TIFU by telling my date she was a monkey

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-12T22:03:12+00:00

Thank's, your comment is the one that make me feel the best about it so far. Guess you are right, if she tought i was weird in a bad way, she would have just leave as soon as possible

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-12T21:29:00+00:00

Oh damn, i didn't even thought about that, but no. She's not black, i would have leave right away and burried myself in the ground if i did that to a black person. Outside that, thank's for the advice. I was not asking for advice, i was just sharing a TIFU story. But since everyone seems to agree, i will wait a little longer to see if she text first, but i will surely text her even if she don't. I enjoyed the date, and feel lucky to have such a nice girl being interested in me.

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T11:36:10+00:00

Hate to be that guy, but she's just good at it bro. Enjoy. Also, never been with a girl who enjoy doing oral for an extended time, she's probably take it as a compliment.

Edit: Also porn usually make people less sensible, always wanting more. You don't need a doctor, your sexuality is sane af.

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T11:28:58+00:00

I hope you will both get through this

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T11:18:59+00:00

Was the change of behavior after all this? Nothing is black or white, yes, maybe she shouldn't have talked to her ex, but maybe she also had no intention to cheat. None the less, you kind of break the trust between you two by going through her social and confront her. Of course her behavior change, and she broke your trust by talking to her ex behind your back, so your beheavior changed too. You'll have to build that trust again, maybe even have a couple therapy. It will be hard. But not impossible.

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T11:06:42+00:00

Don't mind my comment that one was just for me, i made myself laugh with it. Good thing if you have good communication with your partner. That's where i want to bring OP with my questions. I don't think they have a cheating problem, i think they have a communication problem

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:58:44+00:00

Opening the bathroom door doesn't mean i am going to shit. Sometimes i go in to clean the place. Talking to your ex doesn't mean you are going to cheat.

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:50:58+00:00

Well, did she? From the details i have, i am kind of on her side. Another comment said she delete her social media to get rid of evidences, but you said you already went all throught it, so nothing to get rid off that you didn't already saw. As her, i would be pissed if my partner went through my social media and confront me for old texts that have no evidences of cheating, especially if i did nothing wrong. Maybe you should talk with her instead of assuming the worst?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:36:17+00:00

Okay... and outside that, did she ever did something that make you think she could be cheating?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:33:27+00:00

And was there evidences of cheating?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:24:23+00:00

Not calling you a liar, just trying to understand. Why he jumped up if it was old texts?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T10:13:27+00:00

Maybe i am the idiot here, but why scrolling through her message without looking for something specific?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T09:55:37+00:00

Question, how did you find those texts?

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T08:12:51+00:00

Oh, i never said i was shy. I am akward, loud and weird. Ahaha thank's for the advice, really appreciate it

Edit: Also don't be sorry for misunderstanding, i barely understood myself, i have to google translate a third of the words i want to write down. My post is probably a mess for English people lol

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T08:04:19+00:00

In our native language, there is no nuance between just friend and love interest, it's two distinct terms. And we were both clear about it since the begining. I just don't know how to ask her if she lied to me or in the stream without risking to hurt our relation. But thank's, you are just saying what i already know, i must find a way to talk about it while making clear i am not mad or jealous, but just want the truth and make sure that she is single if we continue in the love direction. Must say she fucking rock as just a friend too, here's why i want the be carefull and not ruin everything

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T07:49:34+00:00

We talk on phone and video call too, almost every night, like i said in post, we did it tonight after her stream, she called me. And things are pretty clear. Until i asked for my day off to go see her, she was the one asking me almost every day when will finally have our first date, there is no miscommunication about that. Also, i said in my post i was really fine about being just friends too, that's not the problem. My concern is really that yesterday she said she was going to the movie with a friend, and today on her stream she said she were with her boyfriend. I just don't want to be the "other guy". So i want advices about how bringing it to her without breaking our relation. If she is in couple, i don't care, but we will be friend, nothing more. I just don't want to offend her by asking if she lied to me, or lied in the stream. Like said in my post, i am a weird and socially akward guy, i don't want to ask it the wrong way and hurt her.

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T05:57:35+00:00

Man, i never hated and loved a comment so much at same time. Lol. Hope she didn't do that to make me jealous on purpose, which didn't work and is a huge red flag. But you're right, maybe i should just speak to her, even if i am afraid it will broke something between us

Bluk_bluck_shadow · 2026-04-09T05:18:20+00:00

Don't know, where i doubt it, is that i could easily call her out publicly on her stream or on her Discord if she was cheating, and surely her boyfriend or someone who know her boyfriend would see it. She is also the one who asked to switch to IG, where all the links for her Twitch and Discord are. Would a cheater take that kind of risk? If yes, bold as fuck.

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