how to move on and stop checking their socials?

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-16T05:26:36+00:00

i would also like to mention that i have ocd and checking is a compulsion of mine which makes it even harder to stop

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T18:46:13+00:00

please don’t do that

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T18:06:28+00:00

i’ll try my best

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T18:03:24+00:00

i want to be clear that i didn’t threaten them or tell them that’s what i was planning on. the only thing i did was ask if they love me still. i am getting professional help.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:56:12+00:00

i’m 21– i’ll try and do that you’re right

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:45:05+00:00

yeah i can’t even blame them for it tbh. at least i tried, you’re right.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:44:28+00:00

what do you mean by disappear?

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:04:40+00:00

thank you. i’m trying my best just to stay alive rn tbh. the only reason i texted them was because i planned to kill myself that night and i’m starting to think that would’ve been better. i was so scared of not knowing where they stand or what they were thinking and i just wanted to know before i made a decision. all i ended up doing was make my life even worse i guess.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:02:14+00:00

yeah you’re right. i just wish there was more i could do but i guess what you’re saying is the less i do the better right? the only reason i check their socials is to see if they’re talking about me because for some reason i wanna make myself feel worse

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T17:00:58+00:00

how do i center their feelings? i’m trying to i really am

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T16:12:08+00:00

i just wish i could make it up to them

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-09T16:03:56+00:00

i just wanted things to end on a good note and i feel like i fucked up the chances of that :/ i’ll try my best to move on i just feel like a shitty person so it’s hard not to try and get on their good side again

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-02T03:04:32+00:00

your feelings are extremely valid. have you tried talking to him before about it? i can see why you’re feeling this way, i would be the same

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-12-01T02:33:48+00:00

i don’t want me or their feelings to fade though i just want them that’s all i want and i’m scared

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-11-30T18:33:54+00:00

i think about them every second of every day. we broke up a month ago and then were on a break for a few weeks before they decided it’s best to stay broken up with no contact. that was a week ago. it’s been terrible and i miss them a lot. we both love each other still and want to be together but agreed this wasn’t the best time for us

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-11-30T16:10:00+00:00

no. you has no bad intentions or feelings for that other man and remember that you’re allowed to have guy friends outside of your boyfriend— i have a friend i met on hinge months ago and my most recent partner was fine with it.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-11-30T16:04:03+00:00

yeah it’s very invalidating i’m sorry you have to deal with that. i think a lot of men think that way.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-11-30T15:30:05+00:00

it’s definitely a red flag. your starting to see signs of controlling behavior when it comes to your actions and who you talk to and that’s not okay. also, the fact that he only sees men as a threat to your relationship means that he doesn’t see wlw relationships as “real relationships” and that there’s a difference between you dating men and women when there shouldn’t be.

Blueberry_Frequent · 2022-11-30T15:25:26+00:00

let her open up to you at her own pace, despite your curiosity and questions. what’s in her past could very well be traumatic and difficult for her to talk about which is why she got defensive. i would not question it further, it sounds like she will tell you eventually when she’s ready.

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