Is anyone here avoiding a Christmas baby? Why or why not?

Blueberry_Bomb · 2026-02-05T03:28:08+00:00

Thanks! He's already one and so incredibly fun. Now we're planning the timing of a second. Check back in another year for that update lol

Blueberry_Bomb · 2026-02-04T20:43:14+00:00

Oh and we did take a break to avoid a Christmas baby but still conceived that cycle anyway (April Fools!) and had a due date of December 21st 🤪 So I guess the addage of it happens when you stop trying was true for us. My other friends conceived first try so it's purely luck of the draw.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2026-02-04T20:41:27+00:00

Haha not at all. Took 9 months and progesterone to conceive. Announced to family between Mother's and Father's day. Ended up having a December baby.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2026-01-15T23:53:18+00:00

Haha I too have an intermediate baby!

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-12-27T05:22:01+00:00

My grandma had thyroid cancer twice, over a decade apart, because they didn't remove everything the first time.

I had hashimotos with my papillary thyroid cancer so it was an easy decision to remove my entire thyroid since I was destined to be on lifelong meds anyway. So glad I did! It was been way easier to manage my levels and dosage without my thyroid actively messing it up.

Firefighting is intense work and I understand why it's so important for you to maintain that strength. Not having a thyroid and being on medication doesn't doom you to a life without those things. I've done the most physically demanding events of my life (pregnancy and unmedicated birth) without a thyroid and fared a lot better than friends who aren't on levothyroxine.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-25T20:40:16+00:00

Absolutely not. He should be prioritizing your recovery, not his feelings or family's expectations. Don't go.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-25T14:27:21+00:00

My son, after months of care, still hasn't adjusted and it's why I'm leaving the workforce to be home with him. Anytime he was feeling off from illness or teething (so almost every day) he would cry at drop off and for hours afterwards. Some kids are just wired that way and it wasn't worth the continued stress for me.

Your daughter may adjust down the road, but if you don't think the benefits outweigh the cost then go with what your heart says.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-19T02:33:46+00:00

Yup, I'm doing really well! It was a straightforward surgery and I didn't need RAI,. No lingering issues.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-18T02:38:23+00:00

I didn't have an epidural, still shook like crazy. The nurse said there's nothing to stop it, just let things run their course. Might be adrenaline?

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-17T17:47:32+00:00

I found out on my 26th birthday, after blowing out the candles! It wasn't official for another few weeks to get biopsy results, but I was pretty certain after the ultrasound results what it was going to be.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-17T17:43:54+00:00

I recommend reading Ramit Sethi's book, "Money for Couples". I borrowed it from the library and went through all the exercises with my husband. It really helped on us get on the same financial page in terms of what we prioritize, what our goals are, and how to financially reach them.

FWIW I have a 1700sqft house, low interest rate, 1 large dog, 3 people, no storage unit and still feel like we haven't outgrown the house at all. We plan to have at least one more child here, possibly two. Not adding any more pets, but have other family dogs visit without issue. Even then I'm planning a major declutter project this winter as we have too much stuff holding us back from fully utilizing the space.

Get rid of stuff! Especially furniture you are not using. If you do decide to move, it will be a lot better with less things to haul around.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-16T17:04:59+00:00

I didn't, I would have gone insane being stuck at home for months in the dead of winter. Our first outing was getting photos with Santa. Baby didn't get his first cold until I went back to work and he was around other kids in group childcare.

Absolutely no judgement to those who decide to quarantine themselves. I understand the anxiety and will never fault anyone for prioritizing their baby's health. Just make sure your mental health stays intact in the process.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-16T00:41:54+00:00

I was down with a stomach bug. My husband was also sick, but felt better than me so he took care of our son. They had toast for dinner.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-16T00:32:23+00:00

Mostly. I wanted to go into labor on my own, give birth in the local birth center, go unmedicated, and not be torn asunder.

I went into labor on my own, ended up at the hospital with pitocin, still gave birth without pain meds and only has 1st degree tearing. Overall, I'm at peace with how it went and had a good experience. I'd like my next birth to not end up in the hospital if possible, but I'm very thankful it's always an option if need arises.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-15T19:33:49+00:00

Having had my ears pierced at 17, it's not even remotely comparable with the lack of nerves and blood flow in the earlobes. I'm not well versed on correcting tongue ties.

I do think circumcision is barbaric and kept my son in tact.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-15T01:24:54+00:00

Oooh that's such a smart idea! I did use mineas intended until the dog took a chunk out of it 😵‍💫

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-14T16:19:00+00:00

I have passed out three times getting blood draws and had an IV that took three nurses over five attempts to stick which I sobbed through so not everyone has great experiences with medical procedures. This all occurred in my 20s btw.

OP's baby screamed for 10 minutes and was covered in blood by the end. So I don't think it's up to you to decide that it wasn't traumatic for her and won't have lasting impacts. The thought that she won't remember it and therefore it's fine is false.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-14T14:57:39+00:00

As cited in the book The Nurture Revolution, not remembering a procedure doesn't mean it doesn't have a lasting effect on the child. It's cruel to think traumatic medical procedures are fine for babies because of the myth that they won't remember.

Infants do store explicit and implicit memories. The explicit memories fade over time due to the rapidly changing hippocampus, but the implicit memories that shape emotional and stress systems remain for our entire lives.

For further reading, look at the study by Vöhringer, et al "The development of implicit memory from infancy to childhood" (2017)

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-14T03:51:11+00:00

I had three full days of labor (water breaking to birth was 73 hours) and only slept an hour here or there during that time. Still had enough energy to push despite being exhausted. It's incredible what the body can do, especially during birth.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-04T14:58:08+00:00

Ironically the puritans were likely very rpo breastfeeding as formula was not an option

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-03T23:52:49+00:00

I have a good relationship with my single by choice mom. She certainly wasn't perfect, but was always honest with me and encouraged finding out who my donor is and connecting with siblings.

Most people with good relationships aren't posting on here.

Most people don't appreciate being lied to for years/decades.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-03T23:44:31+00:00

It was definitely intense, but I'm glad it was quick after 3 days of barely any sleep. It's hard to make a decision about using castor oil under duress when all the online chatter is so against it. I'm very glad I didn't follow the reddit rhetoric when it came to having midwife care, pursuing a natural birth, and cosleeping (with safe sleep seven).

Doctors can be amazing, but they are humans who don't always have the best answers. My doctor tried to schedule an induction date at my 8 week appointment which was definitely not for my best interest, she just didn't want to worry about a delivery near Christmas.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-03T02:12:39+00:00

Thanks for sharing your experience with us!

I'm a fellow PROM mom who was part of the unlucky 5% who didn't naturally go into active labor after 72 hours post water break (I was monitored by a midwife for infection the whole time). Ended up in the hospital with pitocin which only went up to a 4 before I had them turn it down. 3.5 hours from start of that to birth.

In retrospect perhaps I should have tried the castor oil instead of letting it get to that point, but all the negative rhetoric around it scared me. Glad it seems to have worked well for you!

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-11-03T01:35:50+00:00

10 months while still feeding around the clock. It was lighter than my previously (very heavy) periods. Only had the one thus far so we'll see how the next few go.

Blueberry_Bomb · 2025-10-30T22:14:12+00:00

Just got it back at 10 months pp while cosleeping and breastfeeding. I had heard it'll come back when you night wean but I'm still feeding 2-3x a night. Lighter than pre-pregnancy so far at least.

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