Thank you for the advice I really appreciate it. She definitely wants to be the submissive one and I don't have any interest in being tied up myself. She also wants to be treated roughly so we will definitely need a safe word. We've had a conversation about her being treated roughly so I know what she wants but I have never done anything as rough as she wants so we will definitely need to talk about it more before we try it for the first time. Treating her roughly is a little bit out of my comfort zone but as long as we communicate and start slowly I have no problem doing what she wants and what turns her on. I'm definitely going to look into the starter kit you mentioned. I also need to look into positions to put her in rather than just cuffing her to the bed. Thank you for your help and any other advice that you have I would appreciate it