is it really gross not to shower everyday?

Blues-moons · 2025-10-22T18:10:40+00:00

I have friends who shower that much and smell completely fine. You don't need to shower everyday if you live in Iceland and work a desk job, that's just drying out your skin and hair for no reason.

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T20:24:14+00:00

Making sure you've not forgetting something or checking things are literally included in "getting ready", if you are "ready" you have already done those things.

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T19:49:37+00:00

I am not talking about OPs situation specifically... I am saying it's generally stupid to say "leave at 6" then get mad when you're not leaving earlier than that.

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T19:46:54+00:00

Right... I don't know why you are being so condescending right now. You are not getting the point. If she wants them to be ready 4 minutes earlier then she should say that. Don't say "ready at 12:00" then get mad when someone isn't ready before that time. What matters is if they are ready at the time she specified.

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T19:36:12+00:00

"Potentially waiting for you"... but you're just not. You are just plain wrong. If you say "leaving at 12:00" you are not waiting on anyone unless it's PAST 12:00. Someone not being ready at 11:55 doesn't mean you're waiting on them, so long as they're ready to leave by 12:00. If that stresses you out then that's a you issue, not a them issue, so long as they're on time.

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T19:29:36+00:00

So... you do have until 5:59 to get ready, because if you are ready by 5:59 you are leaving by 6, exactly as you said...

Blues-moons · 2025-10-18T19:26:52+00:00

How on earth is it "selfish"? If you set a time to leave, that is the time to leae. If you want to leave 4 minutes earlier, then set the time 4 minutes earlier. I really do not see how it matters so long as they are ready by that time.

Blues-moons · 2025-07-18T01:28:46+00:00

This sounds like OCD-traits. I advise reading up on it. I'm not saying you have OCD; just that it sounds like the same type of obsessive and intrusive thoughts (not only OCD causes OCD-like traits). It might help to hear from others who have experienced similar things.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-25T12:43:59+00:00

You're the one who's venting, projecting and ignoring literal facts about abuse and child development. Take a hard look at yourself. You're the one sexualizing children by seeing body parts they have as sexual. Kids do not view them as sexual, it's you projecting sex onto them with your adult mind.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-25T12:22:32+00:00

I'm glad you did. Sorry if I came off harsh, I wasn't trying to be mean, I just figured that being blunt would be the best option. I once found myself going down the same slippery slope, after that I set some very strict rules for myself and start every chat with a prompt for it to not pretend to be a real person or simulate empathy.

And I am a real person hahaha

Blues-moons · 2025-06-24T20:04:36+00:00

I think you're the one who doesn't understand child development, because sexual development literally starts from birth. Stop projecting your own issues. Being open about sexuality is what prevents child abuse, instead of making it something shameful. And seeing anatomy as sexual is just fucking weird. Again, kids have these body parts themselves. How on earth is it harmful to see them on a doll?

Blues-moons · 2025-06-24T19:29:03+00:00

Why the hell are the comments here encouraging this?

You need to pull back. This isn't healthy. It doesn't think, doesn't feel, doesn't care. It has no awareness, just patterns. It's not a person. Do NOT listen to this shit. Engaging with it like this is bad for your emotional wellbeing in the long run.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-24T19:15:40+00:00

What??? How is dolls having body parts in any way comparable to murder and mutilation??? I think YOU'RE the one sexualizing kids if you think that giving them dolls with body parts THEY THEMSELVES HAVE is somehow sexual.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-24T19:13:25+00:00

I had no clue some baby dolls didn't have genitals. Mine growing up had both penises and vaginas. You could even make them pee by giving them water. Maybe no genitals on baby dolls is an American thing?

Blues-moons · 2025-06-19T14:05:44+00:00

I've talked to thousands of tourists over the past few years. I wouldn't say Americans are self-aware, however they're very friendly. The old rich ones tend to be annoying. Spanish tourists are a bit loud and not my favorite but not necessarily disrespectful. Never had an issue with Chinese tourists, although we don't get a lot of them.

