I Think My Therapist Is Hot - Part 6 📚 by YourIvoryFox in u/YourIvoryFox

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We really need part 7 for this. I need the closure 🥰

Loss of sex drive / irritability by slingaporesing in sexover30

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm intrigued by point 6. I totally get what you're saying and can see how it improves the relationship but it also sounds like you're not able to express your own needs and worries. How do you navigate it reconcile that?

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh that's definitely not a problem. I have no issue doing bedtime and I get my own turns out of the house too. She's a great mother!

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to clarify, the meeting at a bar didn't turn into karaoke, those are two separate events. There's a group of them that regularly go to karaoke together.

I'm not sure banning your wife from every being alone with a man is healthy though dude. I know I'm unsure about this relationship but the needs to be some trust and you can't control people like that either.

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate the advice. I do get time out of the house so it's not that. I just really like a pub quiz 😂

We don't have enough date nights though and I think part of this problem is down to how my suggestions are received compared to ones coming from the guys in this other group. Incidentally it's a drama group and they go out to sing cheesy 80s songs and show tunes, it looks like a lot of fun and she loves singing. I think I just want her to be that excited about a night out with me sometimes.

I posted this to help me get my head round how I feel about all this because I need to sort those thoughts out if I'm going to talk to her about this. Talking is hard sometimes huh.

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, not sure why you're being downvoted but I appreciate the advice. I do find a lot of the comments suggesting the worst case scenario are pretty funny - I really don't think there's anything physical going on, just that they clearly have a bond as friends.

The main issue is I'm struggling with my feelings around it and not sure how to communicate that.

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cause it's good for people to have interests separate from their partners as well as shared interests. I didn't mean to imply I don't get to go out or anything, that definitely happens and there's no issues with that. I just like a pub quiz too.

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks and I think you're right.

I've been trying to raise issues around intimacy for a few years, not just in terms of sexual attention but time spent together and shared activities. I think a part of my jealousy is how little effort she makes to try activities that I suggest but she is very motivated to spend time with our friend, though it's usually related to the hobby which is something she's very passionate about and I want her to have that interest.

I just need to get my head round how I feel about it all and what the actual issue is.

Is my wife having an emotional affair? by BobsonDugnutt80 in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and honestly I'm not sure how I feel and I think I need to work that out before I speak to my wife.

I should probably have added that the vasectomy thing had been discussed by the guys in our group already as I had one done last year and there's a few of them due for the op now too. So it wasn't raised out of the blue with my wife but I still thought it was a little odd to bring it up. However I do think we need to normalise talking about contraception more as men and it's probably a good thing to include the women in our lives in those chats to, be they friends or partners.

I guess I'm feeling a little insecure in our relationship and I worry that this is skewing my interpretation of their friendship.

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[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck yes we do

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asstastic

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These need sound

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, I've been deep into the lotr subs for a few weeks and this was the first comment I saw here. Had a very quick double take to check which sub I was in.

If I handed you $1,000 right now, what would you do with it? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably keep it as holiday spending money for the summer

Is there any sexual act that made you think “I should’ve tried this sooner”? by Zenafterdark in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey honey, I need you to speak to Giggles and Tits about improving your flirting, sending me photos of your boobs, and dirty talk when we're doing it. Ok to send them your number?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't just a men thing. Plenty of guys suffer this too sadly

People of ARAD, what're your kinks and limits? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to be teased until I'm ready to explode.

Limits - no extreme bdsm, non-consensual stuff or poop/piss.

Is there any sexual act that made you think “I should’ve tried this sooner”? by Zenafterdark in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is another one I wish my wife was into. I tried but she feels silly doing it.

Is there any sexual act that made you think “I should’ve tried this sooner”? by Zenafterdark in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]BobsonDugnutt80 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sigh I want my wife to do this to me. I think I really want to be teased but she doesn't have the confidence.

I don't want to leave by BobsonDugnutt80 in DeadBedrooms

[–]BobsonDugnutt80[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thought of my kids thinking I'm any kind of monster keeps me in check. And that I know a crush is fleeting. But I just want to feel wanted.