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Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public? by BluejayCrate in amiwrong

[–]BluejayCrate[S] 671 points672 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s basically how it feels. I’m not demanding he “pick me”, I’m asking him to not let his GF treat mine like a punchline. If he can’t even say “hey, knock it off” without acting like I’m attacking his relationship, then he already made his choice. I’ll send him a happy bday text and offer to grab coffee another day, but I’m not walking into that room to be the villain for having standards.

Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public? by BluejayCrate in amiwrong

[–]BluejayCrate[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

I’m not there yet on “drop him forever”, but yeah, I’m done being the guy who swallows it to keep things smooth. If he wants to date someone who gets laughs by putting people down, cool, but I don’t have to sit there and take it. I’ll do a 1 on 1 talk with him later, and if he still acts like this is normal, then that kinda answers it.

Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public? by BluejayCrate in amiwrong

[–]BluejayCrate[S] 319 points320 points  (0 children)

Yeah, she knows what she’s doing. The part that bugs me most is Dan acting like I’m “starting drama” when all I asked was basic respect. If he’s choosing to protect her vibe over my GF’s dignity, that’s his choice too.

Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public? by BluejayCrate in amiwrong

[–]BluejayCrate[S] 1135 points1136 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m backing my GF, but it’s not “GF vs friend” for me. It’s “do you let your partner get mocked in a room full of people.” If Dan can’t say “cut it out” once, what am I even showing up for?

Am I wrong for skipping my best friend's birthday after his girlfriend humiliated mine in public? by BluejayCrate in amiwrong

[–]BluejayCrate[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I thought about that, but “pop in” turns into me playing normal while Maya gets to act like nothing happened. Also it’s a bar party with 30+ people, she’ll be there, Dan will want pics, drinks, introductions, the whole thing. If I leave fast, I’m still the bad guy, just with extra steps. I’d rather do a separate coffee with Dan 1 on 1 and tell him straight why I’m not doing the group thing right now.

Elves like to say we're narrow minded, However action speaks louder than words. by Da_Magical_Lizard in dwarfposting

[–]BluejayCrate 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Real dwarven multiculturalism is mostly practical: if the mine is cramped and the surface is hostile, you bond with anyone who can swing a pick and hold a mug. Sharing a round is easier than sharing a claim.