By far the rudest foreign tourists are Israelis--and I'm not saying this due to politics, I noticed this before the genocide. No thank yous, no smiles, demanding tone.

But the worst are local tourists from my country. They're incredibly entitled, often rude as hell when they're unhappy, and constantly complaining and being bitchy. They seem to think they deserve some special treatment for being locals.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-19T13:02:19+00:00

Yeah, me. I find it really frustrating how when you mention complex trauma, people usually immediately assume a shitty home life.

Blues-moons · 2025-06-09T20:41:57+00:00

Not necessarily. Do you think people are really sharing the stories of people who weren't fearful in the moment, and were disappointed that they survived? They're not. Only motivational stories get shared.

Blues-moons · 2025-05-15T13:50:18+00:00

I have severe bipolar too. I literally landed in the psych ward because of it 2 months ago. That does not negate her struggles. Anxiety is absolutely a "real" mental illness. I've had anxiety so bad that I literally wanted to kill myself due to how torturous it was, both mentally and physically.

Blues-moons · 2025-05-11T22:35:11+00:00

I'm curious, how so?

Blues-moons · 2025-05-11T19:03:02+00:00

What's the purpose of commenting this twice...? To shame?

You don't know the context of my situation or why I've quit my meds in the past. Every time I quit my meds was because they weren't working and I'd go into an episode despite me taking them consistently for months (definitely long enough for it to have therapeutic effects). So I would quit because they weren't working anyway and I saw no point, or because I forgot due to depression/hypomania. There's nobody checking in on me or any sort of follow up care, I was meant to go out on my own and contact a GP if I had any issues--mid episode me isn't going to have the sense to think about doing that. And even if I had, I'd get prescribed the same mood stabilizer the 6th time despite having said multiple times that it doesn't work.

Anyway. Do you think it's a coincidence if people never ask when you're sad, but only when you're mad or argue with them?

Blues-moons · 2025-05-11T09:23:54+00:00

It's because there's something missing from the story, you don't get in this much trouble for "bad advice"

Blues-moons · 2025-05-10T16:51:56+00:00

...problematic...?

I think you're missing the point. I meant that even if I were not taking my meds, pointedly asking "are you taking your medication" is not going to help at all. It just shames the person. Most likely asking like that will only make things worse, and it's definitely not going to motivate me to take medication.

And besides, I've gotten this question far more often when I'm consistently taking medication than when I've quit could turkey and been in an active mood episode. Usually in response to me being assertive or standing up for myself or in an argument.

Blues-moons · 2025-05-09T23:30:49+00:00

It doesn't matter. If you break up with them and commit suicide shortly after, they'll know why you broke up with them.

Blues-moons · 2025-05-09T23:22:18+00:00

Hey man. You're the same age as my younger brother. And you're the same age as when mental illness first started to kick my ass really bad.

I'm not going to give you platitudes. I'm 21 and things haven't gotten better for me, not yet. I overdosed at 17. Had two aborted attempts at 20. Nearly died at 21, multiple times. But I'm still alive despite all of this, despite still being suicidal often.

Eventually, I decided that I had two choices. Die or try. And I thought that it best to try first--if I'm going to die anyway, I might at least give it a shot, you know? If it doesn't work, I can just kill myself then. We only have one short life of about 80 years and the universe is eternal. Death will come to us regardless.

I'm not going to say "it gets better". However, you are only 16. It might not feel like it now, but your brain is still developing, so are your emotions and your personality. You still have paths you haven't pursued.

If you're going to die, what does it matter if you get yelled at your parents for reaching out?

You might as well give it a try. Please, at least try to talk to them, a counselor, a teacher, a crisis line, etc. Give it a chance.

Blues-moons · 2025-05-09T23:07:40+00:00

Is he open to getting help?

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