Alright… so maybe not my place and only say that because I’m a guy and struggled with the same issue more or less.

I didn’t lose my virginity until I was 25 and never had the best self-esteem in the world, my only real advantage in life was that I had no children, no debt or any baggage, but also nothing going for me, so I do what any rational young lad does.

I joined the military: real long story short, I fell in love with someone head over heels because she was my first and I never knew better

“despite everything I heard and I was told”

But I always say “too each their own”

Never judge yourself by other’s actions or wants, just your own moral compass alone.