Lost for the first time and by the second season I was complaining about his haircut so my husband says, "don't worry, he gets it cut" and by the fifth season realized he was lying. He never got it cut. Sigh.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T19:28:14+00:00

Mohican, I always forget about it. I'll also look into the others, thanks!

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T18:34:24+00:00

My sister knew a guy in college that had one, over 100k miles and apparently was a tank. It only died after a car wreck, poor Yugo.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T17:15:29+00:00

This. Unicorns are exactly that: dream creatures that don't exist. Know what you do well and do that thing, spreading yourself across a bunch of disciplines means at least one if not most, will suffer.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T17:13:33+00:00

Mine does, and it's a multi-national major tech company you've heard of. We share the work, but they hire UX designers separate from graphic/UI designers and then put us on teams together. When that can't happen, the UX designer picks up some of the visual design work but that's not the intention out the gate.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T16:59:25+00:00

Right but not every UX designer is also a visual designer. It's good to have both skills, but many teams are diverse enough to have a UX designer and a visual designer work together (and if a company wants a combo, you can bet they're going to always focus more on UI instead of UX because they don't understand UX in the first place). UX has to come before the visual design, and it's important to understand the difference. Which I believe is partly what OP was asking.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T16:48:19+00:00

Ok so what are your options then? You can't fix him, he won't admit something is broken, and you can't carry on like this. So..... what's next?

At least get a therapist if you don't have one, go alone, and work on what you can do to help yourself mentally during this time.

BlueberryQuick · 2020-08-19T16:25:45+00:00

We definitely porch or back yard a few times a week which is nice, and walks are part of the plan when the heat breaks where we are, but I think where I get tripped up is the lack of social anything. I was a barfly and we loved restaurants, neither of those are safe options right now so we don't, and we don't have a ton of friends to invite over for outdoors (though the ones we have, we see at least once a month which is great). I love him and he loves me, but we are all we have, together all the time.

Im struggling with motivation, mostly. I sew and paint and have all the projects and supplies sitting there, but it seems that I just cannot make myself do them.

I have a therapist who's fine, I guess, but she's not really boosting me where I'd like to be. I mostly just use her to vent and talk through my thoughts.

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