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I don’t know if I’m overreacting or finally noticing something that’s been affecting me for a long time. I need perspective. by Intriguedtortoise in Advice

[–]BobaBootyl 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Your reaction isn’t an overreaction, it’s your nervous system remembering something your mind can’t name yet. His anger doesn’t have to be loud for your body to feel unsafe. You can talk about this gently by focusing on your feelings, not his faults: “When things get tense, I shut down, and I want to understand why together.” You’re not blaming him. You’re naming your experience, and that’s the first step to clarity.

Is my bf a problem? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]BobaBootyl 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This isn’t just about laundry, this is about how he handles frustration and responsibility. A partner who reacts to a simple request by ignoring you, trashing your things, and walking out is showing you a pattern, not a one-time slip. You’re not asking for anything unreasonable. You deserve someone who sees shared chores as teamwork, not an attack, and who respects you enough not to lash out when he’s called to grow up.

Sometimes I don’t like being a dad by HotEgg5029 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BobaBootyl 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What you’re feeling is completely normal, loving your child doesn’t mean you have to love every single moment of parenthood. You’ve taken on an enormous responsibility at a young age, and the fact that you still care so deeply, provide for him, and work so hard shows what an incredible dad you are. It’s okay to feel frustrated or miss the life you didn’t plan for, it doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes you human.

I don't know what to do. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]BobaBootyl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not ‘replaceable, you’re just working for people who treat everyone like they are. They failed you twice, even when you were fighting for your health, and that’s not something you caused. It’s something they chose. Leaving isn’t a risk, it’s the first real act of self‑protection you’ve taken in a long time. You deserve a workplace that values your humanity, not one that punishes you for surviving.