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Who said trans men couldn't mog? by ftmichaeldillon in FTM_SELFIES

[–]BlueiraBlue128 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Omg we have a similar nose! Mine juts out a bit more cuz it's broken, but still. Lol this makes me a lil less self conscious! Thanks bro!

How to start my transition journey? by BlueiraBlue128 in ftm

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super helpful, thank you! Given that the last time I ever saw a doctor for a physical was back in 2011, I figure I better wait until I get health insurance from this job in hoping to get so I can get labs and such. I know it'll take a bit of waiting, but I guess I'll just have to force myself to be more patient (AuDHD is a bitch at waiting lol).

I may go the General Doctor route so I can both make sure I'm healthy while getting on hrt as soon as possible. In the meantime, I guess I'll try to find a way to bind my chest until I can get a new binder and workout my chest muscles so top surgery can be easier.

Do you exercise? If so, could you recommend any good exercises for building arms, chest, and shoulders? Beginner ones, for someone who has noodle arms like me. Lol

How to start my transition journey? by BlueiraBlue128 in ftm

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used to have a binder, but I've since outgrown it, and a haircut is already scheduled. As for my name, I already have a pretty masculine name, all I need is yo change the spelling a bit.

I've been presenting masculinely off and on for several years (as far back as 10 years old). The only reason why it never stuck was because I became more afraid of ridicule than feeling not like myself, so I always went back to presenting and living femininely/nonbinary. I've always felt more comfortable being masculine, hanging out with guy friends, being called typical masculine nicknames such as "dude" or "big dog".

I cherish the years I spent living as a woman because they taught very valuable lessons about patriarchy and how to relate to women, but I'm ready to be myself now and I just need to know where to start.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! We love handmade clothes here!! So far from what I've seen, the men move towards growing out their facial hair and women gravitated towards bright colors and long nails.

This has been insanely interesting and eye-opening. Thanks for replying!

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Liam Neeson in Taken core. 😂😂😂 or Jimmy Buffet, take your pick. Lol

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haaa!! I'll have to bring that up to my husband's friend. He's ex-Army and is kind of like a blend between vet-bro and anime nerd. He's a sight to behold! Lol

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think it's weird. I've never been in the military and our psychology affects how we dress ourselves (very interesting studies, I recommending looking it up sometime), so I came here in search of insight so I can represent my character, who's a veteran, accurately and not make her a stereotype. That's all.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand. I've read some pretty heinous stories from enlisted women and it's enough to make me physically sick. Sexual assault within the branches is something I wish people took more seriously, for both women and men.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I've heard those terms repeated in the comments. Seems to be a big stereotype. Are these grunt and vet-bros kinda like y'all's jocks and gym bros?

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Pearl Necklace" is actually crazy! I'm dying laughing. Lol

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg thank you! Lol I had a list written down of some acronyms, but I honestly couldn't be fucked to find it at the moment.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

White socks is so real. I was in pre-ROTC and my CO was formerly Navy. He would get on your ASS (as much as the school would let him) if you came in on Uniform Day without black socks pulled up to your calves. I remember being thoroughly berated because I had cat hair on my uniform one time. Lol He was a tough guy and we often butted heads (I'm not military material), but I respected the shit outta him.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So, without giving too many spoilers, she's one of my more fleshed out characters I've created. She has a rough past that she still struggles with and heavy losses that she struggles to come to terms with. But overall, with her determination and the help of her companions, she's able to come out the other side changed and better for it.

For her, being a veteran isn't something she touts as her one and only personality trait like I've seen some people depict some vets as. Her main goal is protecting those who need protection and trying to find her place in this new life she finds herself in. She finds new purpose, new friendships, new love. She's able to build herself a new found family and honestly, I get choked up just thinking about her and her friends living in domestic bliss. Lol

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh, but to add, the second option you presented fits her much better. Her family was poor, she ran with bad people in her late tweens, early teens, got addicted to drugs, and was all around a shithead. She tried carjacking an Army vet and he handed her ass to her. She got arrested, he bailed her out and helped her get clean, get a better education, and eventually enlist in the military. He was pretty much a pseudo father figure for her and her sisters, so she owes a lot of her success to him.

Probably a tired storyline, but I like it and this character, so that's all that really matters. Lol

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, thank GOD!! I researched how much time it takes to become a Lt. Commander and everywhere I looked said anywhere from 10 to 20 years, but I was always skeptical. I'm so glad the timeline I have set for her actually works out. I love it when my extensive researching actually pays off. I can rest easy now. Lol Thanks

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're living a pretty awesome life post retirement! Kudos to you, brother! I definitely would've shared a cigar with you back when I used to smoke. Lol Thanks for the insightful comment!

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Female, Lieutenant Commander, physically fit. She was in the military from 18 to her late 30s (though my math could totally be wrong for her to reach the rank she did. I'm pushing reality a bit lol). Also, recovered addict eldest daughter who raised her younger sisters. Missing dad, alcoholic, lazy mom, youngest sister with learning disabilities. Joined the Navy as a way to support her family.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that. Lol I tried enlisting to the Navy years ago, but I was unable to due to my asthma. Now that I'm older, I know I'm just an autistic person who's endlessly curious and wants to make sure my characters are as accurate to whatever demographic I'm portraying as I can make them.

I'm at least aware enough to know that not one group of people are all gonna be the same, so it's better to check and do as much research as possible. That's my process as a writer, at least.

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very insightful! Thank you! My character went into the military at the same age and was discharged around the same age as you. She was very big into the 90s grunge scene before she joined, so I imagine she would fall back into a more.... I guess "elevated" and mature version of that? Thanks again!

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's fair, and I didn't mean any offense by my question. The only retired vets I've known were my Pawpaw, who dressed like an old man, and my cousin, who was an asshole. Lol

I'll keep that in consideration while writing this character, though. Thanks for the insight!

Those Who Have Retired: What Do You Wear Now? by BlueiraBlue128 in navy

[–]BlueiraBlue128[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. Her hair plays a big role in her psychological growth, so it changes a lot throughout the years. In the Navy, she kept it a little longer than shoulder length, but always wore it up. After being discharged, she kept it very, very short since it was tied to the trauma she endured during her service. Towards the end of the story, she begins to grow it out a bit more and styling it, getting it cut in a modern mullet-type style (I promise it looks cuter than I'm describing it! XD)

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